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HOCD or Bisexual?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Help Me, Aug 27, 2016.

  1. Help Me

    Help Me Guest

    Okay, so I have been getting really weird and gay thoughts and desires. I keep on having to reassure myself I'm not bisexual. I don't get aroused by these thoughts and think these thoughts and desires are very weird. I have been attracted to the opposite sex for my whole 14 year life. I would love to start a relationship with a woman and have children with her. I can tell whether a person of the same sex is good looking or not, so does this mean anything? I am going through puberty FYI. Is it hormones? Am I bisexual? Are these thoughts porn induced?

    Please answer :(

    PS: I get aroused by women very easily but not by men.
     
  2. diddykong

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    It's not uncommon for teenagers to have crises during puberty where they get confusion about sexual identity. If you're prone to OCD then the anxiety that causes can lead to obsessions and sometimes compulsions (doing rituals to try and alleviate the anxiety). The most important thing to remember is that OCD is driven by anxiety.

    I'd advise getting away from porn - it never helps and in this case could well be worsening things. PMO causes guilt and shame and these are the emotions that OCD loves to feed on (because they cause anxiety).
     
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  3. Help Me

    Help Me Guest

    Thanks, so from what I provided you with, would you say I am bisexual?
     
  4. Help Me

    Help Me Guest

    Please answer me guys :( I need some clarification
     
  5. iceman40

    iceman40 Fapstronaut

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    I hear you and I agree with you. I am attracted to females and I desired on time. From time to time I see an attractive man. I tell myself this guy is good looking and I find it very sexy. And there's nothing wrong with giving a man a complement on his looks. Women do that to each other all the time.

    Far as having sex with this guy, I don't have strong tendencies of being sexual with an attractive guy. If a small thought crosses my head or my mind I let it go. It's not an issue. so what you're feeling is totally normal and acceptable. Even if you experiment with things down the line it's all good because you have to try something that you really desire to find out if you like it or not.

    Most times religion plays a big role on conforming us into a little box. I've never seen any person who was square I've only seen different shapes and sizes are made of flesh and blood. So don't be so hard on yourself and enjoy life and all that it has to offer.
     
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  6. Help Me

    Help Me Guest

    Thank you! I now know that what I experience is normal. But do you think these thoughts will go away after puberty?
     
  7. DrRobotronic

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    I can't say for sure whether you'll have those thoughts after puberty or not, but I can say as you get older you tend to have a stronger and clearer idea of your sexuality.

    My best advice would be to avoid porn, as that can influence and shape your sexuality, not just what you're into, but who as well.

    I'm bisexual, mostly attracted to girls but at least a part of me is attracted to men (though I've yet to have the confidence to act on it), but because I was watching straight porn only, I was overpowering my brain and shaping it to only be attracted to women, and not even real women. I find the more time away from porn the clearer your mind is, but you'll have to be patient as going through puberty means your body and mind will be going through it's own changes as well.

    I know this isn't a perfect answer, but only you will be able to know your true sexuality, no one else can tell you that for you, and certainly not porn. Hope this helps!
     
  8. RogerThat

    RogerThat Guest

    Your profile says you're 26 yrs old and you're just now going through puberty? I would say you have bigger problems than your attractions.
     
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