Crossdreamer?

Seeing as how this is 'offtopic', I think you can probably post just about anything you want here to start a conversation. I'll admit, I'm kinda curious about your situation.

 

Hey @ConfusedwQuestions

I've forgot the details, but I used to have similar thoughts way back when I was a teen. Now that you mention it, I guess it was part of the reasons I got into M-ing too.

I've kind of gotten over it now though. I realized how guys and girls just have different roles during sex. So the kind of satisfaction they get at the end is actually different too (albeit similar). You know, it's like the portions between the biological and emotional satisfaction are different. If I have to put it in words, it's like how guys and girls have different mountains to climb. I could elaborate more, but it might end up as triggers.

Yes, I used to be jealous of girls and the attention they naturally get too. So I don't think our thoughts are that strange. I guess they are rare, though.

The thoughts faded out as I grew older and became more conscious of my roles. I guess at some point, you'll feel the same way too.

 

I think it's normal to be curious and even jealous of the way the opposite gender works, sexually. I often have major penis envy. But I'm a girl, so, that's that. I just try not to think about it and be happy with what I have, because there's not much you can do about it, aside from making some major life changes and surgery which is a huge leap to make over jealousy.

Also, it's so so so important to remember that everyone has their own set of problems. Like, okay, sure, women last longer in bed. But women also tend to have a much more difficult time reaching climax, many women rarely do with their partners. Also they bleed for a week straight every month and have to push babies out of their bodies. So... its good to keep things realistic and in perspective. Don't get swept up in the fantasy thoughts and the whole "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" mentality.

In general, having envy over something you will (presumably) never be able to have will only serve to make you unhappy with what you DO have. Envy and jealousy only lead to dissatisfaction. Obviously I know we're all human, and it's easier said than done to just give up jealousy. But my point is to try. Don't waste any more time being sad about something you don't have, because what good will it do you? Instead, make a conscious effort to focus on what you like about what you do have. For example, sometimes I really wish we had a house with more space. But then I remember the renovation I just did on the kitchen and how everything is exactly how I want it in there, and a new house wouldn't haven't that custom touch. I think it's good to turn those thoughts around as soon and as much as possible, and focus on what makes you happy rather than what makes you feel dissatisfied.

 

No, I wasn't looking for specific details on how you MO...just curious overall if you were experiencing gender confusion, or if this was something brought on by porn.

 

Bro did you get into these fantasies before or after you got into porn?

 

Wow, @ConfusedwQuestions . I think I'm starting to understand why this really bothers you. In my case, it didn't go that far. I understand how those feelings eventually lead you to MO, though.

Now that I think about it, I did found some male role models that eventually made me wanting to be like them. They had traits that I genuinely admire. Some of them might also be regarded as "beautiful" by some people, but still in a masculine sort of way.

I don't know if this helps, but being an anime fan, I was sort of exposed to the idea of masculine yet "beautiful" males. They may have the charm and attraction that you're fascinated with, but they also have other 'yang' traits (you know, I'm talking about the concept of yin and yang) in terms intelligence, strength, and mettle, that in the end, balances it all out.

To be honest, I didn't feel the same way about Bruce becoming Kaitlyn, though. So our sentiments in the end might differ, after all. Still, I really hope you'll figure out what you're looking for.

 

I got into the bondage shit too. But I wasnt imagining myself as a girl. Trust me. When you get to day 40 you'll be empowered because you aren't bound anymore. You'll be in charge!

 

Hey man, I think I am in the same shoes as you.... could you write me in private message your experiences? I am really hoping that there is a way out, and my (and our) destiny isn't that being a sissy submissive...