i gotta leave nofap

I went 80 days three years ago, which I've yet to beat...and it was all from a tidbit of inspiration from yourbrainonporn + my own self-imposed dicipline. Some of us don't need it, but I can understand how those who work office jobs and spent a lot of time on the computer may. The details sometimes ruin it. The only rule should be not to masturbate, and understanding the warning signs and temptations that may provoke you.

 

You don't need this website to succeed, just plant the seeds of motivation and try it without.

 

Good luck on your own, kid. We'll still be here to help you out when you're ready to man up and stop playing with yourself...

 

You do what's best for you. Best wishes to you on your journey and continue to reap the benefits of no porn.

 

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Dude, I think you're gonna be alright. P is DEFINITELY the problem/ NOX7 is right, you don't need this website to succeed.

 

Trying to forget (porn) what nature has wired into your existence is futile. This website became a trigger because you somehow created it, it's undeniably your fault. You'll be back when you realized that this community was the motivation that kept you from PMOing. Your insecurities lay in trying to forget something (porn) that is a huge industry in the world. PSubs are a huge marketing trick that works on both male and female alike when they aren't conscious of the deception (attractive cover girls/guys). Announcing your departure to the forums also shows your uncertainty to leave because you're indirectly seeking our opinions about it, or you're just a narcissist. See you in a few.

 

you nailed a few things on the head. I respect your bluntness. but cut dude some slack. he's 14, at least he's trying. I wish I had started quiting this addiction around that age. iggy, I see your posts here all the time. It seems like you're a perfectionist, and maybe a bit ocd. that's something you gotta work out and use to your advantage. just remember that success has ups and downs. don't let the highs get you too high, and don't let the lows get you too low. stay even.

 

Good decision Iggy, no ill person wants to stay at the hospital forever. If you need another prescription from Doc Nofap drop by! It´s a very mature decision of you to not overdose on the medication, many people waste many hours here, hours they could use to create and achieve something for their life. Forget nofap com and become a wholesome healthy, and mentally strong person.

I have come to the exactlly same conclusion as you, Nofap com can be a P trigger, it helps us, but at the same time it tells us we are addicted. If people stay on nofap com their whole lives they may stay addicted their whole lifes, because they give attention and energy to the porn problem and giving attention to a problem makes it bigger. Either spend energy on the solution (which is not possible as porn needs to fade out and reboot over time) the best thing to do is to ignore porn and all thoughts related to it.

Everywhere and anywhere in life: May it be problems with you life, body, acne pimples, not being pretty or whatever, if you can´t change it, punish it with ignoring it. Don´t waste time and think about negative stuff and problems, don´t make them big, live life without regrets , not on nofapcom

 

I understand this, and I was thinking the same.
However, always when I left NoFap, then it always became worse.

I recommend to write a journal and setting up clear goals. The way out is a journey. It's up and down. Two steps forward, one step backward, all the time.

 

I understand your point and you may (or may not) be right. But not everyone wants to center life around nofapcom. Some just want to try to get rid of it on the way, like stopping smoking for example.

 

No, you don't understand my point, lol. You're being soft, that's what it is. The truth is often harsher than people want it to be. And that's why they're still facing their problems, because they refuse to accept the reality of them. However, the first stage of conflict resolution calls for said conflicted person to accept the conflict before improving the situation. As robotic and insensitive as my response was, it was an attempt to tell the OP that his methods to "forget porn" is not going to work.

The first reason is because as the male, he is the procreator, therefore, his body has the tools necessary to reproduce and enable the survival of the species. You can't dismiss that, it's factual. That's why it's so difficult to keep your mind out of the gutter. Sometimes even if you consciously attempt to isolate those thoughts, your biological purpose will override it. That's why people here have triggers that they have to avoid or alter routines from. It's a conscious effort to disobey nature.

