First time not trying alone...

Welcome. Nice to meet you as well. I wish you luck in your journey. We're here for you.

 

I know it might be difficult, but maybe you should just take a leap of faith and try to reach out to someone in your life. Perhaps you should sit your girlfriend down and put everything out on the table. You might be surprised by her reaction. If it turns out she reacts poorly, if she judges you and fails to offer you compassion, then you may want to reconsider if this is the person you wish to spend your life with. Your addiction is a part of you, whether you want it to be or not. I don't know about you, but I need the woman I love to accept me for who I am. I need to know that I can bare my soul to her and that at the end of the day she will still love me. I could never hide something like this from my significant other, for I feel I would be living a lie. It would be too heavy a burden for me to bear. But that's just me. You need to do what is right for you.

 

Greetings King You say you have a full time job and you are also a full time student. Quitting porn and masturbation will eventually give you more energy to do those things which are stressful. Just hopefully you have a healthy outlet for all of that stress because stopping P&M will be more stressful before it gets better. Quitting games could actually help too but give yourself something enjoyable to do maybe watch a movie or a favourite TV episode everyday for boredom and enjoyment. Good luck, hope everything goes well for you.

 

Welcome.
We should get rid of every kinds of addictions. For me, NoFap is getting free of not just pmo but the concept of being addicted.

 

One thing that may help is identifying what triggers you to porn use. So you mentioned the stress of your job and being a full time student. You may also want to try substituting constructive habits from old destructive ones. I'm trying that approach of knowing what my triggers are and then being aware of them. Then substituting a bad habit (wasting time browsing on internet) with a good habit (cleaning the house, looking for work, school, etc.). Also what can help you is carrying a journal wherever you go and writing everything that comes to your mind, so that you can read how you feel later and question it. Hope that helps.

 

Hey man, I completely understand your hesitancy. Spilling the beans to your girl is not going to be easy. It may just end up being one of the most difficult things you've ever had to do. I feel for you. But I believe you will be glad you did once it's over--whatever the outcome. "Testing the waters" isn't a bad idea. It definitely couldn't hurt. It may give you a better idea of how to broach the topic with her.

 

I absolutely love this. I'm going to begin doing this myself. Thank you so much.

 

No problem. If I receive help then, I need to help others as well.