The hardest part of nofap is actually not knowing if I'll find a girlfriend or get married.

Please, please, please do not get the idea in your mind that if you succeed in controlling your PMO, getting a girl will be your reward. You are asking for failure. Becoming a better you will increase your self confidence which will allow others to notice you. PMO is a self confidence thief, NoFap allows you to regain what the thief has stolen from you.
Any other way of thinking will eventually cause failure in your progress. If you control your fapping and attempt to meet a girl and that girl , rejects you, you may be likely to blame NoFap for not working and relapse and continue PMO.

It has to be about you and your improvement. Being more attractive to women is a consequence.

 

I fully agree with D.J. I used to have the mindset that having a girlfriend was everything, that I would be happy. But I was wrong, dead wrong. I was very needy at the time, I was insecure, and just desperate for a relationship. I've had my heart broken more times that I could count. I'm actually getting to the point where I just don't care anymore. And trust me, it was the best thing I've ever done for myself.

Continue what you're doing; it's my best advice. Since the day I started to focus on myself, I got a car, a college degree, and a job. My next goal is getting my own apartment, and in time, I will. You have to keep your mind focusing on yourself and do things you wouldn't normally do. You must be the best version of yourself, and right now, I feel that you're not ready yet. But trust me, you will be.

I've never had a girlfriend either and I'm 28, but I've kissed a few times. However, I guess after being hurt so many times, I've decided to focus on what's more important. And actually, things are picking up for me. I'm talking to girls a little more and I'm putting myself in the position to meet new people. Sometimes you have to take risks in order to improve. Try something to challenge yourself and make you nervous even (I'm doing public speaking even though I'm pretty shy). Things like that. I highly recommend you abstain from PMO. Set a goal and achieve it.

I've done hard mode no PMO for 30 days several times, and I've noticed a difference in my mind and body. It has helped me gain the confidence and the testosterone boost that I needed. Porn doesn't help you whatsoever, you know that. I know this is a lot to take in, but you have to believe me, I know what it feels like. I've been there. But right now, I feel pretty good. I'm working towards a better future for myself by NOT putting my mind on girlfriends. And as they say, the best time to get a girlfriend is when you're not thinking about one. Sometimes the best relationships are those that are unexpected.

In addition, it takes a lot of hard work, but you'll get there. And I like I said, I've never had a girlfriend and I'm 28, but I'd rather be the best version of myself (mentally, physically, and spiritual) before I get into a relationship. And nothing will stop me from doing that; I'm more committed than ever because I've learned the hard way. But for you, I hope it doesn't turn out as badly as the experiences I've had. I wish you the best of luck. Okay? Stay strong

 

This is the truth and the truth shall set you "Free" ...

Believe .

 

I know I'll never find a girlfriend or get married. Trust me, that option doesn't make it easier either.

 

How do you know this with such certainty? Just curious.

 

I just think I'm too old for first love by now.

Also, there obviously is no such thing as absolute certainty, but in my field you learn to analyze patterns and make strong assumptions based on them. They might not be absolutely true but you need to take one scenario as the fact to build upon, otherwise you won't get anywhere.

But let's not derail this post.

 

One is never too old for a girlfriend or marriage.
Here are a few factors to consider:

1. There can always be an anomaly. You analyze data but even the most consistent data can not account for the unexpected.
2. You can be the anomaly. As you continue to change and evolve through the NoFap process, your desire to do things differently than you've ever done things, increases such as being more social, smiling more, more spontaneous happiness, reading so many journals where guys say that they have confidence like never before experienced and one day trying it and seeing a never before experienced result.
3. You may simply be wrong about the data you are using. You think you are too old... what if, in fact, that data is incorrect and you're not too old?

 

there is not only online dating through which you can meet your partner, so stop depressing..........you can meet your soul mate even on the street, in train , anywhere, if you believe in god then i hope you also believe in his theories... loneliness hurts... getting desperate will let you end up with a wrong person that will hurt more...
& its not that your life will end only in the programming class...after class is over..you will have internship/job ther you will find someone who may be single, not kissed any guyso chill do coding....i'am not sure whether online dating will help you not nut money will definitely help you so give your best shot to the course....diverting your mind from primary goal will not be good.....

 

Others have already said most of what there is to stay, I am only replying to thread title.

You need to consider the possibility you might end up alone. Not dwell on it, but consider it. And do NoFap nevertheless.

 

Well you need only one don't you? The OP mentioned marriage so I suppose they are monogamously inclined. Nobody ever considers the number is very low, 1. I am not suggesting settling with the first person you can get, but the fact is you don't have to be a player and get a lot of girls if that's your inclination.

But start with working on the one right there, you.

 

It can be a consequence. There are no guarantees.
Regardless, the guy is up to 63 days so he must be all right on the "no-PMO" front.

 

Wut. I think this is the easiest part .