Seven months on Hard Mode + my tips

BMW-6er · Aug 25, 2016

My journey if still at the beginning. please give this link attention

https://nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/786-y-i-kill-this-addiction-786-www-正确地给他.74106/

Deleted Account · Sep 6, 2016

mv8652 said: ↑

onstantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.
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Love this! Putting it my journal .thanks for posting very inspiring!

NICEDUDE · Sep 7, 2016

mv8652 said: ↑

Today marks seven months since I last experienced porn, masturbation, or orgasm.

At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it. My body and mind have adapted to its absence, and I'm enthusiastic about continuing the hard-mode NoFap lifestyle. Who knew that not fapping could be so much fun? Fapping has become an unnecessary and meaningless option, and life without it is good. If a man can change that about himself, he can change anything!

We males have a primal desire to masturbate, but I've also always had some deep instinct to want to quit it. I would even fantasize about never getting off. During my teens I couldn't last longer than two weeks without it, but later I had a few longer streaks up to 41 days. Eventually, I found NoFap.com, and it motivated me to make a highly enthusiastic (even euphoric) commitment to long-term cessation. That was in May of last year, when I was already 15 days into a streak on my own. After more than four months, I decided that I was fully rebooted and could return to limited occasional masturbation and keep it under control. During the month that followed, I allowed myself three masturbatory orgasms, but they only taught me how much I missed the benefits, self-discipline, and pride that I got from total abstinence. So, I happily returned to the new streak that has now lasted seven months. At first, I left my new goal unspecified, but I soon committed to go at least a year. That commitment gave me a new rush of dedication and enthusiasm for NOT doing what I don't do anymore, and I love it!

To say that it’s been life-changing would be an understatement. I could rattle on about all of the benefits that are usually mentioned (motivation, discipline, social confidence, etc.), all of which are real, but my biggest benefit is moral. I had no moral objection to simple masturbation, but I did have one to my use of pornography. Although I was not nearly as addicted or dependent as some, I could feel the call of increasingly bizarre fetishes, and I knew that none of it pleased God. I thank Him for NoFap and for the chance to have a clear sexual conscience. In addition to that, I've found significant benefits in weight loss and muscle gain from new dedication to exercise and nutrition that have come with increased self-discipline.

To summarize: Every man owes it to himself to give hard-mode no-PMO a good long try. I'd hate to have lived my life without having done so. It's one of the best things I’ve ever done.

So, finally, here are my tips to those who would pursue the NoFap lifestyle:

1. Be prepared to leave your comfort zone. Sudden sexual abstinence can be uncomfortable at first, but the benefits are worth every minute of it.

2. If you aren't excited and enthusiastic about quitting, you aren't ready to succeed at no-PMO. When the urges come, you've got to want to contain more than you want to release. The good news is that you can cultivate excitement and enthusiasm. You'll know when you're really ready.

3. Know your WHY. Always keep in mind your reasons for wanting to quit and review them every time you feel like giving in.

4. Don't try to fight the physical and mental urges. They're a natural part of male life. Fighting them only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach. You'll feel them, but each one will last only minutes and then be gone, never to return. There will be others, but this is how you learn to ignore them until they no longer even faze you. Nobody ever died from an unsatisfied urge!

5. Take it one day at a time! Ninety days seems like forever, but anybody can go without an orgasm for just one day. That's all you ever have to do at any one time. Each morning, when you first awaken, promise yourself out loud several times, "I will not masturbate TODAY!" Make it into a cheer or a chant and mean it. Don’t worry about tomorrow until tomorrow.

6. Constantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.

7. Get and give support! We're put on this earth to help one another. Commiserate regularly with your many brothers at NoFap, and comment, like, and subscribe to them on YouTube. Not everyone can tell their friends about what you're doing, but do so if you can. True friends will respect and envy you. Some might be inspired to join you!

8. It’s a process. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you relapse, get back on the wagon immediately and don’t use it as an excuse to binge. While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying.

Thanks for reading. I hope that this helps someone.
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mv8652 said: ↑

Today marks seven months since I last experienced porn, masturbation, or orgasm.

At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it. My body and mind have adapted to its absence, and I'm enthusiastic about continuing the hard-mode NoFap lifestyle. Who knew that not fapping could be so much fun? Fapping has become an unnecessary and meaningless option, and life without it is good. If a man can change that about himself, he can change anything!

