Fapping Alone, is it wrong?

I can only ask......... why ?!?

 

Ive thought about this before, but your mind is used to your hand technique and youll need to adjust to the feel of others pleasuring you without taking control at all. Its all apart of relaxation in sex. Sex should be 20-30 minutes with one person and it feels different than your hand. You must stop any kind of pleasure in my opinion.

Imagine getting with a woman and you telling her to stop playing with you because she is 'not doing it right'. There is nothing relaxing about that. This is because you are so focused on the goal of orgasming and not the present journey.

I think its all or nothing. You're literally torturing yourself and the chances are higher that you will eventually crack and have to reboot all over again.

 

Well, it depends what you want to achieve... Theory says that edging causes even bigger mess with your brain's dopamine surging mechanism than quick masturbation, because it releases the hormone for a longer time than it would be with just a quick wank. You need to understand that curing yourself from the addiction is not about avoiding ejaculation - ejaculation is only the final stage of the evil here. You have to give your brain a rest from this masturbational stimulus - and I mean MASTURBATIONAL, not EJACULATIVE.

 

This is very well said.... From what I've read, dopamine addiction is the real root of the problem here, not actual masturbation (though of course one tends to lead to the other).... A reboot, (which seems to be the common cure-all) basically means giving the dopamine receptors a well needed rest !

 

I used to worry about taht when I was younger.

I would be to afraid of blasting too quickly. but then eventually with years of chronic fappery, and death gripping my slimy sausage, I simply took too fucking long to come.



and yeah it sucks, but let's be real man, you're on the other side of the spectrum - 5 minutes of lovemakin' isn't gonna cut dude, you gotta make sure time isn't and issue and you gotta be able to exercise control over your member so that you can satisy your woman.

perhaps a quickie a few hours before might add some time to your lovemaking, but once again - not too much