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Shower masturbation

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Ekhangel, Jun 15, 2016.

  1. Ekhangel

    Ekhangel Fapstronaut

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    So, the thing is: I have got to the point where I have lost COMPLETE interest (not a single thought ever even passing my mind) in masturbating or stimulating myself in any other circumstances than the (usually morning) shower. And it's been going for over a year now. Seriously.

    My problem specifically is that I am highly stimulated by hot water. I would often cool my crotch down on purpose, only to hit it with hot water suddenly, giving a sensation dangerously close to an actual intercourse (don't try this at home). That said, cold showers aren't a good option for me.

    Does anyone have any experience with this particular problem? This bullshit is my last obstacle towards perfect chastity. Pornography I have long forgotten - unless we count the occasional shower fantasies as porn.
     
  2. Why are cold showers not a good option for you? Am I reading this right? Hot showers turn you on, but you think cold showers aren't a good idea for you?!
     
  3. Ekhangel

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    Simply because cold showers provoke me way too much to "finish off" with hot water, since the pleasure is all the greater after you cool all your body down. I'm much better with lukewarm water, yes.
     
  4. Ok it seems something psychological is going on with the water temperature in the shower.

    Some more discussion and we can get to the bottom of it.

    Your mind is associating masturbation with taking a shower, that is more than obvious. Now if we get to the roots of what exactly is going on here, we can eliminate this last impediment to you maintaining chastity.

    I'll leave it to someone else to ask another question or give some advice.
     
  5. Ahddub

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    I guess the fact of the madder is. How bad do you want it? It seems you are not at 100% or you wouldent be doing it. You would step in and step out of the shower. Forming new pathways in your mind to the shower
     
  6. Tj720

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    I would try a few things:
    set a notch on your temp control to where lukewarm is, so you aren't tempted
    turn on music or a timer and only let yourself shower 3 minutes. that should be enough time to wash yourself thoroughly without having enough time to masturbate.
    always shower wearing a swimsuit. it's extreme, but if you want this bad enough extreme won't bother you.
     
  7. Ekhangel

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    Guys,

    Sorry for just dropping this topic like that. I thought I'd rather just get to action.

    Yeah, just like everyone else in here is not at 100% - otherwise they all would just not masturbate. The bottom line is: you HAVE to wash your gems at the shower, and this generally involves pouring water on it. And yes, you could do some workarounds, like abstaining from directing the stream on the crotch itself, but this is kind of undesirable hygiene-wise. I mean, I want to make sure I am clean. And so once you feel the water on your crotch, it's just near impossible to move the water stream away immediately. The feeling is usually great - although only in the mornings, where I am normally more horny than in the evening, which I guess is typical for any male - and also it makes me naively think that it doesn't really count as masturbation, since you're not even technically touching yourself. But from this point it's already pretty easy to slip down into hot-cold water alternating games, with BJ-related sexual fantasies involved.

    I am currently at about 60 days of abstinence, and am feeling like I'm going down the slope again, with my water stimulation urges intensifying every day, finding it not easy to control at all. I know I need to get my shit together, or else some bitter morning will turn into another defeat. I am also at the point of constantly feeling like a horny bull each time I am around beautiful women. This sensation is nothing new to me, as I have been there already with my previous 100-day streaks, but it just never gets any easier, and no rational reasoning can change it. It's just something you need to get through, with a firm belief that it will eventually get better.

    AD. 1: The notch thing is a rather bad idea, given that I like changing water temperature for reasons quite unrelated to masturbation (like: I love cold water right after workout).

    AD. 2: The relaxing morning shower is one of those things that get me off bed at 7 AM every day (despite working from home and not really needing to get up this early), so I believe a 3-minute shower would be kind of unrealistic...

    AD. 3: Man, no. This is not extreme. This is madness.
     
  8. Try a bucket bath, or start taking real baths instead of showers.
     
  9. Ekhangel

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    I only have a shower cabin available.

    Anyway, I guess all that remains is just mastering myself spiritually. In the end it's us who make the choice, not the effin bathing technique.

    In creating this thread I was mostly curious if someone is/has also been struggling with this particular issue. But I guess I'm alone with this one (water stimulation), which is rather surprising, given how intense a sensation it is to me.
     

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