Really want to be honest

To be honest I really dont remember when I first started masturbate to porn, I might have been 12 or 14 or 16 years old. I really dont remember it was ages ago and everything is blurred now.

Well I can confirm that my porn blocker classified for example yourbrainonporn.com as porn website (obviously there is no porn there) or urbandictionary.com as a P-sub. So things like this really can happen.

On ther hand I can fully understand you too, honesty and trust is in my opinion the corner stone of every healthy relationship

 

Are you a troll or something?
That or you are arrogant.
Which is it?
Pete needs reassurance not judgment.
You keep bouncing back and forth between personalities almost.


Weird.

 

Im his wife ffs

 

Thank you for that. Imlock just says Pete001 is searching for sex.

 

Yeah I don't believe that.

But if it's true then why are you discussing your relationship problems here, nearly having a domestic here.

Why not go to a counsellor.

 

The councellor refused to work with us as they believe it is an addiction not a marriage issue. Rightly so. I am training as a family therapist and theres fuck all you can do in therapy if one person is a compulsive liar

 

Well I will do my assessment.

You hold a grudge against Pete.
As you are going to divorce. Is there a need to be so harsh anymore?
If you both made the decision to separate yourselves then why persist in demonising Pete?
He's owned up to his failings, even if it was too little too late. No need to kick a man when he's down.
Especially if clearly there's no interest in continuing a relationship.

 

Stop kicking yourself when your down too.

 

I'm going to say this because I don't really care about what anyone thinks of me.

But I'm siding with Pete 55% to 45% you. I know how he feels and I think it's a little cruel to be so hateful towards him for his addiction, regardless of how it may have affected anything. It's something that doesn't define him, but controls him.

I will also say that from the attitude and grammar you both use in this thread I can can guess that Pete is a soft natured type who wants to do good by you.
But you come off as quite aggressive and domineering to anyone who defends him.
Am I close?

I don't say this maliciously.

Well that's all I wanted to say.
Good luck Pete and his wife.

Don't worry this was a free session from Star Lord.

Peace.

 

In good times and bad times
In sickness and in health

 

Aren't wedding vows for everyone? Maybe underneath all the lies and silence there's still a husband who loves you very much. Just saying. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing maybe one day you'll realize. If you've never made a mistake maybe you should go ahead and throw the first rock.

 

I agree.
Sure lies are bad. But it also depends in what context the lie is in.

Personally I think having a divorce over porn is crazy, throwing away everything, just because of insecurity over porn.
Why not just ban computer use in the house or something and use a mobile that can only text and phone, no internet.

What every happened to through thick and thin, forgive and forget.

Hell I know couples who had affairs but still stayed married because they actually deep down loved eachother, they were just going through rough patch.

 

The ability addicts have to minimize the impact of their behaviour is astounding. You carry on mate.

 

Why are you here if all you do is try to belittle addicts and only express close minded opinions?
It's not helpful to the community to degrade their attempts to join in and express counter or for views.

If you don't like us...go away.
Because I'm tired of your attitude to us all.
I protect my fellow addicts.

 

So hateful...

You are also so clueless and deluded to who people are.
Why are you generalising and judging everyone here just because they fall under the category of porn addict?

You must be a saint, why else do you feel it right to condemn everyone here.
You aren't perfect either.

 

So I found this thread you posted.
https://www.NoFap.com/forum/index.php?threads/will-bdsm-set-hubbies-reboot-back.90462/

I know now why you are the way you are.
This explains everything.
Your aggressive tone, your controlling vibe.
Plus you've been blaming Pete for his addiction all the way through this thread, yet your sexual tendencies haven't exactly helped him.
You even say it yourself in your other thread that you are a femdom.
This explains Petes overly submissive tone in this thread.
I see through the act here.

Can't fool me.

 

At least everyone coming here is trying to make a change. All you do is judge as if you were perfect and better than the rest of us. No one is perfect. Your husband is trying to make a change because he loves you and all you care about is yourself now who's selfish.
Also you say that we don't care about responsibility have you read my first post in this thread in which I advised your husband to stay away from porn? You obviously don't care you simply choose to read/hear what you want to read or hear.

What are you going to do when you're divorced? Look for another man? Find out he's just the same sooner or later? No one is perfect but it seems your husband loves you very much at least he has the guts to confess about it. He wants to change it seems but you don't seem to care about it. The grass may seem greener on the other side but it's not. Don't use this as some excuse to run away from your vows is what I would advise.

I pity the people who come to you looking for help. What a way to help people if you treat them like you treat us.