We males have a primal desire to masturbate, but I've also always had some deep instinct to want to quit it. I would even fantasize about never getting off. During my teens I couldn't last longer than two weeks without it, but later I had a few longer streaks up to 41 days. Eventually, I found NoFap.com, and it motivated me to make a highly enthusiastic (even euphoric) commitment to long-term cessation. That was in May of last year, when I was already 15 days into a streak on my own. After more than four months, I decided that I was fully rebooted and could return to limited occasional masturbation and keep it under control. During the month that followed, I allowed myself three masturbatory orgasms, but they only taught me how much I missed the benefits, self-discipline, and pride that I got from total abstinence. So, I happily returned to the new streak that has now lasted seven months. At first, I left my new goal unspecified, but I soon committed to go at least a year. That commitment gave me a new rush of dedication and enthusiasm for NOT doing what I don't do anymore, and I love it!

To say that it’s been life-changing would be an understatement. I could rattle on about all of the benefits that are usually mentioned (motivation, discipline, social confidence, etc.), all of which are real, but my biggest benefit is moral. I had no moral objection to simple masturbation, but I did have one to my use of pornography. Although I was not nearly as addicted or dependent as some, I could feel the call of increasingly bizarre fetishes, and I knew that none of it pleased God. I thank Him for NoFap and for the chance to have a clear sexual conscience. In addition to that, I've found significant benefits in weight loss and muscle gain from new dedication to exercise and nutrition that have come with increased self-discipline.

To summarize: Every man owes it to himself to give hard-mode no-PMO a good long try. I'd hate to have lived my life without having done so. It's one of the best things I’ve ever done.

So, finally, here are my tips to those who would pursue the NoFap lifestyle:

1. Be prepared to leave your comfort zone. Sudden sexual abstinence can be uncomfortable at first, but the benefits are worth every minute of it.

2. If you aren't excited and enthusiastic about quitting, you aren't ready to succeed at no-PMO. When the urges come, you've got to want to contain more than you want to release. The good news is that you can cultivate excitement and enthusiasm. You'll know when you're really ready.

3. Know your WHY. Always keep in mind your reasons for wanting to quit and review them every time you feel like giving in.

4. Don't try to fight the physical and mental urges. They're a natural part of male life. Fighting them only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach. You'll feel them, but each one will last only minutes and then be gone, never to return. There will be others, but this is how you learn to ignore them until they no longer even faze you. Nobody ever died from an unsatisfied urge!

5. Take it one day at a time! Ninety days seems like forever, but anybody can go without an orgasm for just one day. That's all you ever have to do at any one time. Each morning, when you first awaken, promise yourself out loud several times, "I will not masturbate TODAY!" Make it into a cheer or a chant and mean it. Don’t worry about tomorrow until tomorrow.

6. Constantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.

7. Get and give support! We're put on this earth to help one another. Commiserate regularly with your many brothers at NoFap, and comment, like, and subscribe to them on YouTube. Not everyone can tell their friends about what you're doing, but do so if you can. True friends will respect and envy you. Some might be inspired to join you!

8. It’s a process. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you relapse, get back on the wagon immediately and don’t use it as an excuse to binge. While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying.

Thanks for reading. I hope that this helps someone.
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Truly Inspirational post dear!!!

JonathanP · Sep 7, 2016

These are the types of posts that give me encouragement and make me look forward to reaching similar milestones

yard1665 · Sep 7, 2016

What a fantastic and inspiring post. Thank you for sharing...it has really encouraged me.

mv8652 · Sep 8, 2016

... and I thank those of you who have commented and thanked me lately! NoFap is about mutual encouragement. It might seem odd, but I get encouragement from those who are in much earlier stages, because we're all running the same race, no matter how far along. I'm now over 10½ months into Hard Mode no-PMO, and I have no doubt that I'll glide past my current one-year goal. I hope the same for the rest of my NoFap brothers. Be strong. Peace!

Harry Maclad · Nov 6, 2016

mv8652 said: ↑

Today marks seven months since I last experienced porn, masturbation, or orgasm.

At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it. My body and mind have adapted to its absence, and I'm enthusiastic about continuing the hard-mode NoFap lifestyle. Who knew that not fapping could be so much fun? Fapping has become an unnecessary and meaningless option, and life without it is good. If a man can change that about himself, he can change anything!

