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237 Days Chaste

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by migencluz, Aug 10, 2016.

  1. migencluz

    migencluz Fapstronaut

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    Friends,

    I wouldn't necessarily call this a success story. After all, I believe that it is an obligation for us all to respect ourselves in this way. I do however find it an amazing grace from God to remain chaste according to my state of life.

    The million-dollar question at hand now is, "Has quitting pornography or excessive masturbation changed your life?". So here's my answer:
    Yes, it did change me--yet not in the way I expected it to.

    Here are my findings. After 237 days of remaining celibate, my room is still untidy (though organized as it has always been), my office desk is still cluttered, I still have a large demand for improvement in language, I still look physically the same as I did when I first started--in other words, nothing really changed in frequently-mentioned aspects as others noticed. And, by the way, if you plan to do NoFap for such reasons, I recommend that you reevaluate what you want to accomplish.

    However, I have gained three life lessons that I am sure will benefit me throughout my life here on earth and, if with God's mercy, in heaven.
    1. Goals are not to be looked at as destination, but as day-to-day commitments.
    While trying to achieve celibacy, I kept falling back down because I saw the goal as a destination--that if I can stop masturbating and watching porn for two weeks, then I will continue doing so for the rest of my life. That, my friend, was the wrong mindset.
    I learned, and changed my strategy up a bit. Instead, I looked at this goal as a day-to-day commitment. Each day, I told myself, "I will not masturbate, and I will not watch porn," without caring about what happened the day before, or what shall take place the next day--all I cared about was "today."
    2. Suffering is like a pair of glasses to help you see better.
    Celibacy too is a daily sacrifice. It is not always easy. Sometimes, temptation hits very hard, and my hand gets as close as a centimeter away from my genitals. Sometimes, distracting sexual thoughts fly in and out of my head. Sometimes, I dream about masturbating. Yet as a sacrifice, it is a grace that enables me to relate to the suffering of many people, and it is a gift I offer up to God.
    3. Sex and love is not about gaining, but rather the giving up of something for the sake of the other.
    I must say that this is the biggest of the lessons, and I have gained this wisdom after spending time absorbing lesson one and two. Sex is a sacred connection between two lovers--a ceremony celebrating the common desire of giving up everything for the sake of the other, and for the sake of the relationship. And it is through this connection where God can come in and produce a tactile product, which is a beautiful and pure child. It is not merely a means of obtaining physical pleasure. To be honest, the worst thing I think that can happen is when I walk up to heaven to see God face-to-face only to hear Him tell me, "You fool! You vain and selfish fool!"
    With this understanding comes much more: you start treating people as people, and not as sex toys; the relationship as a binding covenant; and the home as a product of love. Relationships grow and flourish. Life becomes more meaningful. Sex becomes more meaningful. Love becomes more meaningful.

    So, to answer the original question of, "Has quitting pornography or excessive masturbation changed your life?", I must say that it has changed me for the better, and in many more ways than I expected.

    By the way, I am no essay writer, and I merely ranted. But I hope I pointed you to a good direction in someway.

    I would be very honored to be part of your journey. Tell me what's up. Ask me questions. Give me advice and feedback. I'll keep you in my prayers while you keep me in yours.

    Yours faithfully in Christ,

    migencluz
     
  2. iHappy

    iHappy Guest

    @migencluz A hour ago I wrote a similar stuff, the only difference is that I am only "207" days behind you. But the thing we want to spread here is that NoFap is great, but it is not the magic cure for your life and it won't fix all your problems. Sure, it will improve your life, but there won't be massive changes like a lot of people think ( I was one of them only 30 days ago ).
    For massive changes, you have to put in massive amount of effort and work. NoFap might give you the push you needed.

    CONGRATULATIONS! It is a success story because you are no longer a slave of addiction. For me that is the biggest benefit of them all.
     
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  3. jayday09

    jayday09 Fapstronaut

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    Totally inspiring dude!
    In Christ all things are possible.

    What you wrote was very profound, to not worry about yesterday or tomorrow. But just focus on today and work through that. Truly awesome.

    Blessings man. Keep your eyes on Christz
     
  4. jayday09

    jayday09 Fapstronaut

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  5. Viv

    Viv Fapstronaut

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    whats important about nofap is it reboots your reward system.. normally you wont put your best efforts if you are not sober as your brain gets that high on just few clicks.. when you are sober, you put in enough time and energy..
     

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