List 3 ways that PMO has affected your life negatively (poll)

1. Distorted my perception of women, sex and human relationships in general

2. Stunted emotional growth which prevented me from directing my life instead of reacting from a distance

3. Caused an arousal addiction (mimics ADHD) which prevented me from doing things like focusing on one task, reading a book, etc. etc.

 

1) Lost my wife's trust and affection

2) Grumpy ALL THE TIME due to he guilt, fear of getting caught and self loathing

3) All the wasted time. So much time chasing nothing

 

1. Looking at women as sexual objects instead of real people.

2. Bad sleep.

3. Unable to focus on work

 

Great idea for a thread!

My top three would be:

1) Created anxiousness and loss of composure in social situations

2) Reduced my ability to focus and do productive things in the real world

3) Made me feel like a secret pervert (because that's what I really was)

 

1. Wasted hours and days of time that I will never get back

2. Missed out on physical training that I love so I was unable to do any races this year.

3. Delayed in fixing the house to sell it this fall and now we have to wait until next year and if I do not get a job I am not sure how we will pay the mortgage.

4. Had intimate sex with my partner 1 this year since I could not perform that well.

 

1. Caused me to isolate and feel isolated even when around others because I knew I was a freak

2. Caused problems with sexual dysfunction

3. Created enormous amounts of inner turmoil and anxiety because my thoughts and my actions weren't aligning with my beliefs and my values

 

From a wife's perspective (of my hubby's PMO addiction):

1) Caused me to feel sexually inadequate and was a kick in the gut to my self esteem.
2) Caused me to not trust my husband, because I had caught him in so many lies.
3) Caused feelings of despair and hopelessness. After all, if I couldn't trust my husband, who could I trust?

 

This is a great thread:

1. Whole days wasted, appointments missed, work not done just to M.

2. Feelings of inadequacy, obsession with inability to measure up to some mythical standard, resulting in inability to perform when I was with real live people.

3. Increasing need for more novel and freaky P meant loss of self esteem, disgust with self and placing myself in unsafe situations.

 

1. Spent too much time masturbating and fantasising about women, living out my life inside my head instead of approaching women and developing real relationships.

2. Suffered from ED due to the 'death grip' of masturbation which impacted on the last two relationships I was in.

3. Developed stiffness and cramp in the muscles of my right arm and shoulder, which compounded my general feeling of unworthiness.

 

1. Made me a spineless coward when getting to know the opposite sex

2. Caused me to objectify the opposite sex and not treat them as real people.

3. Totally "drugged myself out" with PMO and made it so I didn't care about anything.

 

Three ways it has affected me:

1. Destroyed any intimate relationship I should have with my wife and distorted any type of attraction I used to have toward her and should still have toward her. I really do LOVE her!
2. Turned me into a dishonest man mainly toward my wife.
3. Stunted my spiritual growth and my ability to be the Family Head and also my ability to develop a good relationship with God.

Three ways it has affected my wife:

1. The stress of dealing with this 15+ year problem has caused her to start losing some hair and gain weight which doesn't help in appearing attractive to me.
2. She doesn't trust me and has anxiety when or if I ever go out with friends.
3. She feels worthless and she has depression issues most likely due to my addiction.
**She remains married to me due to our strong religious beliefs. Otherwise, she would've been gone a very long time ago.**

 

1. Wasted a lot of time, mostly during M in the nights, affecting productivity during the day
2. Because of the availability to get instant sexual relief, I wasn't "forced" to practice my social skills, which lead to a poor social life which caused...
3. Social anxiety, feelings of loneliness

 

1. Made my standards of what constituted an attractive woman ridiculously high and non-realistic, and gave me a feeling of awkwardness and stand-offish paranoia around attractive women, as if I thought they could sense my habits

2. Lack of energy, almost non-existent ability to "suck it up" and use brute force to get through tough situations

3. A feeling of filthiness and disgust, which simply did not match up with the rest of my life; it felt like a dark, defiled secret I was harboring, yet one I couldn't help but reveal parts of in subtle ways during everyday existence.

 

1.Took away all my motivation to live life and made me emotionally numb, all I cared about was getting off.
2.Would always make me socially anxious and isolated which would then cause me to act shy and be a scared spineless pansy.
3. Constant fatigue due to all the wasted loads.Chopping my meat 5-6 times daily gave me sever acne which really affected my confidence and social skills.

 

1. Wasting countless hours
2. Less social
3. Lack of motivation/inspiration

There are countless ways, but these 3 influenced me the most

 

distorted my perception of women
made me feel terrible
made me feel like i was disrespecting myself

 

I like that there are similar and unique experiences on here. Although each persons story is different, we all have similar thoughts on how it's affected us.

Mine are:
1. Low mood and negative thoughts.
2. Drain on motivation and desire.
3. Wasted time when I could have been socialising, learning, creating, exercising and loving someone real.