We males have a primal desire to masturbate, but I've also always had some deep instinct to want to quit it. I would even fantasize about never getting off. During my teens I couldn't last longer than two weeks without it, but later I had a few longer streaks up to 41 days. Eventually, I found NoFap.com, and it motivated me to make a highly enthusiastic (even euphoric) commitment to long-term cessation. That was in May of last year, when I was already 15 days into a streak on my own. After more than four months, I decided that I was fully rebooted and could return to limited occasional masturbation and keep it under control. During the month that followed, I allowed myself three masturbatory orgasms, but they only taught me how much I missed the benefits, self-discipline, and pride that I got from total abstinence. So, I happily returned to the new streak that has now lasted seven months. At first, I left my new goal unspecified, but I soon committed to go at least a year. That commitment gave me a new rush of dedication and enthusiasm for NOT doing what I don't do anymore, and I love it!

To say that it’s been life-changing would be an understatement. I could rattle on about all of the benefits that are usually mentioned (motivation, discipline, social confidence, etc.), all of which are real, but my biggest benefit is moral. I had no moral objection to simple masturbation, but I did have one to my use of pornography. Although I was not nearly as addicted or dependent as some, I could feel the call of increasingly bizarre fetishes, and I knew that none of it pleased God. I thank Him for NoFap and for the chance to have a clear sexual conscience. In addition to that, I've found significant benefits in weight loss and muscle gain from new dedication to exercise and nutrition that have come with increased self-discipline.

To summarize: Every man owes it to himself to give hard-mode no-PMO a good long try. I'd hate to have lived my life without having done so. It's one of the best things I’ve ever done.

So, finally, here are my tips to those who would pursue the NoFap lifestyle:

1. Be prepared to leave your comfort zone. Sudden sexual abstinence can be uncomfortable at first, but the benefits are worth every minute of it.

2. If you aren't excited and enthusiastic about quitting, you aren't ready to succeed at no-PMO. When the urges come, you've got to want to contain more than you want to release. The good news is that you can cultivate excitement and enthusiasm. You'll know when you're really ready.

3. Know your WHY. Always keep in mind your reasons for wanting to quit and review them every time you feel like giving in.

4. Don't try to fight the physical and mental urges. They're a natural part of male life. Fighting them only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach. You'll feel them, but each one will last only minutes and then be gone, never to return. There will be others, but this is how you learn to ignore them until they no longer even faze you. Nobody ever died from an unsatisfied urge!

5. Take it one day at a time! Ninety days seems like forever, but anybody can go without an orgasm for just one day. That's all you ever have to do at any one time. Each morning, when you first awaken, promise yourself out loud several times, "I will not masturbate TODAY!" Make it into a cheer or a chant and mean it. Don’t worry about tomorrow until tomorrow.

6. Constantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.

7. Get and give support! We're put on this earth to help one another. Commiserate regularly with your many brothers at NoFap, and comment, like, and subscribe to them on YouTube. Not everyone can tell their friends about what you're doing, but do so if you can. True friends will respect and envy you. Some might be inspired to join you!

8. It’s a process. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you relapse, get back on the wagon immediately and don’t use it as an excuse to binge. While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying.

Thanks for reading. I hope that this helps someone.
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Nice job on reaching 7 months. Thanks for the motivation!!

MO.no.longer.my.MO · Nov 10, 2016

This post really helped me. Thanks. Brand new to this and can use all the encouragement I can get!

mv8652 · Nov 11, 2016

Hey, Harry and Parker. I'm very glad to have helped! I did over a year off masturbation, and I'm done with porn for good. It's a great feeling to be free.

MO.no.longer.my.MO · Nov 11, 2016

mv8652 said: ↑

Hey, Harry and Parker. I'm very glad to have helped! I did over a year off masturbation, and I'm done with porn for good. It's a great feeling to be free.
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At one point, did you notice that you had a greater ease in resisting urges? Almost like you didn't have to fight as hard? And if yes, at what point would you say that that happened for you?

Casey54 · Nov 11, 2016

mv8652 said: ↑

Today marks seven months since I last experienced porn, masturbation, or orgasm.

At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it. My body and mind have adapted to its absence, and I'm enthusiastic about continuing the hard-mode NoFap lifestyle. Who knew that not fapping could be so much fun? Fapping has become an unnecessary and meaningless option, and life without it is good. If a man can change that about himself, he can change anything!

