How many of you has a shrink or has had a shrink?

About five months ago, I finally found a therapist I like and get along with, after three unsuccessful attempts over the years. It has already helped me a lot but there's still a lot to do.
Asking what I'm in therapy for is like asking what single repair job needs to be done on a burned down and collapsed house...

 

I see one regularly for both alcohol abuse, porn abuse, and some other issues. It is incredibly helpful because I am able to articulate what is really going on in my head and I get to hear a well-learned perspective.

Unfortunately, good ones are hard to find. If you encounter a pill-pusher or the like, run fast.

 

I see a counselor every couple weeks for much the same as other posting here, which is addiction and abuse issues, anger, anxiety, depression. It helps a ton, even when I feel as though I'm doing "good"

 

I'm doing CBT for anxiety and depression ( not full blown though). Though at one point I told her that I've problem with PMO, she told me I'm totally normal. That even some normal people masturbate for 2-3 times a day. She told it's very important that I get information about this from reliable sources and not the web. LOL, I told her about NoFap, how it's as much about overcoming PMO addiction as it is about self improvement. She was a bit sceptical, but told me she'll check it out. But we never talked about it again. And she also suggested another psychologist from whom I can get 'reliable information' from. That source told me that it's all completely normal. That how much you masturbate depends on your sexual drive, that there's no need to feel so guilty. I understand that, but this is not about PMO as such. For me it's about learning to face the actual problems in life, to stop running away and to start dealing with them.

 

Oh no no no!!! Shit, I forgot to mention, 'she' is my PSYCHOLOGIST. I told my psychologist that I might have a problem and after she listened to my PMO experience she told me that I'm not addicted and that it's okay to masturbate in private and that usage of porn is okay as long as it doesn't fall into some weird category, and doesn't affect my social life. it would be hilarious if I tell my psychologist that she's more than enough for me

 

As most have been trained to view it as 'normal'.

Research is changing that:

www.fightthenewdrug.org
www.truthaboutporn.org
www.yourbrainonporn.com

All the best.

I've been to therapy and counselling. Nothing worked better for me than martial arts and meditation and finding a truly accomplished Master though.

 

Dude I want to go into a session with you and give her a lecture.

Lol, she isn't all knowing bro.

Psy's tend to have huge egos. Tend to think they know everything. They kind of have to in a way, being they are acting as a kind of authority over a patient. Good ones come down to a patient's level and talk as a close friend, but by doing this they get right into the heart and mind of a patient. They also tend to be open to learning new things.

Maybe tell the psy about all the new research showing how BAD porn is?

If you have the balls that is.

 

Yeah I'm very well aware, that's why I'm all for NoFap. But the public, especially women (not all), the older generation, those who haven't hit 'rock bottoms' haven't quite realised how big of a problem pornography is.
What I'm trying to do lately is to create routines for specific times of the day, for example time to exercise or time to drink green tea, and so on. I actually feel like writing a post on this. But I just relapsed today (day 7). But I'm trying to maintain my calm, try to build more routines into my daily life.
I love martial arts but right now I haven't got the opportunity, but I'd like to make time for it in the future. And as for Meditation, I haven't had much success. But I guess I should try on a more daily basis.
Good luck to you too sir

 

Yeah ofc

Yeah of course. She doesn't know much about this. She just started out as a psychologist. Therapy with her hasn't made any big difference in my life, but it has helped. But I'm not stopping with just therapy. I'm researching on my own as to how to overcome procrastination, low self esteem, anxiety, depression, give up PMO forever, and so on. Hope things will get better.

 

We make our own luck, but thanks Conor.

Sounds like you are putting forth the right efforts mate. I know seeing a psychologist can be difficult sometimes, for some people, but it could also be incredibly rewarding.

I encourage you to challenge her, I mean politely, next time she says something that may go against what you believe. If those beliefs are based on the truth.