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I feel tense if I don't fap

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by David1407, Apr 4, 2015.

  1. MichaelJ

    MichaelJ Guest

    Well there are wet dreams, they take care of the unused semen. And also reabsorbtion.
    Funny fact: I never had wet dreams as a teen due to fapping constantly, so I felt a bit weird when reading they are normal and most guys have them. But I discovered them well into my mid 20s when I started going longer periods between fapping due to various reasons. Sometimes I would wake up cumming hands-free and that felt better than any masturbation orgasm. I've had some hands-free Os while fully awake (e.g. driving on a bumpy road and needing to pee), but it's so hard to achieve, that it's usually worthless to try. I've become so used to wanking that edging now is more pleasurable than hands-on Os. Which meant I had to stop.
     
  2. slickshoes

    slickshoes Fapstronaut

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    I haven't read all of the replies so it's probably already covered, but psychological withdrawal symptoms can definitely give you this 'tense' feeling. I feel like I'm on the edge of my seat. I've seen it with heroin, I've seen it with cocaine, I've seen is with nicotine and now I'm feeling it with PMO.

    My personal relationship to it is to attempt to reframe it. I know, with everything like this, it's easier said than done, and everyone has different ways, caveat, caveat, caveat- but I try to take that tense feeling and try to reframe it and think of it like a 'drive' rather than a 'tenseness'. I think "This drive I have to get up and do shit can be used so well, I'm going to get so much shit done to fulfil this drive's potential."

    As an aside, I once had this when I had super bad anxiety and panic attacks for a year or so - I was walking in the woods and on the edge of a panic attack - similar feeling to this, in a way, kind of 'on the edge' - so I used that drive to run. I'm not a runner, but I put on some music and ran. By the end of it, I felt so good, following this drive and running that I was actually smiling whilst running. It was weird.

    Anyway, maybe there's something that resonates for you or someone else reading this here, maybe there isn't. Let's all stay strong and remember this is a life change rather than an avoidance. I've found that to be key in drug dependencies. "Try not to think of a pink elephant" etc.
     
  3. Hisself

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    I am on day 97 of nofap hardmode and had a very habitual relationship with porn and masturbation that led me to think and feel the same way as you. I now feel like a totally different person and don't know if I've ever felt more alive. It is EXTREMELY difficult in the beginning and it might take a realization that porn will ruin your life and that there is no satisfying life ahead of you with porn to get you to stop. It's a fight for your life in every way possible. It gets harder before it gets easier but there is a major difference after 90 days and the urges do fade. Much of the tension you feel is the addiction and anxiety that porn gives you when it's in your life, it may be hard to believe but after several months without pmo you realize that it is the cause of the tension not the other way around. The natural tension you feel from everyday life should be dealt with through natural means such as exercise. That tension is your brain telling you that you are doing something wrong, either not doing something enough or doing something too much or both. When you quit porn you will be more in tune with your body and it will become apparent what you should do to deal with your emotions and that tension. Again part of that tension you feel IS your addiction and your brain trying to trick you into pmo it is not natural sexual desires it is like your libido on meth, way over stimulating and addictive. You will realize after a long enough break that you do not naturally need to release all the time the way you've conditioned yourself to feeling like you do. Hope this helped, good luck.
     
  4. Shabooka1993

    Shabooka1993 Fapstronaut

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    Hi David
    I am a doctor and am growing more and more interested in this field
    just wanted to let u know something
    after orgasm prolactin is increased (check links below)
    i learnt this from cupids poisoned arrow
    the reason i am meaning this when u study medicine ull get to know that prolactin is a natural dopamine inhibitor
    so ur excitement for other stuff in life will naturally decrease post orgasm
    thats why the book was recommeding karezza ; which is sex with orgasm lol SO if ud like
    i still have no idea how to release sexual tension when it builds up
    but listening to your body needs
    for eg if ur tired u need to relax meditate shower stretch, etc , go to a massage parlour that is not sexual ofc lol.
    go to the gym
    or maybe cuddle *as it increases oxytocin* not sure if it decreases sexual tension
    i still have no idea how to deal with it fully but am on a journey to discover more and more about this
    check these out if ur interested
    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16095799/#:~:text=Research indicates that prolactin increases,neurohormonal index of sexual satiety.

    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4901097/

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11166491/

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11835982/
     

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