Life is soo fucking boring

Hey man, In my opinion, it sounds to me that your spirit is saying that it's time to take up a hobby ( I feel like this is 1 of the reasons ) . You need to find something you think you would enjoy doing, progress and grow in, and utilize that hobby so that it can be apart of your life or lifestyle. For example, it can be "painting" / "writing" / "music" / "exersising" / "traveling" / etc... something you can genuinely look forward to everyday, get excited about new ideas from it, and willing to have patience to grow in. Take time in finding one so that you know exactly what you want to do... heck, you can have 2 hobbies if you want... It's all up to you .

 

Boredom is desensitisation. Over-stimulation of your dopamine receptors with porn causes them to down-regulate, meaning you get a lessened response from dopamine in future. Dopamine itself is necessary for us to feel excitement and enjoyment of new and old activities alike. It's the "fun" chemical. So with decreased function, everything becomes less fun. In other words, it's not your boredom causing your relapses - it's your relapses (and the years of PMO before that) causing your boredom!

To give two contrasting examples of this. I want you to imagine back when you were a little kid. Back when you could just imagine things and run about outside and enjoy life fully. Back then your dopamine receptors were functioning fully, and so every activity brought you excitement - and anything NEW brought you so much excitement it was often overwhelming.

Now compare that to now. It isn't that the activities got any less fun, or that you're "just getting older" - it's that you're desensitised. In order to restore the ability to enjoy every day activities again, you need to remove or reduce any influences that are further down-regulating your dopamine receptors. Over time, they'll be able to up-regulate again, and you'll genuinely start feeling as happy and excited for life as when you were a 5 year old (No exaggeration, I can confirm this from personal experience. A couple of years ago I found nothing in life fun - now I find everything fun).

Things that will further desensitise you include:

• Porn
• Masturbation
• Drugs (including alcohol, cigarettes, and even caffeine to a lesser degree)
• Gambling
• Social Media
• Video Games
• TV
• Computer use
• Phone use

To name a few. Now some of these are fine in moderation (the occasional drink, or the occasional coffee, using computers or phones in moderation, or watching a little TV every now and then, or playing a game every now and then etc) - but if you're investing a lot of time into any of the above things, it's hindering your recovery and going to add to the boredom factor.

My suggestion, if you really want to cure the boredom, is to take 2-4 weeks off everything on the above list. The exception being if you for example need to use your computer for work/something productive - but if you do that, just do the thing, then switch it off. You can come back to using things like your computer, phone, tv etc in moderation afterwards - but a complete break for a short period of time will allow for a much quicker recovery - much like when you aim to "reboot" with NoFap it's best to do hard mode etc to speed up recovery in those first 3 months. I know this isn't something a lot of people want to do - but if you're really serious about being able to enjoy life like when you were a kid again, then do it, and you'll be pleased with the results.

 

Hi,

I also have the same problem of getting bored to easily. To combat that I constantly stay on the move, working out, hanging out with any friend, going to the movies with or without people, reading, hiking.
An exciting lifestyle doesn't come to you, create it. Go on a trip by yourself or pester your friends to go with. Try hiking up a mountain. The worlds your oyster, own it and take it. Getting bored easy is a good thing if you know how to funnel your attention and propel other things in life. I hated being bored so much I opened a business and it is thriving.

I agree develop a hobby of some sort whether it be fishing, sports, writing, hiking, biking, swimming, anything and get good at it for the right reasons.

 

Read the 2nd chapter of "Intimate Connections" by David Burns. It'll talk about this kind of situation.