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How I got to 70 days and how you can too

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Liverpoolfan1995, Oct 18, 2016.

  1. Liverpoolfan1995

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    70 days ago I was a wreck. I floated through life like a ghost. Everything I did I put the bare minimum in, I was always somewhere else, I felt crippling anxiety and depression and didn't enjoy anything. I always thought what's the point of doing anything cus I'm just not going to enjoy it. And everyday I would lie there and PMO in a dark cold room by myself just to numb this feeling and I would wake up feeling even lower than I did the previous day.

    My life is sooo much better now. So so much better. Nofap is much easier - the first 30 days are where it is really hard so that's inspiration for you guys, after that there have only been a few days where I've actually struggled to try not to fap. It feels like it's part of my life now. And after 70 days of the most incredible journey do I really want to blow it for 2 mins of a decent sensation, 30'secomds of feeling good, and then A LIFETIME OF FEELIMG SHIT. A LIFETIME OF THE WORST FEELING EVER. because that's what porn would give me if I didn't find this website. A LIFETIME OF FEELING SHIT. A life where I would do an activity that is the root of my sadness to try and make me happy. Just think about how crazy that is. How tragic that is.
    Where I wouldn't have time to do anything else. Where I wouldn't want to do anything else.

    My story shows you guys the absolute benefits of this challenge. It is the most uplifting thing I have ever done, and I hope to continue this till the day I die. I know I will never forget this change I have been given. Sure, I still fight this every day and I still will. But the fights a lot easier when you feel like you're winning. It's not Anthony Joshua anymore, it's some overweight amateur 45-retired nobody and you're Muhammad Ali in his prime. The fight will get easier for you aswell if you carry on I promise you this!

    My tips

    -Basics basics basics- take it one day at a time. Forget 90 days forget 60'forgrt 30. When I was starting if I thought about 30 I wouldn't be here right now. Your goal is 30. But take one day at a time. All you have to do is get through that one day. It's that easy. And st the end of the day, come on here and journal, and treat yourself for fulfilling your goal. It makes it so much easier.

    - journal every day. It helps and you get mad support from awesome people. Makes it again so much easier
    - give support to others struggling. It makes you feel happier and you remember how much support helped you when you were just starting.
    - exercise regularly
    - remove TRIGGERS- don't even give your addict brain that chance. I don't sleep in the same room as my iPad for example. Still don't.

    - meditate regularly and try mindfulness too. This is one of the best things for me.

    Good luck guys. I wish you all the best with this and with your life. If I can do this, you can do it too,
     
  2. Quints

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    Great work man, I'm only at day 2 at the moment but I've felt the benefits of a prolonged streak first hand, problem is that there is this void in between starting fapping and actually noticing the benefits, and its in that void I keep failing.. still though, coming here and reading something like this gives me inspiration to keep going.
     
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  3. badeae1

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    Congratulations on your victory. Make it all the way to reboot. Definitely reminds me of the calm state when one reaches beyond 90 days and thus the term monk mode. Enlightenment is there for all who seek it.
     
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  4. Andyst343

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    Great
    Great post and well done.
    I can relate to what you said, I was the same just stumbling through life a empty shell, this is a bad addiction messes your life up and people around. Its good you feel better on 70 days, im on 79 but not quite there yet but better, having flat line at moment.
    well done again, keep going, 90 days not far away.
     
  5. Liverpoolfan1995

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    Thank you man! Yeah I know it is hard for some time before you notice the real benefits. The best way I think about it is that however bad my day is in reboot it was still miles better than when I was addicted
     
  6. Liverpoolfan1995

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    Thanks for the motivation man, appreciate it!! You too man, only 11 days to go! You got this
     
  7. Liverpoolfan1995

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    It really really is. It is a horrible, vile thing, and studies have shown it is actually just as addictive as a lot of drugs- hence why it's so hard to quit and why it wrecked our lives so much. Sorry to hear that buddy, but congrats on the 79 days. Hopefully it turns around for you soon and you get out of flatline. ALl the best my friend, so close for you dude!!!
     
