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Nightime/Bedtime

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by nofap528, Dec 10, 2016.

  1. Dec 10, 2016 #1
    nofap528

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    At night because i'm sort of an insomniac I will be awake than most
    In bed. This lends itself to a window where I can get erections. Sometimes really strong ones. How do I counter erections when I am trying to sleep in bed?
     
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  2. Dec 10, 2016 #2
    Frühlingstimme

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    Sit ups, push ups, drink a hot tea, get off bed and watch TV, read a book, go for a walk (if you can). Limitless options are available. Also meditation, if you notice the erection early enough (trying to meditate with the member hard might not be a good idea)
     
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  3. Dec 10, 2016 #3
    Helplessnomore

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    @nofap528, the only thing you can do is keep busy. I also sleep late, not in the night but in the morning, around 5 or 6 AM. I have exams going on, and night time is peaceful (although studying is the last thing on my mind since next exam is a bit far away). So what I do is watch TV series, what you watch is important, depressing TV series will get you depressed and you will lose mental power, while funny or interesting will make you laugh and give a stronger belief in yourself (watch Two and a half men, or Friends, or some stand up comedy). Point is, keep yourself busy.


    @SnowWhite , I have tried meditation but I can't sit for more than 5 minutes. Could you explain how you do it and which kind of meditation you practice?
     
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  4. Dec 10, 2016 #4
    SnowWhite

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    I am doing self-hypnosis, also called autogenic training. Look it up, there is lot of material.

    Especially I am focussing on "warmness in the belly" which leads to fantastic results.

    It needs training. In the beginning, your mind is wandering and you cannot concentrate.
    But that gets better over time.
     
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  5. Dec 10, 2016 #5
    nofap528

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    Now that I think about it, it's not that often that my urges keep me from sleeping. I might be wrong but I think the strong urge was probably due to the energy drink I had at dinner, usually I'm too tired to get horny at night.

    But while we are discussing resisting urges during the late hours of the day when we are in bed, I have a more frequent and chronic problem and that is FANTASIZING.

    I could be distracting myself with games, TV and what not, but my mind always overrides my current action with fantasies because in a sense my mind is used to it (it's a stronger habit with a long history I've been having since childhood that is responsible for my less than severe insomnia). How can I confront myself to seize fantasizing when I'm in bed. It's dangerous for me because I can easily blow 1 - 2 hours of bed time just by nonchalantly fantasizing (not always sexual although the sexual fantasies make me even less tired and more alert).

    What I'm essentially saying is that I need to learn how to prevent myself from entertaining my fantasies.
     
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  6. Dec 10, 2016 #6
    Vivek1001

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    All right, I do not get infatuated. Do let your thoughts of those things entertain you. Resist. Read quotes. Remember your goal. Argue with refusing thoughts. And that's how one can stop.
     
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  7. Dec 11, 2016 #7
    Helplessnomore

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    @nofap528. Well you shouldn't be drinking a energy drink at night. Energy drink gets you excited, and will make you lose concentration, kind of like coffee. All these drinks contain caffeine which keep you awake, and get you hydrated for making your significant other happy at night;). If you have been sleeping late since childhood, you shouldn't have a problem staying awake late at night. And all those fantasies will go away too if your brain isn't in overdrive.
     
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  8. Dec 11, 2016 #8
    peraaclom

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    Hi nofap528,

    I also have a big big problem with fantasizing, which I believe is the main trigger of all the PMO-related behaviors...

    I usually tend (tended, hopefully) to fantasize about girls / women I know...

    I'm trying to get beyond such fantasies by focusing on some trait of this girl / woman that qualifies her as a great and meaningful human being, instead of just a beautiful face / body...
    It's impossible (l think) not notice beauty, but focusing on what's beyond helps to avoid objectification...

    I explained it a bit further in my reboot plan (https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/my-reboot-plan-any-comments.83304/#post-666434), if you are interested...

    Stay strong!!
     
    Last edited: Dec 11, 2016
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