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Advice to Struggling Fapstronauts

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by LifeTransformation2017, Jan 3, 2017.

  1. I really hope some of you can use this to your advantage. I've achieved a lot of success with NoFap and I want to help out some of you. Beginning this past June I've gone for over 6 months without masturbating or watching porn. Well surprisingly that came to an end today, but I'm not letting that bring me down. Last night I was laying down watching TV before bed and I was thinking about how I needed some kind of release since I had been feeling really stressed out and anxious lately. Well that led me to trick myself into thinking that it was okay to masturbate because I had achieved so much success with NoFap and that I needed some kind of release since I had been so stressed out. I went back and worth about whether or not I should do it and finally I decided to do it once I got in bed. Well once I came and it was over I thought to myself "That didn't even feel good" It really didn't feel pleasurable at all. Well that's definitely because of the 6 month PMO free period that I went through. Well after masturbating I went to sleep and when I woke up this morning I had the biggest urge to PMO. So I thought since I masturbated last night, why not PMO today? It wasn't the right way of thinking and now I know that. Looking back after everything that happened in the last 12 hours I really wish I wouldn't have masturbated last night. With me and a lot of you on this forum, once we masturbate we have to do it again and again. We go on binges. 99% of the time I wouldn't just masturbate or PMO once. I would go on these binges where I would completely waste the day by not just PMOing once, but doing twice, 3 times, even 4 times. There might have been a day or two when I even PMO'd five times. I just can't control it. I'll PMO once and for the rest of the day I get the most intense urges to do it again and again. Also I can't masturbate without coming back to porn. Porn and masturbation are intertwined for me. They go together like peanut butter and jelly. If I masturbate without porn I ALWAYS end up coming back to porn. I noticed there are people on this forum who want to quit watching porn, but are perfectly fine with masturbation. I'm telling you right now masturbation is not in any way healthy. First off semen is so important. It's such a powerful, sacred, fluid. Just think in your scrotum you have the power to create life. You have the power to put a human being on this earth. When you masturbate you're just throwing that away. It's like you have no respect for life. I'm Catholic and I believe that's why Christianity says masturbation is a sin. Even is you're not religious you have to understand what you're really doing when you masturbate. Also by masturbating you're throwing away valuable testosterone. You're throwing away the hormone inside all of us that makes us men. Low testosterone leads to so many negative health effects. I'm sure all of us have experienced these side effects. Low levels of testosterone can lead to being tired all the time. It can lead you to suffer from anxiety and depression. It can lead to having trouble with memory and concentration. It can lead to low motivation and self confidence. It can lead to having a low sex drive and infertility. You don't need to masturbate. There's so much more to life than porn and masturbation. During my 6 month PMO-free period I learned that. Porn messes with your head. It changes the way you look at girls and life in general. When I was a severe porn addict all I could think about was sex and porn. That's all you wanna think about. You don't look at girls for who they are. You look at girls for their body. That's what porn does to you. You start to objectify women. Right now things aren't perfect. I just blew my 6 month PMO free streak, but I feel like that happened for a reason. I feel like I really learned something from it. After I relapsed last night I was thinking about what I just did. I thought to myself "What am I really doing when I masturbate and watch porn"? I had an epiphany. I realized what masturbation really is. PMOing is such a destructive activity. Trust me if you're reading this and thinking about masturbating or watching porn right now: STOP IMMEDIATELY! It's not worth it. It won't benefit you at all. It will only make your life worse. In a separate thread I'm going to talk about how I quit porn. You can look for that either tommorow or sometime in the next couple days. Keep in mind that I'm not perfect. I just PMO'd today. But my method for cutting out porn and masturbation worked really well for me. Everybody's different so my method might not work for you. But if you're really struggling like I was it's worth a try. I wanna thank all of you for reading this. God bless and have a great day!
     
  2. IGY

    IGY Guest

    It is strange to me that you are offering a method of cutting PMO, when you spent over 180 days in self-control and then made two rookie errors. What happened to your 'method' when you considered masturbating in bed and doing it to porn this morning? How long do you need to recover before you won't fall for the oldest tricks in the book? I am speechless tbh.
     
  3. From what I've seen this is kind of a common thing. A guy will have a long streak of over 180 days and then for whatever reason he blows it. It was a simple mistake that I've made many times. After a certain amount of time you feel less vulnerable and start to feel invincible like there's no way you can fall into the trap of PMO again. I didn't use my method or any of the tools I created to keep me from relapsing. I couldn't believe it either. I'm not even mad at myself though. I believe everything happens for reason and I really feel like I learned something from it.
     
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  4. This is a good post.
    I've been having urges all day and this post has helped convince me that PMO isn't worth it at all!
    God bless you man.
     
  5. Hey come on man. We all make mistakes you know.
     
  6. Glad I could help! Good luck to you on your PMO free journey!
     
  7. IGY

    IGY Guest

    Yeah, you're right. I suppose I was just blowing off steam i.e. frustration. :oops: No offence transformer guy. Keep going dude.
     
  8. Kurmutziku

    Kurmutziku Fapstronaut

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    I respect your ability to make it through 6 months without PMOing. This gives me motivation to get even through a couple of days without it. There is no benefit from doing so, I will use this post as motivation thank you.
     
  9. dandyman

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    thanks alot this is really helpful, ive spent alot of the passed two days looking at dating sites, youtube etc for whatever stimulus i can find, on day 12 fighting the urges. thanks again.
     
  10. Thank you for sincerity and your testimony in keeping on to live with more awareness ... reading what you have written I'm more motivated for "rebooting"
     

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