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Awkward question for the women here

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Jan 30, 2017.

Have you broken your hymen from masturbation?

  1. Yes

    2 vote(s)
    6.3%
  2. No

    6 vote(s)
    18.8%
  3. I'm a dude

    24 vote(s)
    75.0%
  1. I wish I could love this instead of just like. Your daughter is a lucky girl, more men need to be this considerate
     
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  2. Sleeping_Beauty

    Sleeping_Beauty Fapstronaut

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    Really, I agree with FlawedChristian, this is a very wonderful post.
     
  3. Thanks Sleeping beauty :)

    He would be a fool not to. @PositiveChange1974 wrote a really, really good answer to you that I couldn't agree more with. Particularly;
    You see, to people like me, marrying a virgin is preferable, but if I met someone who had already lost their virginity, I wouldn't write them off because their past sexual experiences don't define who they are. I am not so narrow minded and sometimes I think the church is too narrow minded, to the detriment of lots of women (and men).
     
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  4. Wow, 2/3rds! I am thankful that I started this thread because my former ideas about hymens were very flawed! From now on I will have a clearer picture of what to expect in the future. And if I could send a message to my future sweetheart, it would be : don't even worry about it.


    Surgical hymen restoration is definitely a step too far :mad:.
    (Although, there is a really cool true story in a book 'Moral Revolution - The Naked Truth About Sexual Purity'. A woman was sexually abused from a young age by lots of bad men. She met the author of the book, who taught her about God's grace, and it changed her life. She believed that grace can restore her purity. Later, she married a young gentleman, who loved her for who she really was. On the honeymoon, she realised that she had a new hymen!! Yes, God did really restore her purity, and gave her a new hymen to symbolise it.
    Whether you believe this or not, you can take from the moral of the story. Purity is an inner quality. God only restored her hymen as an outward indication of the inward transformation that had taken place.
    Really cool story :cool:
     
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  5. Melis

    Melis Fapstronaut

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    Women are born with hymens or all shapes and sizes, some so small to some women it seems like they never had one! They can be 'broken' in all sorts of ways - it's all very individual, and no not necessarily sex-related. The intact hymen issue is historic in many cultures where blood had to be seen on the wedding night otherwise the woman was branded a Wh***. In many cultures, the practice of hymen reconstruction/plastic surgery is common and prevalent to this day.
    The point here, for empowered women and men in couples, is that it does not matter, this piece of skin or size of organ; what matters is how honest you are with each other and how spiritually committed to each other your are. It's more to do with knowing what is right and wrong in terms of not hurting each other emotionally.
     
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  6. Kristen

    Kristen Guest

    I only had sex once in my life and it was terrible. Hopefully that would ease my future husband...
     
  7. I feel for you. It must have been a shocking experience. You will find a fantastic husband, that much is true. In the context of an entire marriage, one bad encounter shouldn't discourage you or make you feel ashamed. Look to the future, it will be good :)
     

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