Denying self sex with spouse.

Hey there,
you're asking the wrong people about that, what does your wife say to your resolve to overcome your PMO addiction? Please don't tell me she doesn't know yet.

 

It depends if your wife is comfortable with it.
Because she might feel like she is not stimulating you enough or feel like she is being refused sex, which could be damaging to the relationship.

I advise you to tell her about your fear to deal with the PRECIOUSSSSSSSSSS.

You could read on Karezza and talk to her about it, its apparently a way to turn matting sex (with dopamine) into soothing bonding sex. Also, Karezza apparently helps with doozing the "fire" or sex-for-orgasm cycle....

http://www.reuniting.info/karezza_korner_intro

In all cases, I'm with you. I don't want to hurt my wife's feelings. I tried to sell Karezza to my wife, but she thinks its just a way to have more frequent sex with me. She also thinks that if I look for something different than she offers, I'm automatically non satisfied with what she does.

I'm considering a 90 days hardmode and told her, and she didnt say a thing about it. I was at least expecting resistance, something like "no way, I want my sex!"...but no not this time.

Even without porn or masturbation, I find that my desire didnt stop. She helped me by giving me more sex to compensate for lack of MO or PMO, but its repetitive.
Overall, its a can of worms...its like "take what I give you and be happy".

 

No, not if she knows why, and if she agrees to it.

All women are different, but very, very few are horny nympho monsters like porn portrays. Porn addiction has placed you (and me) in an alternate reality; in real life, this is a tiny, itty bitty concern. Again, if she knows why, she is almost guaranteed not to cheat. The reason being that to her, the relationship is a schwillion times more important than getting off.

If she knows why, extremely good. In fact, your instincts in this regard are likely accurate; having no sex for a while could be the best thing for both of you, because your porn addiction has completely altered your perception of sex and what it is for. A reset in your sex life through a prolonged period of abstention (we pick 90 days as a somewhat arbitrary time frame) may be a good time to relearn sex's role in a relationship, and separate that from porn.

Are you picking up a theme here? As you enter into this incredibly difficult, life altering period of your life, your wife has a right and likely the preference to know about it. This is because pornography has supplanted your relationship. In order to defeat the porn, your relationship has to resume its place of priority. If you have reservations about telling your wife, as nearly all of us do, please read the "Disclosure" link in my signature. It's a compilation and detailed explanation of why disclosure is a necessary portion of your recovery, as explained by addicts and their significant others.