280+ days, hard mode : how the miracle happened

Hello guys !


First of all, please excuse my bad english, It is not my mother language.


I want to share with you how this miracle happened in my life. I was a huge addict, doing hardcore PMO every day for 10 years, between 13 and 23 years old. Everytime I felt ashamed of it, but I repressed the feeling because it had become my only joy in life, and because I thought a normal guy had to masturbate to be sane. Until one day, I thought : "It has to stop. I ma not an animal, I am a man, and I want true love, not pornography."


So I started to come here, and I had small success. At first I tried to slow my porn consumption. Then I tried to stop for a few days. I managed to stop for 2 months between may and july 2015, but I relapsed hard in august. I had a girlfriend at the time, and we broke up in september. At this time I had big self estim issues, and porn was not helping at all.


I was thinking : "How could I stop this ? I have done it for too long, it's in my DNA, in my skin. Plus, I don't have a girlfriend, and sex is a natural need, so masturbation with porn is the only way for me to satisfy this need."


I was raised catholic and I love Jesus very much. One day, at church, I met a franciscan monk. He was a very happy, very equilibrated man. He introducted me to the brothers of his community, and everybody was peaceful, joyful, simple and helpful to others. Some truly happy men. At the same time, I started to read biography of saints : Padre Pio, Saint Francis of Assisi, St Romuald, St Silouan (absolutly amazing), Sundar Singh...


And one thing was hitting me, again and again : all these men, the saints and the franciscans, they are perfectly happy, stable, equilibrated, beautiful people, that inspire the all world. In an other hand, people who havea lot of sex or PMO are often angry, depressed, pessimistic, cynical, irritable etc...

The conclusion was clear : genital stimulation and ejaculation are not necessary to be happy and equilibrated.


The 1st of november 2015, I decided I would stop PMO for the rest of my life.
But HOW THE HELL could I stop with all these urges, temptations everywhere, while I am so weak ?


Well, here is the miracle solution I found. It is a religous solution, I hope that non-religious people will not get offended by such a message in a public post.

I started to do two things :
1 - I stopped watching girls in the street. Everytime I would see a beautiful girl, I would look elsewhere.
2 - I began to pray the rosary everyday, asking to Saint Mary "Please, please, help me to get chastity." Every time I had a urge, I would ask to Saint Mary "Holy Mother, give me chastity, please, protect me and lead me to the joy of chastity". And EVERY TIME it worked.

It doesn't matter if you fail again. Just pray everyday Mary to free you from PMO. Even if you just PMO'ed, pray anyway, don't feel ashamed, just ask to God or to Mary "Please, please, free me from these chains ! You see how miserable I am, and you see how hard I want to stop !" I can assure you that it will work, 100% !

And that's for the "miracle" part : I have almost no urges, I have absolutely no will to watch porn again or to masturbate, or even to edge !! I just don't think about it at all. And everytime thoughts of sex or lust get to appear in my mind, I turn to Mary, and I say "Please, Saint Mother, you know how bad I want to be peaceful and joyful, help me to stay chaste !" And very fast it disappears. Really, prayer is amazing. When you pray, you are helped by incredible forces that only will your good and your true benefit. I feel I am not an animal anymore, but a man. I am incredibly relieved, I can talk with everybody without feeling guilt, anger. I don't want to run out of the conversations anymore. I meet beautiful people in my life, I am very optimistic for my future, it's like all the doors are opened for me ! Really it is amazing. I talked to my friend about it, and I know that a few of them are slowing down porn now, and will to stop completly !

I wish every man could stop this horrible habbit that enslaves us !! I find so much more in my life now, so much more... Its a miracle ! And I know I will never do PMO again in my life, that's for sure.

Goodbye guys, and if you want me to pray for you, tell me ! I will do it with pleasure !

God bless you all

 

Thanks iHappy !!

Well in september I will do a trial at the monastery to see if I want to become a franciscan ! If I do so, I will do a "chastity will" and stay abstinent for my whole life ! That's a huge decision, but now I see it is something incredibly beautiful. Otherwise I will seek for a lovely woman, my future spouse, and build a family !

My goal is to be chaste for the rest of my life, in my mind and heart. For me, chaste doesn't mean abstinent. I think sex can be chaste, if it is done for its right purpose : give yourself to the one you love and you chosed for eternity, fully, body and mind. If I meet a girl someday, I would want to wait until we are married to have sex. My goal is also to put sex in my life just at the place it deserves : a small part of a relationship made to express and live our desire for love, to give life, and not a goal to persue for itself, or a pseudo-essential thing to be happy !

I hope my english is not too awful Good luck in your seek for the beautiful joy of chastity, I pray for you bro !

 

Thanks alot guys !

Exactly, and they are telling us a very dangerous and insidious lie, because SEX IS NOT NECESSARY TO BE HAPPY, NORMAL AND HEALTHY . Sex is a beautiful thing, very important to discover love with the one you love. But it is absolutly not necessary to be happy. I am now experiencing it directly, and I see everyday many people who are 100% abstinent and who are the happiest people I've ever seen.

On the contrary, I see everyday people with girlfriend, married couples, etc... Who are so unhappy. Isn't it the proof that sex is not even an important criteria to be happy in life ?
I think only one criteria is important : LOVE. And my experience is that true love can be found only if you pray everyday to find it. The greatest woman in the world cannot give you an inch of consistent love if you are not opened to it. In constrast, people like Saint Francis of Assisi or Saint Silouane, absolutly alone in their small, emply room, experienced the greatest joy, pleasure, satisfaction and happiness ! How is it possible ? I think and experience that God (not a man in the sky, but the unspeakable source of Truth and Life) is the only one who can give the infinite amount of love we need in order to feel REALLY satisfied. And for me, sex is only a way, for two people dedicated one another, to search for love under the eyes of God.

I will surely pray for you guys ! And I PROMISE to you that if you pray the Virgin Mary everytime you are tempted, or at least once in a while, to ask for help, you will recieve something you won't regret. Just try it guys, it is the miracle solution, really !

Pax et bonum !

 

Thank you very much ! Oui tout à fait, je suis français ! -> [Yes, absolutly, I am french !]