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I just can't quit....

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Hugstr, Feb 15, 2017.

  1. Feb 15, 2017 #1
    Hugstr

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    I'm 22 years old , i've been struggling to get rid of this addiction for 10 years now. It started during puberty when I was 12.And it's still a problem, as soon as my anxiety comes I can't stand it, I have to watch porn.Even if I try to meditate all the negative thoughts take over my brain. I 've lost my confidence. I can't get a fully functional erection during sex. And I never had a girlfriend before and keep looking for one but I fail everytime. I also have ADD so I lose focus often when i'm doing stuff and the pornthoughts come. I feel unmotivated for life and everything sucks and I don't know what do do? I feel like a loser.

    And I live in Sweden , everyone here are just pretty I'm not joking I'm in heaven. When I see a hot girl these feelings come " I have to go home and watch porn". And the thing is I'm disugusted that I'm sitting home and watching nasty porn instead of having a cute girlfriend that I can have sex with. For like 7 years now I've been watching shemaleporn,lesbianporn , porn in general etc. I'm very uncomfortable with the transwoman part I feel that is wrong , I'm 100 % straight but I don't want i to be like this . I've tried so many times to quit but I can't. I passed 10 days then I could not stand it anymore. I've never had a girlfriend and never had sex due to all this. And I don't have any confidence anymore so can someone out there tell me what to do? I'm going to therapy but that doesn't work for me!
     
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  2. Feb 15, 2017 #2
    Hiraeth

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    Sorry to hear that bro!
    Get K9-Webblocker. Block the porn on your laptop and give the password to it to a person you can trust.
    Also get 'Qstodio'. Also use that on your Pc/laptop AND on your smartphone. You need 2 accounts seperatly. Also give the password to a friend.

    that way you can't watch porn no matter how much you want. The first 3-4 days are the hardest, after that your will power will start to return and things will still be hard, but way easier.
     
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  3. Feb 15, 2017 #3
    Hugstr

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    Thanks bro!
    When I had a 10 days streak it was so easier but as you say the first days are the hardest ones. The thing is I have to much free time.
     
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  4. Feb 15, 2017 #4
    Hiraeth

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    Maybe you should try to avoid spending too much time on the computer. For me spending all day on it is a sure-fire way to relapse. It's like holding your hand above a candle all day, on second you will drop it and burn yourself.

    Edit: Those P blockers are both for free you don't have to pay a penny.
     
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  5. Feb 15, 2017 #5
    Hugstr

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    Yeah being a pornaddict spending the day in front of the computer it's a little bit like being an alcoholic with beer in your refrigerator.
     
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  6. Feb 15, 2017 #6
    D . J .

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    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and not judge you.

    What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
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  7. Feb 15, 2017 #7
    Hugstr

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    I will not use the internet for 90 days, told my mum to hide my computer and iphone during that time and get a nonesmartphone.
     
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  8. Feb 15, 2017 #8
    D . J .

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  9. Feb 15, 2017 #9
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    The key to overcoming any addiction is extreme self-discipline. That means treating yourself as if you are in boot camp in numerous areas in life. Forming habits like exercising, keeping a regular schedule, limiting computer time, taking cold showers, and avoiding sugar will all help you achieve your goal. It is very very difficult to break an addiction like this, and it requires action.

    Speaking from personal experience, I adopted those disciplinary measures a couple months ago. I got to about 70 days and then slipped back into my lazy habits. Then I relapsed. Now I am starting again. Don't make the same mistakes that I made then.

    Good luck, and stay strong.
     
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  10. Feb 16, 2017 #10
    Elkanah

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    Welcome to NoFap Hugstr.
    I feel your pain, the anxiety can be so strong sometimes, it just takes over everything.
    Know that you're not the only one dealing with this, as I'm sure you've seen by looking around this forum.
    Everyone here understands what you're going through, and we are with you all the way.
     
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