The second point is about leaving this forums because he thinks that NoFap is a trigger that he needs to avoid. I applaud his analysis on this summary, but this forums contains several good resources and successful Fapstronauts who can aid him in his journey. Actively posting on topics of this forums shows that people want to grow out of their addictions or at least obtain knowledge about PMO. Because of the nature of the subject, it's still considered a very personal topic to disclose to anyone, including your close friends and family. It's much easier to remain anonymous with people pursuing the same/similar goals as you are and that's the type of community here at NoFap. You have to appreciate that there is a community who is experiencing the same if not similar problems as you are facing because it's comforting. It's motivational to be around like-minded people who want to find answers and find solutions to their problems.

My last point covers his uncertainty of leaving the forums. He will be back because he is not sure if leaving is a good idea or not and is sharing it with the NoFap community. People who are ready to leave are the ones who set their goals, and followed them no matter what. These people have already posted their successes in Successful Stories. Regardless of how many times you reset or relapse, you can't give up or your problems will remain. No matter how long it takes or how brutal it is, you need to push through. That's how I beat my previous record of two weeks, I'm now going on three.

It's tough now because I'm doing something right and my libido is starting to kick in without my consent. My mind just sometimes wanders to women who I think are suitable to enable the survival of the species. I probably shouldn't look but... to me this is progress! But I am proud of my growth because it took 3 weeks to start seeing the results that I came here for.

You choose. You can take the blue pill and wake up believing anything you want. Or, you can take the red pill, and I will show you how deep the rabbit hole is. -Morpheus

I read about the red pill vs the blue pill, and I don't exactly agree with polar opposite biases, but the red pill does open your eyes up a bit. Unfortunately, the red pill is symbolic to becoming an insensitive robot, and the blue pill is symbolic to the hypersensitive human. You can't just have one, but a balance of the two (if you are human). But, most people have been fed the blue pill all their life and are unaware of the existence of the red pill, because they need to break out of the dream that the blue pill already projects to them. It's an interesting topic to check out if you're ready to hear some interesting theories.

All the best.

 

You are right and I get your point(s).

Red pill in general, or red pill as in reddit?

Still, your thoughts are based on your own experiences and circumstances, other ways may work for others. People have to got their own way, holding them back from what they want isn´t good.
Look at that boy, his longest streak is 114 days. If he can´t handle it on his own, most can´t.

It´s a good thing, leaving behind the negative past. But hey, no hard feelings, I see your approach is different.

 

The red pill in general, there is no mention of Reddit in my post. Not sure if his longest streak is by "Hardmode" standards or his own methods, but day count is usually subjective to the person generating it. I don't see a point for including "no hard feelings" in your last sentence because usually, someone says that when they are trying to comfort someone. And, I don't need comforting, lol. But thanks, I guess.

 

In my experience, I started to fight PMO addiction a little over a year ago. I made it about 4 months before I slipped back into old habits, and started to seek help outside myself. I found Nofap (under circumstances that were nothing short of miraculous), completed a reboot, and left the site about a month after a successful reboot on monk mode. I went almost six months without relapse or reset. I slipped in July, and the binge and addiction was worse than its ever been in my life. I know what worked for me the first time, and I trust it will work again.

I also have experience with other addictions, and have found a 12-step program to be extremely helpful and I now attend meetings to deal with my porn addiction in addition to substance-abuse meetings. The nature of addiction is that it's progressive, which means it will always continue to get worse. Its a disease, not a lack of morality or character, so don't beat yourself up over your shortcomings and failures. I must remember that if I go back to my old habits, they will have grown as if I'd never stopped. Another lesson I've learned is the nature of recovery. I cherish it as if it were the greatest gift I've ever received, as if my life depends on it (which essentially it does). And the way I get to keep this gift is by giving it away, which is why I stay on Nofap even if I don't feel particularly addicted today. I can stay feeling good by telling others how I'm doing it. Hope this helps. Even if it doesn't, it helps me to talk about it.

God bless, peace & love