enough is enough

You can do this, shanky kumar; together we stop PMO

 

65, no

 

I'll say this from experience. You have to decide to begin today. Like deep down in the deepest part of your being you've got to be the one to decide to stop. I've been trying to stop since I was 13 myself and I will be 40 next month...it doesn't get any easier to begin. But use my experience as motivation because you don't want to have to deal with this year after year and day after day for years like I am.

 

This can help you (I hope):
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/brothers-i-have-something-to-tell-you.78256/

 

Hey Shanky Kumar,

get back on your feet now!

what did you expect? Relapses were not gonna happen? Unfortunately, they are and you need to learn how to turn it around so you're back and not susceptible to a binge!

You've already done well by deciding to stop and looking for help... but kicking this nasty habit's ass will take more than sheer motivation. First of all, forget about your day count. Focus on staying clean today, every day.

It will not do just to stop PMOing, you need a new (or some new) habit(s) in your life to take the place of the old. Find things that bring out the best of you. Things you're curious about, things you're proud of, things that make your day happier (and healthier!).

Don't be overly critical on yourself because you've failed. Focus on getting back on track as soon as possible and turn your day around!

If you keep pushing through this, I know you'll succeed both here and in the jee!

Good Luck

-Mic, Private, Heirs of the Sun, OFS

 

Hey man,
First of all, you must decide for sure that you want to quit and commit to that no matter what. There is no better time to pull all your strength together when the urges come strong.
Second, u seem to still entertain environments which lead to you watching porn and loneliness that gives you the opportunity to Fap, thats not gonna help you. PORN IS A STRONG TRIGGER, You must stop watching it completely, its part of the commitment.
Third thing is You need to avoid all environments that may give you the opportunity to Fap, If the urges come strong go out, stay as close as possible to people so you wont M after sometime the urges go away and a day goes by.
Last but not least, Relapses are part of the Recovery process, No one beat this Addiction without undergoing thru Relapses, But You must be willing to stand up and try harder. The body isnt gonna let go easily the pleasures it was used to enjoy, U must be strong.
If u fapped after 3 days... Next time hold on for 5 days....And more and slowly u'll be out of it...
GOODLUCK

 

Greetings shanky kumar,

As my brother Mic_31 said, simply ridding your life of PMO is not enough, as I'm sure you are currently noticing. It is only a step in the process of self mastery. Even more important than quitting your bad habits, is to actually take action to form new better ones. It will be much easier to break your bad habits when you focus on action, on what you should do and doing it, than to just abstain. Because if you just abstain it is very hard for you to not think about that fact and you don't do anything to grow. You should aim to form habits and take actions that make you grow on both a mental, physical and spiritual level. Do you for example do anything physical, such as practicing a sport or going to the gym? Have you taken any steps to do anything differently since you started this thread?

I wish you well.

EternalProtector, Brigadier General, In Honor of Operation F.S.

 

I'm not sure what you think about this whole situation. To me, it feels like you want us to bring down your enemy to you.

Dude, use your weapons. Anger is a good one to start, look at what this dopamine junkie of a brain blocked you from achieving! Make daily reflections on the tortures that PMO cause to your personality and how you react to life.

Also take small steps towards discipline every single day, something like a ritual that you can't miss. The ones who got the upper hand in this developed resiliency and consistency on small tasks like, washing your face as soon as you wake up, hearing the wind and taking deep breaths or going for a 15 minute walk. If you manage to keep doing one of those over and over again, your brain will notice your desire to change and will start to cooperate.

Study this

 

i am almost at day 3 and i really want to fap right now, but I wont

I want to go back to the soapy massage place and hope to get fully erect. I was limp the entire time last week

 

I dont think u are serious about quitting. U are acting Childish. U r very disappointing