50 yr old married American male wanting freedom from PMO and meaning in life.

Welcome to NoFap! You are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and not judge you

 

Let people know where you live or what times zone you are in. Also state whether you are looking for daily check-ins, or weekly, or something in between. Also decide if you want to contact via messages on here, emails, phone or an app such as r/tribe. There's a good chance you will have several APs by the time you are through. Some just disappear, others might no longer provide the kind of help you are looking for. Either way, don't feel bad if that happens, find a new AP, and keep going with the streak you are on.

Congrats on kicking the booze before it killed you!

 

Welcome, kicking alcohol is very hard. Props! Co-morbid/ dual diagnoses are very difficult! Better kick them before they kick you where it hurts most, your personality and ego. For me, alcohol was a crutch and a means of escaping myself. I was never a maintenance drinker, but a hard binge drinker. I could go weeks without booze, but, one Saturday or Friday, place me in front a bottle of whiskey and with nothing to do that day, then that booze would be gone faster than you knew it.

Congratulations for doing NoFap, mate! All the best to you. Keep up the journaling, it helps!

 

What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?

 

My strategies currently are to make a list of all the things I could lose in my life if my behavior does not change. Did I really need to lose my wife, my kids, my job, my friends? Just so I could see that next set of tits? There is no delete history button in life to hide who you really are from the people you love.

 

Should you ever want additional strategies please let us know.

 

Be sure to go to the reboot logs, go to your age group and begin your official journal. Add a link to this new member post so others can follow you and encourage you along your journey.

 

Welcome to the forum. Before I joined this community I felt all alone. I'm 43 and married and felt like there was no where to turn to get help for my problems. I thought I was old enough to have my life together; plus I was married and had plenty of opportunities to have sex so I couldn't understand why I had such a strong attraction to porn. Only when I understood that this was an addiction and found this community did I understand that it's not easy to break this habit. I also appreciated that there were thousands (perhaps millions) of others (including married men of my generation) who were fighting this all alone and in secret just like me. Just follow the path the rest of us are traveling and you will experience a big improvement in your life.

 

I strongly recommend you to take the NoFap Academy e-course, it will give you may good tools, and the best are the two Wednesday video calls with MArk Queppet and @alexander , they give great advise and coaching

 

Welcome John! Glad you made it. I'm clean from alcohol (and all other substances) since more than 5 years. Working on quitting PMO and other forms of sex addiction since 2010. Welcome friend, you are in good company!

 

It was online dating and swingers sites with me. I actually met with a few people I met online. So weird and so bizarre. I met them, but never did anything with them. The women were just so weird and ...disgusting...I was glad I walked away from those situations. But, yes, porn led me to more and more extreme behavior, like you.

Not so good. Glad we found NoFap!

 

Hi @duzzi welcome to NoFap
It is a big step if you can understand what is triggering your urges, because this will allow you to be awake and kill those urges as soon as they appear.

I recommend you to create your own "Emergency Toolbox" with readings that can be handy to read when you start feeling urges to screw up.
I can share this post with you with my own Emergency Toolbox, it helped me a lot during the first few months, i had them in my cell and read them every time I started falling down:

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...y-first-320-days-of-reboot.62938/#post-473978

I wrote some tips in this post that perhaps will help you too:

http://NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/tips-that-helped-me-to-start-my-reboot.46617/#post-330318
You can watch some interesting videos which are also very helpful in this post:
http://nofap.com/forum/index.php?th...t-help-me-a-lot-during-my-reboot.39774/page-2

I also suggest you to read "Breaking the Cycle" by George Collins, it is a must-read if you are serious about getting rid of this addiction.

Last but not least, I would strongly recommend you to take the NoFap Academy course if you can afford it. The course is great but the best value are the weekly video calls with @alexander (the creator of NoFap and NoFap Academy) and Mark Queppet, where you can chat with them in real life and listen to other guys's stories and problems too.

I hope that all this helps you to fight this shitty addiction.
Let's keep on fighting

Fercho

 

Hi @duzzi , I am glad you like it.
It is my favorite one
Fercho