  8. JonathanP

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    Hey Liverpoolfan, its great to see that you hit another big milestone! Its been awesome to see you progress ahead of me as I have dealt with a lot of similar things that you mention in your posts. Do you have any thoughts or advice on the self confidence that you have felt during your streak? When I started I felt a jolt of increased confidence as I felt like I was kicking addiction's rear end, but that has faded over the course of the streak. Again, I really appreciate your posts and journals on here!
     
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  9. AliWantsOut

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    How do you get past the very first days? I'm in an endless loop of relapsing every 3 days
     
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  10. Phoenix11

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    Thanks for your note Liverpool fan. I saw this site last week and I'm desperate to kick this habit. It's been 5 days now since I had sex. I've come out of a seriously abusive relationship and I am really keen on developing healthy sexual habits so i can explore true intimacy with a woman. I believe part of that is rebooting for 90 days.

    I've done 5 days and cuts getting harder. Will try just for today.
     
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  11. Liverpoolfan1995

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    Hey Phoenix no worries, I'm glad you found it helpful! Well done on 5 days and for taking a positive step in your life. Good luck on your journey dude
     
  12. Liverpoolfan1995

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    Hey Ali why do you think you keep relapsing? Are there any triggers you notice? Do you fap when you're bored for example? One of the best things is identifying your triggers and changing them. Setting up porn blockers on your phone or tablet.

    When I first started I found that it would be hardest st night before I went to sleep as I would get bored so I would always leave the iPad out of my room. If I got an urge, I would remind myself why I'm doing this challenge. I'd also read before bed to fall asleep quicker. It's all about identifying YOUR triggers.
     
  13. Liverpoolfan1995

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    Hey Jonathan! Thank you so much buddy, your support and thanks means so much to me. Haha, I soooo know what you mean buddy. If you read my journal, you'll see that exact same thing. Around 2 weeks in I was on top of the world and everything was going swimmingly. Then 3 weeks in I felt terrible. A month past and again, loving life. 5 weeks, feeling low again. It's all a cycle, and it's all completely normal and healthy. Part of everyday normal life is experiencing and being okay with that cycle. The important thing for me to note was my lowest of lows now is definitely better than my lows in PMO. And the highs, well, highs were a luxury I did not have during my time in PMO prison. My overall, baseline anxiety levels are lower than in PMO time and that's amazing.
    And you know what, it's not all going to be magically fixed in 76 days or even 90 I think. I was PMOing for 3 years, so I doubt it she all going to be fixed straightaway. What's keeps me going is knowing that with nofap I have a chance to be happy. With PMO I have no chance.
     
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  14. doggoneit

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    Thanks for the tips Lverpoolfan1995, I am going to definitely try to journal every day that I can. I read my first response today and it felt so good to have someone else out there who has my back. Keep up the good work yourself, your note was truly inspiring.
     
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  15. 23Bru

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    Truly inspiring stuff. Congratulations mate ! It gave me back back hope for myself. Keep going !
     
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  16. Liverpoolfan1995

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    Good for you doggoneit!! I am so glad you found it helpful, that is literally the reason I wrote this, as when I was just starting it was posts like these which taught me. We are all here for you buddy. Best of luck my friend
     
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  17. Liverpoolfan1995

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    Thanks mate for the lovely words it means so much! I am glad it helped you!! I will do! Best of luck to you my friend
     
  18. Congrats for your achievement, hope you do better than this, all the best and keep it up....
     
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  19. zingaro

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    congrats, great post!
     
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  20. Den24

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    Great job! Your words are truly inspiring. Thank you very much for sharing, your experience does help to stay cool on my journey. And the idea that you have to concentrate on every day is incredibly wise!
    Thanks again for the wisdom!
     
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