Feeling REALLY lonely

The complete title is "So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love" (http://www.amazon.com/Good-They-Can...F8&qid=1399397754&sr=1-3&keywords=cal+newport)
Two words about its content:

"In this eye-opening account, Cal Newport debunks the long-held belief that "follow your passion" is good advice. Not only is the cliché flawed-preexisting passions are rare and have little to do with how most people end up loving their work-but it can also be dangerous, leading to anxiety and chronic job hopping.
After making his case against passion, Newport sets out on a quest to discover the reality of how people end up loving what they do. Spending time with organic farmers, venture capitalists, screenwriters, freelance computer programmers, and others who admitted to deriving great satisfaction from their work, Newport uncovers the strategies they used and the pitfalls they avoided in developing their compelling careers.
Matching your job to a preexisting passion does not matter, he reveals. Passion comes after you put in the hard work to become excellent at something valuable, not before.
In other words, what you do for a living is much less important than how you do it".

About reading being hard... Well, everything that's valuable is life takes time and effort, whether it's an artistic skill, such as playing a musical instrument or a social skill, such as talking with people.
Perhaps you can customize your counter and set "completing a full book before 30 days" as a goal. Think being at NOFAP as an opportunity, not only to quit FAP, but to change your life for good. It's not going to be easy, and it's going to take time, perhaps years, but believe me, the journey for change is a journey worth taking.

 

Hey Anon!

Thank you for your response.
That is some amazing feedback you have there. Thank you.
I will definitely keep it in mind and work on it!
My passion is art. I live and breath art. I draw most of the time, and if I don't I am busy making games, playing guitar and sing.
I would love to meet some people in the art community and I've tried. Unfortunately IRL art clubs consist of people of 35+ year olds. I've tried to contact many people online, but it's harder then it seems.
I think this advice can really help and I won't give up!

Thank you,

Bowlda

 

Hey buddy,
I'm in the same boat. I've been feeling lonely frequently lately. I know that I repressed this emotion and made it worse by PMO. I feel like Ive really been craving intimacy with someone, something I haven't had in a long time, and I get down on myself for not having a girlfriend. Its really been driving me crazy actually! But, I think Anon is 100% right. You and I need to be solid individuals before we can be solid partners. The confidence we will gain from this will flock the women no doubt. You are not alone buddy, just keep in mind that there is so much more to life than having a girlfriend. Stay Strong Buddy

 

Hey man!

When I was feeling very lonely this week I spent $18 and went indoor rock climbing. I love it and, more importantly, the people climbing were very fun. I left, and I noticed I was in a good mood the next day. The loneliness had gone. It's people not person! A girlfriend doesn't fix loneliness. And, I believe you cannot choose a good girlfriend if you are lonely. A woman won't make you whole. She is not designed to fill that need. If I am lonely, I am needy and women are not attracted to that! They run from it! You have to go out and balance life before you meet her. When you can balance your life without "needing" her, then you will attract her. Otherwise, you are choosing out of need and not desire. Become what you want to attract! Step back, look at what you need, and go out and do it for yourself. Meet your own needs and don't depend on a women to meet them. You don't want a mom! You want a women! You can do it! It's about growing up inside. Hang in there. Take steps and this will pass. Find things you really like to do that involve other people and do them often. When I went rock climbing, I met a guy there. In conversation, he said he had just moved to the area three days ago. He recognized that he needed to be social right away. Do you see how proactive he is? Three days! You can be the same. Take action on your own behalf! Find things you really like to do that involve other people and do them often! Staying "alone" is a prescription for addiction. I can go to the gym every day and still be alone. If people are not social where I go, then I change it or balance it with social people. You can do this man! Do things in a way that is different than you learned. Break the cycle. I can tell you are really intelligent! Make some changes and let us know!

Best to you my fellow struggler!
Plugger

 

Great advice Plugger, we humans need social interaction to be happy. I feel really lonely on weekends that I don't go out with my friends so I go for a run (not a social thing to do but at least it helps clearing the thoughs).

 

You give here some thoughtful remarks. Very important things to consider I would agree.

 

I feel really lonely too! Dono if that helps. I need a girl.

 

This is some seriously good advice right here. Just what I needed to read!

 

Embrace the loneliness when it's present!

or...
Go outside! You're a human. When I'm feeling that real deep loneliness that makes me feel extremely sad and lonely, and depressed, I remind myself that there are other people around. I could hang with family members, friends, or whatever. If you have no friends, go outside and make some. If it's hard, then learn. At least be around other people. Even if you're just standing near people in a park or something.