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  1. Hey, so I'm new here and this is a big thing opening up about this sort of thing, so here goes.

    I guess since puberty I've always had the urge (I fantastised A LOT about sex). Then, when I was about 15, I started masturbating. A year later, I got into porn, and it was pretty much a downward spiral from there. Fortunately, I have never gotten into any brutal or fetish stuff, but it has been an addication (sometimes everyday, twice a day). A year and a half ago, I managed to go six months without any of it, but then I had a massive relapse, and I'm back into it.

    The main reason that I want to kick this habit in is that being a Christian, I have values that I want to uphold, but I also find it extremely difficult seeing how much I value women and my relationships with them, yet I continue to engage in something that is objectifying them. Also, as I'm not in a relationship yet, I don't want this crap to be hanging over me when I do enter into a relationship.

    I know I have friends around me that I trust and would be willing to help me, but I'm scared to ask.
     
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  2. IGY

    IGY Guest

    Welcome to NoFap mate. :) I hope you can overcome your initial embarrassment and speak to your trusted friends about your masturbation and porn habit. I am sure they will relate to you as they have likely dabbled if not become addicted themselves. Face to face accountability is very powerful. I am guessing that these guys are from your church, is that right?

    You may not be a Mormon, but this video may help you anyway...

     
  3. Thanks, I appreciate it :). It's good to be able to open and be understood by other people who struggle with this.

    Yeah, my friends are from my church and I'm pretty sure one or two of them have struggled in this area as well.
     
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  4. IGY

    IGY Guest

    Well, go at your own pace and take steps when you feel they are right for you. Even brothers may be another possibility, but not everyone feels that close to their family. Again, only you know for sure. For now, it would be good to set a goal and try not to masturbate or use porn in that period. You can start a journal of your ups and downs on the following forum... https://NoFap.com/forum/index.php?forums/ages-20-24.18/
     

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