Marriage

When is a good age to get married

 

I agree with @lucky007 on this one, marriage is an dysfunctional concept that needs to finally die. According to statistics there is very high chance that you will divorce. Pay alimony, probably lose some of your property and even full access to your children. So why even put yourself in that stressful position? Doesn't make any sense.

But hey, if you really, really want to marry and learn from your own mistakes then I at least would suggest waiting until you are fully self sufficient. When you don't have collage debt (or any serious debt) and have a good job and carrier. There needs to be at least somewhat stable foundation to build it on. I would approximate it's probably around age of 30 - 40.

 

Ok I won't get married

 

Well I'm not going to let that scare me out of marriage. I will not conform to mere statistics. People often divorce because they think their love is irredeemable; but my favourite song lyric is 'love is never too lost to redeem'. I can enter marriage confidently knowing it won't end in divorce.
I think marriage is the pinnacle of human relationship. Why not get married?
A good age? whenever you are ready. I am aiming for 22-25 or something.

 

:O

 

'How to Love' by Out of the Dust
They are a husband and wife that went through a horrible divorce but restored their marriage.

 

So basically what I hear you saying is that you prefer to let your heart guide you, not your brain. Whatever works for you mate. But I frankly don't understand people who do that. Do you know something I don't? Cos to me it just seems like a slight form of insanity.

How do you know it tho? I mean yea maybe you know that you will stick to what you believe and value. But one thing that you can not effect is other person. So basically 50% of the marriage is in their hands. That's quite a lot that you don't have control over. Even if you two would have same values, beliefs and commitment now, people change. My beliefs and views about life are not as they were five years ago, even tho back then I felt that I will die with them. So how can you say that you know?

 

I personally think 25 and up. As for the "no benefits to marriage" remarks, I would say if you're looking for benefits then you're probably not in love. Love looks for what it can give, not for what it can get. That's been my experience.

 

Son of a bItch and you are married? How is that working out ? You in love?

 

I just don't think I will ever get married

 

Because I'm not good at communication to express myself and feelings for someone I'm attracted to. Plus they may not hAve the same feelings. I think my heart will be broken but I don't know if ill ever meet my future wife