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My life back to square one no matter how hard i try.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by stui, Feb 15, 2017.

  1. stui

    stui Fapstronaut

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    I don't know where to start but i'll highlight what i am going through:
    On Nofap for 1 year, longest streak 49 days, many streaks ranging from 2-5 weeks.
    I am not able to go for 90 days even if i do there is no improvement in Social anxiety and brain fog, people still consider me a weak man after 1 year of nofap and many long streaks due to brain fog and social anxiety.
    Currently i am thinking about taking SSRIs but i am not sure whether they would heal my brain fog somedays i can't understand a joke let alone make a joke. Today i am crying because after all the hard work i am back to square one i am that same old weak, awkward, and always in the room study type of guy, i fear social interactions.
    Nofap isn't helping me in terms of social anxiety so should i take SSRIs and please suggest some strategies whether i would get back to a normal human being level or i'll stay like this awkward all my life.
     
  2. change_my_life

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    Hey man i no how you feel i keep falling but i suggest starting a daily journal i bet it will help you more dont turn to anti depressents u will be stuck for life it just clouds it like pmo has done the pain will be still there!
     
  3. change_my_life

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    Also every 30 days treat yourself with something a few days holiday maybe new shoes? Clothes a trip? Book it in advance so u have targets!
     
  4. stui

    stui Fapstronaut

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    Thanks change_my_life but don't you think the medication would help me in overcoming social anxiety when there is no other option
     
  5. change_my_life

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    There is an option! Try going over 90 days first thats were the magic happens! NoFap is about being patiance it is about working for it! Am sure there is alot of people here that would tell you the same thing am workin towards 90 days myself i no how you feel its shit Anti depressents are always bad they make u more depresed than you was in the first place..
     
  6. Divinekarma

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    Stuart, Social anxiety is a byproduct of PMO. You'll have to achieve a 3-6 month abstainance in order to recuperate to a great extent.

    Alternative method to deal with SA? Try and Act opposite of what you've been thinking about yourself. If you don't feel confident just go out there and fake it until you make it. It should help also ensure that you get adequate amount of exposure to sunlight as it helps cure depression.
     
  7. Ibnmorales

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    What are you doing on your days that you are not PMO .? ..you have to do activities that rise your testosterone ..Weight lifting is recommended , i also recommended to check your testosterone levels just to make sure that your T levels are normal but stay positive 49 days is a long streak things will work themselves out its really a me vs myself scenario so reading books on philosophy etc to get different views of life use that urge to masturbate to advance your goals and make your life more meaningful best of luck to you
     
  8. stui

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    The problem it's been a year and i haven't cracked 90- days let alone 3-6 months which seems almost impossible task for me, because i always relapse due to my brain tricking me.
     
  9. stui

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    I am preparing for a competitive exam in June this year and it requires consistency and dedication that's why i can't do other things and sit in my room all day and study even if i do other things i am not fully in them and fear if i'll fail the exam due to wastage of time it's a horrible situation.
     
  10. Divinekarma

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    You must learn the art of ignorance! Just like we ignore our enemies we must ignore PMO by ignoring the urges. Your brain is not your enemy don't think that way. Your conscious mind is with you, it is what helps you start your Nofap streaks. The problem lies with the unconscious and subconscious part of your mind which doesn't know yet about the decision taken by your conscious mind. It takes about a month for a decision to turn into habit so just hang in there you'll surely make it.


     
  11. change_my_life

    change_my_life Fapstronaut

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    Whats the difference between subconsious and consious mind and how does pmo effect this?
     
  12. dhw87

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    Try out new things, other strategies to fight against pmo, every person have different ways that works for them for that.
    Don't give up or live dependent on drugs, that's like running away better try and fail, as long as you don't give up there'll always be a way
     
  13. Divinekarma

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    Looks like I cannot share links. Anyways this article taken from staroversky should help clear the difference in depth -

    The consciousness mind is you awareness at the present moment. You are aware of something on the outside as well as some specific mental functions happening on the inside. For example, you are ware of your environment, your breathing, or the chair that you are sitting on.

    The subconscious mind or the preconscious mind consists of accessible information. You can become aware of this information once your direct your attention to it. Think of this as memory recall. You walk down the street to your house without consciously needing to be alert to your surroundings. You can talk on the cell phone and still arrive home safely. You can easily bring to consciousness the subconscious information about the path to your home. You can also easily remember phone numbers that you frequently use. It is possible that some of what might be perceived to be unconscious becomes subconscious, and then conscious (e.g. a long-forgotten childhood memory suddenly emerges after decades). We can assume that some unconscious memories need a strong, specific trigger to bring them to consciousness; whereas, a subconscious memory can be brought to consciousness more easily.

    The unconscious mind, consisting of the primitive, instinctual wishes as well as the information that we cannot access. Although our behaviors might indicate the unconscious forces that drive them, we don’t have easy access to the information stored in the unconscious mind. During our childhood, we acquired countless memories and experiences that formed who we are today. However, we cannot recall most of those memories. They are unconscious forces (beliefs, patterns, subjective maps of reality) that drive our behaviors.

    It's not just PMO every addiction be it Internet addiction like FB, YouTube or addiction of alcohol etc is basically just a habit we think we can't get rid of. All you need to do is ignore and abstain firmly and let all three systems of your mind accept it as a new habit.
     
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  14. stui

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    My brother has also social anxiety and he is taking SSRIs the only thing that has changed for him is the fear has decreased of social interaction, and when i am on long streaks my social anxiety keeps decreasing but once i relapse boom the whole thing comes back
     
  15. Ibnmorales

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    So focus on that (studying finding new things to read or new things to study go to a library where it would be easier for you to socialize )... its not easy to kill the urge to masturbate i think everyone on this forum can agree to that , are problem is we fail to direct that sexual urge to a productive or beneficial form of outlet ,Try to figure out your triggers times' when you have relapses I'm pretty sure theirs these subtle triggers that leads to a thought and etc find that trigger fight because you can do it and destroy it every time you over come that trigger you win and days turn in to weeks weeks turn into months and by the time you know it you won't even entertain the thought of relapse or anything PMO related ... i hope this helped
     

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