How to create lasting friendships?

I wonder the same thing - I think a lot of it is probably due to factors we can't control but some we can. I have never had any great long lasting friendships but I want to. I think this is something that happens on its own to a large extent; just be the best version of yourself and invite others into your life. It is my hope that if I start doing this, long lasting friendships will be able to form and I will be happier as a result.

 

How funny, I also find myself in the same boat as you. I always feel like an outsider and I am envious of people who are capable of forming strong bonds with one another.

I think a reason why I've been having trouble forming authentic, lasting connections is because I'm always hiding the bad parts of myself, such as porn and drug addictions. Looking back, my best friendships stemmed from a relationship of mutual trust and respect, which allowed the both of us to be more vulnerable with one another. Of course the further we get into our addiction, the more we want to hide ourselves. Maybe this forum is a tool for all of us to start unmasking all those facades we've taken on.

 

Since I believe in brevity so I will say.. keep on doing.. Good things Good people will come to you by themselves

 

Definitely interested in the views on this thread. I think being genuine and open is essential. Many men are not good at this as we often group around a purpose or task. That’s not to say that’s bad, and lasting relationships can develop that way and its often the entry point to open up meaningful dialogue. Maybe we just simply hide too much, not wanting to appear vulnerable and needy?