We males have a primal desire to masturbate, but I've also always had some deep instinct to want to quit it. I would even fantasize about never getting off. During my teens I couldn't last longer than two weeks without it, but later I had a few longer streaks up to 41 days. Eventually, I found NoFap.com, and it motivated me to make a highly enthusiastic (even euphoric) commitment to long-term cessation. That was in May of last year, when I was already 15 days into a streak on my own. After more than four months, I decided that I was fully rebooted and could return to limited occasional masturbation and keep it under control. During the month that followed, I allowed myself three masturbatory orgasms, but they only taught me how much I missed the benefits, self-discipline, and pride that I got from total abstinence. So, I happily returned to the new streak that has now lasted seven months. At first, I left my new goal unspecified, but I soon committed to go at least a year. That commitment gave me a new rush of dedication and enthusiasm for NOT doing what I don't do anymore, and I love it!

To say that it’s been life-changing would be an understatement. I could rattle on about all of the benefits that are usually mentioned (motivation, discipline, social confidence, etc.), all of which are real, but my biggest benefit is moral. I had no moral objection to simple masturbation, but I did have one to my use of pornography. Although I was not nearly as addicted or dependent as some, I could feel the call of increasingly bizarre fetishes, and I knew that none of it pleased God. I thank Him for NoFap and for the chance to have a clear sexual conscience. In addition to that, I've found significant benefits in weight loss and muscle gain from new dedication to exercise and nutrition that have come with increased self-discipline.

To summarize: Every man owes it to himself to give hard-mode no-PMO a good long try. I'd hate to have lived my life without having done so. It's one of the best things I’ve ever done.

So, finally, here are my tips to those who would pursue the NoFap lifestyle:

1. Be prepared to leave your comfort zone. Sudden sexual abstinence can be uncomfortable at first, but the benefits are worth every minute of it.

2. If you aren't excited and enthusiastic about quitting, you aren't ready to succeed at no-PMO. When the urges come, you've got to want to contain more than you want to release. The good news is that you can cultivate excitement and enthusiasm. You'll know when you're really ready.

3. Know your WHY. Always keep in mind your reasons for wanting to quit and review them every time you feel like giving in.

4. Don't try to fight the physical and mental urges. They're a natural part of male life. Fighting them only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach. You'll feel them, but each one will last only minutes and then be gone, never to return. There will be others, but this is how you learn to ignore them until they no longer even faze you. Nobody ever died from an unsatisfied urge!

5. Take it one day at a time! Ninety days seems like forever, but anybody can go without an orgasm for just one day. That's all you ever have to do at any one time. Each morning, when you first awaken, promise yourself out loud several times, "I will not masturbate TODAY!" Make it into a cheer or a chant and mean it. Don’t worry about tomorrow until tomorrow.

6. Constantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.

7. Get and give support! We're put on this earth to help one another. Commiserate regularly with your many brothers at NoFap, and comment, like, and subscribe to them on YouTube. Not everyone can tell their friends about what you're doing, but do so if you can. True friends will respect and envy you. Some might be inspired to join you!

8. It’s a process. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you relapse, get back on the wagon immediately and don’t use it as an excuse to binge. While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying.

Thanks for reading. I hope that this helps someone.
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Hey MV, congrats on 90 days. Thanks for the tips, it's helpful to think about it as a process and just trying to take it one day at a time. I can wake up in the morning and decide not to fap for one day.

Deleted Account · Nov 12, 2016

congrats!!!

I Free I · Nov 12, 2016

mv8652 said: ↑

Today marks seven months since I last experienced porn, masturbation, or orgasm.

At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it. My body and mind have adapted to its absence, and I'm enthusiastic about continuing the hard-mode NoFap lifestyle. Who knew that not fapping could be so much fun? Fapping has become an unnecessary and meaningless option, and life without it is good. If a man can change that about himself, he can change anything!

We males have a primal desire to masturbate, but I've also always had some deep instinct to want to quit it. I would even fantasize about never getting off. During my teens I couldn't last longer than two weeks without it, but later I had a few longer streaks up to 41 days. Eventually, I found NoFap.com, and it motivated me to make a highly enthusiastic (even euphoric) commitment to long-term cessation. That was in May of last year, when I was already 15 days into a streak on my own. After more than four months, I decided that I was fully rebooted and could return to limited occasional masturbation and keep it under control. During the month that followed, I allowed myself three masturbatory orgasms, but they only taught me how much I missed the benefits, self-discipline, and pride that I got from total abstinence. So, I happily returned to the new streak that has now lasted seven months. At first, I left my new goal unspecified, but I soon committed to go at least a year. That commitment gave me a new rush of dedication and enthusiasm for NOT doing what I don't do anymore, and I love it!

