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Hard mode Vs. Quitting just PMO

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by danny_boy, Jan 4, 2017.

  1. Jan 4, 2017 #1
    danny_boy

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    Hey guys,

    I'm pretty new to this (Day 4 and feeling great so far!). I decided to take this on to escape the constant feelings of disappointment after masturbating to porn. I used to compare myself to guys in porn and feel inadequate in myself.

    What I'm wondering is are there more benefits to going hard mode than just giving up porn and fapping?

    Have any of you guys tried both and got better results from one than the other?

    Looking forward to a fap-free 2017!
     
    danny_boy, Jan 4, 2017
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  2. Jan 4, 2017 #2
    outedskeleton

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    It really depends on your personal motivation for doing this and what results you're looking to attain.
     
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  3. Jan 4, 2017 #3
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    I think it really depends on the person. Personally I found it best to do hard mode at the start 30-40 days to really reset my mind and cleanse it of a lot of the frequent imagery and urges I was dealing with. But for the me the physical need for release became super intense and it was making avoiding P, M and F more difficult. Occasional sex with my wife reduces the intense physical need which makes reprogramming myself away from P and F easier. We only have sex if it is intimate and connected and without any P fantasies involved. This seems to be working for me so far.
     
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  4. Jan 4, 2017 #4
    danny_boy

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    I guess it's two main things I'm after -

    1. I want to feel confident enough in myself that I'm not comparing myself to the guys in porn. I want to be comfortable enough not to let that get me down, to be happy with sexual partners.

    2. I also want to get out of the rut I've been in, become more productive and just get things done!
     
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  5. Jan 4, 2017 #5
    danny_boy

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    I see what you mean man. I'm only very new to this, but I can feel that urge for release growing already. I've got no intention to masturbate, I'm determined about that. But I was just curious whether it's best to let it build and build or if there's any harm in enjoying sex with another person as a release?
     
    danny_boy, Jan 4, 2017
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  6. Jan 7, 2017 #6
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    Yeah, you do have to be careful though. It can make the recovery longer and more difficult. Also you have to deal with the chaser effect which can be very challenging.
     
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  7. Jan 7, 2017 #7
    danny_boy

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    Yeah, I've heard a lot about the chaser effect. I think I'd definitely do well to just avoid it completely
     
    danny_boy, Jan 7, 2017
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