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An opinion on this? Pls :(

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, May 15, 2016.

  1. I guess I'll just have to wait and see how things unfold. I'll of course stick to my goal of no pmo ever in my life and for the time being just making out and cuddling. I realize now it's of no use to focus on sex, it just makes my problem worse.
    I just hope the girl I'm talking to will remain understanding until I'm healed.
     
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  2. Guys, the unthinkable has happened, I met up with the girl I've known since Nov and had sex. Not only that, but I O'd twice :|, first time after 5 seconds of being inside lol, and the second time after a few good minutes (I could feel when I was about to O, and slow it down, sort of like edging). I don't know what to make of this, on one hand I'm glad I could perform, but on the other I wonder if this has done anything to my recovery.
     
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  3. rave756

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    Awesome! Those first few times must have been frustrating. Was this a first time for you? It seems like you need someone equally inexperienced who's willing to figure things out, or someone really patient. Sounds like you did the right thing by continuing to try after the failed attempts.

    This might not only be related to fapping, but anxiousness with someone new. Happened to me with my first girl, and when i was older with some potential one-night stands after getting out of a long-term relationship.

    Forget the PMO, sally forth and make it with the real life girl!
     
  4. Well, it seems I'm not cured just yet. Last saturday I was in bed with the same girl I had sex before and I couldn't get hard enough. And now I feel like I'm into a flatline. I hope it's not going to last long.
     
  5. rave756

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    Sorry to hear that. Don't despair, and keep at it if she is willing and understanding. If this does happen, use this as an opportunity to focus on her needs. You can reassure her that you are enjoying the time in bed with her even if intercourse or O doesn't happen for you. Maybe suggest that it will get better as you do this more frequently (which could help you out anyway ;) ) Good luck
     
  6. Oh God pls help. I PMO'd 3 times today, the first time in like, 4 months. I knew this was going to happen eventually because I haven't seen the girl I usually go out with for almost 2 months now, and since I cured my PIED with her I got cocky and started watching porn again. I did that because the last time i was with her, I watched porn for 3 days before but didn't M and still had no problem getting hard with her. That boosted my confidence and made me think I'm invulnerable to P. Fucking bullshit. Now I feel like I'm slowly getting back to old habits. Oh god, I thought i was strong but I'm not. What really kept me away from P was having a regular partner.
    Wish me luck brothers, I've yet to see the end of this battle.
     
  7. rave756

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    Sorry to hear that. You binged (the 3 times), fine, put it behind you, and focus on your new goal - aim for a shorter timeframe if that helps you (7 days - 30 days) Was the binge worth it? Is it going to help you when you see this girl again, or help you meet a new girl? Remember the good feelings when you had solved PIED
     
  8. Brothers I need help. From september last year I'm PMO'ing at least once every two days and at most 3 times a day. I do this because the motivation I had the first time is gone, the reason being I can get an erection and have sex if the girl plays with my D for a few minutes. Furthermore I can get an erection when I kiss her, however the sensation only lasts 2 or three minutes. I think it's because at the beginning it's a novelty and the brain reacts accordingly, but then it subsides as the brain gets bored and accustomed. When I penetrate her the erection lasts for as long as I want as long as there is stimulation involved, but when I spend to much time outside her, switching positions, it goes limp.
    Not being able to have sex was by far my biggest motivation the first time I tried nofap, but since I see I can do it, I don't have the same motivation and I keep getting triggered even by a picture of an attractive clothed woman. I always think about how awesome my D felt when I tried nofap for 2 months, and how sex was more intense and I could actually feel something during a bj, but I keep relapsing and its fucking frustrating.
    Please, help me.
     
  9. rave756

    rave756 Fapstronaut

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    It's just willpower. The physical symptoms that you describe may very well be death-grip or just the psychological aspects of being addicted to PMO. Your call if you need to do NoFap hard mode (no sex) for a few months, or can continue trying while cutting backon the PMO.
    Can you set a goal to reduce the PMO, or get a few more days at a time abstaining?
     
  10. Apothecarist

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    you didn't take into consideration that some words of your thread are really inappropirate to be written on NOFAP !!
     
  11. LucidBMX

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    Listen to shugi shugi. Go hardmode is my advice.
     

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