To say that it’s been life-changing would be an understatement. I could rattle on about all of the benefits that are usually mentioned (motivation, discipline, social confidence, etc.), all of which are real, but my biggest benefit is moral. I had no moral objection to simple masturbation, but I did have one to my use of pornography. Although I was not nearly as addicted or dependent as some, I could feel the call of increasingly bizarre fetishes, and I knew that none of it pleased God. I thank Him for NoFap and for the chance to have a clear sexual conscience. In addition to that, I've found significant benefits in weight loss and muscle gain from new dedication to exercise and nutrition that have come with increased self-discipline.

To summarize: Every man owes it to himself to give hard-mode no-PMO a good long try. I'd hate to have lived my life without having done so. It's one of the best things I’ve ever done.

So, finally, here are my tips to those who would pursue the NoFap lifestyle:

1. Be prepared to leave your comfort zone. Sudden sexual abstinence can be uncomfortable at first, but the benefits are worth every minute of it.

2. If you aren't excited and enthusiastic about quitting, you aren't ready to succeed at no-PMO. When the urges come, you've got to want to contain more than you want to release. The good news is that you can cultivate excitement and enthusiasm. You'll know when you're really ready.

3. Know your WHY. Always keep in mind your reasons for wanting to quit and review them every time you feel like giving in.

4. Don't try to fight the physical and mental urges. They're a natural part of male life. Fighting them only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach. You'll feel them, but each one will last only minutes and then be gone, never to return. There will be others, but this is how you learn to ignore them until they no longer even faze you. Nobody ever died from an unsatisfied urge!

5. Take it one day at a time! Ninety days seems like forever, but anybody can go without an orgasm for just one day. That's all you ever have to do at any one time. Each morning, when you first awaken, promise yourself out loud several times, "I will not masturbate TODAY!" Make it into a cheer or a chant and mean it. Don’t worry about tomorrow until tomorrow.

6. Constantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.

7. Get and give support! We're put on this earth to help one another. Commiserate regularly with your many brothers at NoFap, and comment, like, and subscribe to them on YouTube. Not everyone can tell their friends about what you're doing, but do so if you can. True friends will respect and envy you. Some might be inspired to join you!

8. It’s a process. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you relapse, get back on the wagon immediately and don’t use it as an excuse to binge. While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying.

Thanks for reading. I hope that this helps someone.
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Thanks for sharing these great tips ! We all have to take this into consideration > "While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying."

You couldn't have said it any better in my opinion... that should motivate NoFappers to keep at it and never give up !

Casey54 · Nov 12, 2016

Hey freee, well said, I'm on day 4, hopping for a week right now. Even if we do relapse at some point that doesn't mean your back to square one.

Dziki007 · Nov 14, 2016

Very inspirational.

mv8652 · Nov 16, 2016

MO.no.longer.my.MO said: ↑

At one point, did you notice that you had a greater ease in resisting urges? Almost like you didn't have to fight as hard? And if yes, at what point would you say that that happened for you?
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Yes! Around the third week, I noticed that the urges were beginning to become a bit more manageable (or I was learning how to manage them better). That was encouraging. At around 45 days, it became easier still. A third phase began around 60 days, after which ignoring urges was more or less my lifestyle. Note that I did not experience any flatline, as some fapstronauts do (but not nearly all).

MO.no.longer.my.MO · Nov 16, 2016

mv8652 said: ↑

Yes! Around the third week, I noticed that the urges were beginning to become a bit more manageable (or I was learning how to manage them better). That was encouraging. At around 45 days, it became easier still. A third phase began around 60 days, after which ignoring urges was more or less my lifestyle. Note that I did not experience any flatline, as some fapstronauts do (but not nearly all).
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That is encouraging. Thanks for the response. Congrats on all of your success

Be Normal · Nov 20, 2016

Thank you for sharing your story and your tips. I needed this today and it has helped me immensely you have been impacting the lives of many others as well. Also, Congratulations on achieving your 1 year goal of fapstinence! You have put some of my thoughts into words and proved it. We all look up to you as a fapstronaut hero.

I liked your analogy in tip #4, "Fighting urges only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach." You have strong willpower. Many successful therapists use this willingness technique with their clients in order to help them overcome their addictions. "The key to self-control is letting go of all control."

