Really want to be honest

Do you hear yourself?
You sound insane.
3rd person posts are signs of a strange person.

 

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He has never confessed. He has only been found out. Victim blaming is one of the core traits of addiction. Look it up.

 

Wow. I'm trying to read this thread with an open mind and make my own decision on what went wrong here, and she proceeds to dismantle her own argument by pretty much self-destructing.

You know, more often than not the truth lies somewhere in the middle, there are three sides to every story, etc. But this display of instability points to problems within the marriage much bigger than the porn addiction, the lying, or the domineering attitude. I hope they both get help and move on to better lives.

 

Yes it's a total mess.
The husband has owned up to his failings and is already seeking to improve himself. But the wife is stuck in the past and refuses to see any sense in anything new.

But her last post was the last straw.
More degrading and generalised attacks to addicts.
She's lost within her own demons, in denial and refuses to see anything.

 

This thread is now locked. It has strayed from the original intent and devolved into personal attacks.