90 days is a myth?!

my experince till now was..no Porn is good...bud every few days I should play about 1 Minute or so with my cock, without looking porn but maybe think to a gir I want no know or a girl from the past.
ONLY ONE MINUTE or so..only to jerk it a till its hard..play this minute and then stop ist.
Then in night and morning I allways stiff
Otherwise my libo goes to zero,,
When I got a morning stiffy its enoug to cuddle a little bit with the pillow to let the libido allive.
No jerking is needed anymore with this I can now dream from gilrs and can have the nice feelings If I am together with a girl..otherwise I have no interesst.
Sorry for the bad english

 

I'm not sure if corado's advice is the best way to go (my opinion) since this site is about rebooting completely, which includes abstaining from porn, fapping, and orgasming in general for at least 90 days. Congrats for getting this far, and I believe that the rebooting process is very different for many people. 90 days is simply an average statistic thrown out there to give you something to work for. So keep pushing forward, remember that this is a life change, not just abstaining from sexual things.

 

If you have read all the info out there, it may be 2 weeks for some and 2 years or more for others to completely heal. I say take it one day at a time but the important thing is to never go back to porn or thought of it and eventually you will find a normal balance to your libido and be aroused in a normal way.

 

Hi coral that reply could be triggering to some I'm trying to be constructive. LetsGetBigGODDAMMIT I'm assuming you under 30, from what you were saying it took 11 years to get where you are today with your addiction. You need to keep going forward ! It is hard because your addict doesn't want to stop. I'm an addict my self I've been perfecting being alone for over 50 years. Don't be like me I'm so F'd up it consumed me. I did the math over 4 1/2 years of my life spent in front of magazines, and online I front of a computer. Gone thru one marriage.
DON'T BE LIKE ME ! It's not fun. Look at the definition of addiction -

"Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (e.g., gambling, sex, shopping) that can be pleasurable but the continued use/act of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life responsibilities, such as work, ..."

Please keep try as hard as you can. I do recommend trying to find a 12 step group in your area. I am so grateful to have found SA sexahalic anonymous in my area it has helped me so very much. I wish I started my recovery much much earlier, I have admiration for you.

 

Hey dude i just figured I'd give you a little perspective from my side of things to help you out. First your understanding that it is healing that we are doing here is going to put you so far ahead of most people on NoFAP. So many believe they are here to stop a porn addiction; however in reality they are here to try and become a different and better person. Porn is just a symptom of their life, not the underlying cause. SO bravo for that.
But that is truly only the beginning. Healing is not an easy thing. It's not pretty and overall it is mostly working through pain. Most here in one form or another have alot of pain and alot of things we are trying to work through from childhood or whatever. Your literally changing into another person and just like Victor said it took you years and years to get where your at so it is going to take time and persistence to get out. Now the good thing is your young and the mind and body have incredible capabilities to heal itself.
I currently am just a little past day 80.. I have been on NoFAP for 2 years and I'm in my mid 20's. I have failed many times, but each time i keep coming back and doing it and each time i'm getting better and better. That is the key, persistence. I actually have been having a hard time the last week. And the craziest part of this whole thing is that this is more of journey of the soul than anything. I keep hitting revelations about myself, my pain, my addictions and habits that leave me in wonder.. daily. That is because i am not longer knocked out and numb by porn and booze. But i gotta tell you buddy, you have to be seriously willing to look at yourself in the mirror and face your shadow, face your demons. Because that is where this thing is gonna take you, make no mistake. Those who aren't ready for that, relapse and never come back because it's just too hard for them. Be strong, be persistent, and build new positive habits. Anything AWAY from the computer. Most of all, keep staying on here and talking to us.
Take care

 

You keep placing your blame in other things, the gov., whatever, and you are gonna fall right back into your habit. I guarantee it. Take responsibility for your shit. Yeah maybe the 11 year old you didn't know what was happening, neither did the 11 year old me when i started at that age. But i own that and have no one to look at for solutions but ME. Everything that happens to you in this life has a purpose even the hard stuff. Even the addictions are here to show us something in this life. The person you use to be is gone, and you can't go back there. The person you can become in this very moment is all you have, not yesterday and not tomorrow. You can look back on the things you valued about that person and bring them into the new you but make no mistake, you will never be THAT person again. and GOOD! Life is a game of learning and changing man, you weren't meant to stay as that.
It's only SAD you have to fix yourself if you make it that way. What a gift you are given to fix yourself, what a gift for 90 days. What an opportunity to learn from NoFAP and have a website like this that you found. How much potential power are you gonna gain from overcoming such a strong addiction, how much stronger of a person you might yet be. How fortunate you are.

Perspective my friend. It can change the very world you live in.