I would like to share here the 4 tips I have found to become the highest version of myself in the form of healthy and natural habits: sleep, exercise, diet, and mindset
Thank you so much

Pursuit__Of__Happiness · Nov 20, 2016

Beautiful. Very motivating and full of insights. Thanks for sharing.

anthrope · Nov 20, 2016

Thank you for sharing your experience!! I especially resonate with the take it one day at a time, and the fact that fighting things only makes them harder, and that relaxation is a better bet overall.

I've crossed the year point a while in the past myself, but I also got back into PMO after that and I've seen that in my case, the changes weren't permanent. I'm curious about long term PMO management; do you ever experience weak moments that come out of the blue? Also, since you're hard mode (I think), are you finding ways to manage your libido elsewhere, like in a relationship?

Cheers, and thanks for sharing and inspiring!

mv8652 said: ↑

Today marks seven months since I last experienced porn, masturbation, or orgasm.

At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it. My body and mind have adapted to its absence, and I'm enthusiastic about continuing the hard-mode NoFap lifestyle. Who knew that not fapping could be so much fun? Fapping has become an unnecessary and meaningless option, and life without it is good. If a man can change that about himself, he can change anything!

We males have a primal desire to masturbate, but I've also always had some deep instinct to want to quit it. I would even fantasize about never getting off. During my teens I couldn't last longer than two weeks without it, but later I had a few longer streaks up to 41 days. Eventually, I found NoFap.com, and it motivated me to make a highly enthusiastic (even euphoric) commitment to long-term cessation. That was in May of last year, when I was already 15 days into a streak on my own. After more than four months, I decided that I was fully rebooted and could return to limited occasional masturbation and keep it under control. During the month that followed, I allowed myself three masturbatory orgasms, but they only taught me how much I missed the benefits, self-discipline, and pride that I got from total abstinence. So, I happily returned to the new streak that has now lasted seven months. At first, I left my new goal unspecified, but I soon committed to go at least a year. That commitment gave me a new rush of dedication and enthusiasm for NOT doing what I don't do anymore, and I love it!

To say that it’s been life-changing would be an understatement. I could rattle on about all of the benefits that are usually mentioned (motivation, discipline, social confidence, etc.), all of which are real, but my biggest benefit is moral. I had no moral objection to simple masturbation, but I did have one to my use of pornography. Although I was not nearly as addicted or dependent as some, I could feel the call of increasingly bizarre fetishes, and I knew that none of it pleased God. I thank Him for NoFap and for the chance to have a clear sexual conscience. In addition to that, I've found significant benefits in weight loss and muscle gain from new dedication to exercise and nutrition that have come with increased self-discipline.

To summarize: Every man owes it to himself to give hard-mode no-PMO a good long try. I'd hate to have lived my life without having done so. It's one of the best things I’ve ever done.

So, finally, here are my tips to those who would pursue the NoFap lifestyle:

1. Be prepared to leave your comfort zone. Sudden sexual abstinence can be uncomfortable at first, but the benefits are worth every minute of it.

2. If you aren't excited and enthusiastic about quitting, you aren't ready to succeed at no-PMO. When the urges come, you've got to want to contain more than you want to release. The good news is that you can cultivate excitement and enthusiasm. You'll know when you're really ready.

3. Know your WHY. Always keep in mind your reasons for wanting to quit and review them every time you feel like giving in.

4. Don't try to fight the physical and mental urges. They're a natural part of male life. Fighting them only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach. You'll feel them, but each one will last only minutes and then be gone, never to return. There will be others, but this is how you learn to ignore them until they no longer even faze you. Nobody ever died from an unsatisfied urge!

5. Take it one day at a time! Ninety days seems like forever, but anybody can go without an orgasm for just one day. That's all you ever have to do at any one time. Each morning, when you first awaken, promise yourself out loud several times, "I will not masturbate TODAY!" Make it into a cheer or a chant and mean it. Don’t worry about tomorrow until tomorrow.

6. Constantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.

7. Get and give support! We're put on this earth to help one another. Commiserate regularly with your many brothers at NoFap, and comment, like, and subscribe to them on YouTube. Not everyone can tell their friends about what you're doing, but do so if you can. True friends will respect and envy you. Some might be inspired to join you!

8. It’s a process. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you relapse, get back on the wagon immediately and don’t use it as an excuse to binge. While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying.

Thanks for reading. I hope that this helps someone.
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