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Force Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone, You'll Thank Yourself Later

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by volt2187, Oct 5, 2016.

  1. volt2187

    volt2187 Guest

    You hear it all the time, get out of your comfort zone if you want to improve or change anything in your life. But how many of us do it? I for one will admit I was stubborn for years because of internal fears I would create for myself. With pmo it's the ultimate comfort zone, you get to see hundreds of girls naked just for you with no effort and your body receives the sexual fulfillment and dopamine hit through doing it, making it easy to go back to it time and time again. All I used to care about after a long day at work or school was to spends hours on end on the computer engaging in pmo because it was my comfort zone I created for myself.

    After going on many streaks without pmo part of my life anymore I've been faced with the reality that I have to force myself to make positive changes if I really want to live a fulfilling life. And that began with forcing myself to do things that I would create those inner fears about. Yes it's scary and can be mentally taxing because it's different for you but for me there is no greater feeling than knowing I got over some stupid fear and fucking went out there and not only challenged myself but made major strides in improving my life.

    Throughout all of my journey here in eliminating pmo from my life, the best thing I've done for myself is to say screw it and kick down the walls of my comfort zone. It's opened my eyes to the world that is out there and has given me a reality check that I was never that bad off, I just created a life of misery for myself because I never pushed myself to grow as a man, I just stayed stuck in limbo doing things that made me feel good (pmo, video games, over eating etc). By not challenging myself I never grew and made connections with others which is what made life difficult for me.

    I know it can be scary and your brain will try to tell you to not do it, but eventually you will thank yourself later when you force yourself to do what you've avoided most of your life. Don't settle for mediocre anymore, pursue what you have passion for and don't let something as stupid as masturbating to porn rule your life any longer.

    As a former overweight, forever alone, video game and porn addict, college drop out still living with his parents guy, I can tell you with 100% confidence you can change anything going on in your life, even when it seems impossible to you. You just have to start by saying fuck you to your comfort zone.
     
  2. GeoffUK

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    Just logged in and happened to see this. Spot on; getting out of your comfort zone is the only way that we can grow. And if things don't work out, being OK with that is the other way.
     
  3. LuckyMan

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    I need to learn this too. I think sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves to make huge changes all at once and then get overwhelmed. I find it helps to just do one little thing, set one small goal, and then if you crush it, set another, and so on until you hit your big goal. Small bites at a time works.
     
  4. right now I am stressed, so I would usually get in my comfort zone. this time I chose to get on NoFap, a positive environment. and it's uncomfortable. cant go back to my old habit! I am doing in!
    here is a treasure for you. Geoffuk

     
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  5. how do you eat an elephant? one bit at a time! :D
     
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  6. volt2187

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    This is absolutely true, and sometimes why people give up or don't want to get out of their comfort zone in the first place, because they overwhelm themselves and panic and anxiety sets in. There's a reason why you always hear about taking baby steps. Perfect example for us guys who struggle with girls, set yourself a goal to just smile at 5 girls for a few days. Next time, up it to saying hi to them. From there try compliments and small talk. Eventually you can work yourself up to having conversations with them and asking them out on dates. Don't just jump into the deep end from the get go, start with where you are at, experience level wise, and go from there. Don't start where you want to be.
     
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  7. Denzel889

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    Suffer the pain of discipline or suffer the pain of regret I say to me everyday when I wake up and also during the day and also the first kind of pain actually isnt pain it is just fake pain, but in reality is the way of living, just like for example quitting pmo and then having bad feelings for craving it... When anyone of you wants to do pmo ask yourself if is it worth it... Is it really worth it that I spend the next moments of my/your life doing this annoying habbit or say f*ck no, I am not doing it... Suffer now and love the rest of your lives as champions. Now we have the chance to change something and to convert into better persons... This f*cking pmo only leads to regret, shame, incapability, impotence,... Only negative things... That's why we have to start it now, and there must be no excuses, no relapses, because life doesnt know free time, you live as long as you are alive, so excuses like I am going to do it just one more time are bullsh*t and lead only to bigger problems... But I am optimistic and I know we can do it, so stay strong and don't give up... #WeWillWin
     
  8. volt2187

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    Very well said @Denzel889. For me there is no greater emotional pain than the pain of regret because of excuses I made up for myself. I've missed out on many opportunities in my life because pmo clouded my judgement and I was too anxious and depressed to take advantage of those opportunities, only to regret them years down the road.

    Live in the moment, don't think about the future you or how you're going to stop pmoing in a day or two. Do it right fucking now.
     
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  9. avsacandoit

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    Guys,can anyone like this comment?I just need one more like so that i can put my signature.Thanks!
     
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  10. nidoo

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    I am really happy that i found nofap..here i have met alots of young people who are going through the same troubles that im..
     
  11. nidoo

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    Life is all about setting goals and achieving then,challenges are what make life intresting and fun..they tell you alot about where you stand as a person.they might taste bitter at first but actually they are the thingz that make life spicy
     
  12. nidoo

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    Life is all about setting goals and achieving then,challenges are what make life intresting and fun..they tell you alot about where you stand as a person.they might taste bitter at first but actually they are the thingz that make life spicy
     
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    Life is all about setting goals and achieving then,challenges are what make life intresting and fun..they tell you alot about where you stand as a person.they might taste bitter at first but actually they are the thingz that make life spicy
     
  14. Denzel889

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    I say to me everyday several times: Pain is temporar, Glory Is Eternal...
     
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    I think that all the things we worry when we are doing pmo, like how we are gonna talk to girls, how we are going to invite them to a date,... will disappear eventually with quitting pmo, beacuse we will become true, natural human beings and we won't be asking ourselves such ridicilous and stupid things.
     
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  16. volt2187

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    Absolutely. Before recently I'd put them on the typical pedestal so I'd always feel intimidated by them and weird about asking. Now as you say, it comes across as natural because I'm confident in myself and where I'm going in life. I don't take rejections personally anymore either which is the biggest change I've made.

    Example, I asked a girl who I talked to in a few of my classes out during the summer because we hit it off, but she cancelled on me without giving a reason. In hindsight this was a great thing, because it turns out she has completely opposite interests to mine (which I didn't discover until recently). It would have been like oil and water. Yeah I would have got another dating experience down but it would have been a waste of my time and money. The old me who was desperate for dates would have wallowed in self-pity but now I'm like, "next!".
     
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    Don't give up what you want most for what you want now
     

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