HALP! Feeling stuck...

Capt. · Feb 13, 2017

Hey guys, I've a few questions for which I'm seeking advice/tips/tricks.

I had a pretty bad day in terms of exhaustion at work (think I'm coming down with a flu) and a pretty bad stomach ache. Now by the time I got home I was physically drained and couldn't muster up the self-discipline to stop myself from PMO'ing. My brain wanted a pick-me-up in the form of a dopamine rush and I felt powerless to stop it.

I know that the key to abstaining from PMO lies in self-control and mindfulness, but when you've had a shitty day and a lil fap sounds like a good idea, what are some strategies to counter this thinking? I usually go to the gym later in the evening, so I do lift; I know that a lot of people suggest exercising to divert their attention.

However, as soon as I get home & before bed tend to be dangerzones in terms of being susceptible to a relapse. These times are when I get on my laptop - and like Pavlov's dog I seem to have conditioned myself to looking at porn. So how do I eliminate this association and shift my perspective to using my computer as a learning & productivity tool? I've downloaded books and courses which I want to get through but my motivation to complete them diminishes after fapping.

I've incorporated cold showers into my morning routine, however it seems to be near the end of the day that I have the most trouble keeping discipline. Sometimes if I see a few hot girls during the day my stupid & perverted mind gets racing which leads to me getting horny as hell. I currently tend to give into these urges, but is there a way to prevent these urges? Or will I just have to deal with it a part of the reboot?

Any help on these matters will be greatly appreciated. Good luck to everyone; don't give up the struggle to regain yourself!

P.S. I'm looking for an AP if anyone's interested. 20M studying business. Give me a shout!

Capt. · Feb 14, 2017

Struggling through Day 2 now...

Mateo89 · Feb 14, 2017

Capt.

You sort of answered your own question.
Be mindful of your triggers and avoid them until you are properly rebooted.
Avoid using the laptop before bed. You can instead do something else, like read, meditate, w.e

Best
Mateo

Freefaller · Feb 14, 2017

I agree with Mateo. My issue was/is I want to continue playing near the edge but not fall in. You can't do that, though. You will fall in every time.

I've been in your situation plenty of times. You feel because you had a shitty day, popping one off is deserved, won't affect you, etc. Except it will. Like Mateo said, do something else. Read a book, pray, write, dance until you are tired. Stay off that laptop or phone.

Mateo89 · Feb 14, 2017

Capt,

I've just launched the NoFap Kik Group Chat,

I invite you too join, if you are interested,

Best
Mateo

precivilization · Feb 14, 2017

is there a whatsapp group?

Mateo89 · Feb 14, 2017

precivilization said: ↑

is there a whatsapp group?
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No, unfortunately its only KiK. Its free to download in the app store

Mateo

Proceed · Feb 14, 2017

What usually helps me when I experience triggers is to
#1. Remain calm
#2. Move on with the rest of your day and do the things you've set out to do
#3. There are some questions you can ask yourself that I learned from another guy on here who had not PMO'd for several years, and they are "If I act now, where will this lead me?" and "How will it leave me?" I have these tacked up on my bulletin board. Because indulging in pornography is disgusting and almost always a bad idea, if you just ask yourself how you will feel afterwards before you PMO, you can divert your attention to something else.

Capt. · Feb 15, 2017

Thanks folks for your suggestions! Unfortunately as we all know it's much easier said than done, but it is what it is.

@Mateo89 I'm definitely interested in the kik group. I'll create an account tonight.

@Proceed Thats a good idea. Those questions remind me of the quote that goes something like "Suffer the pain of discipline or suffer the pain of regret"

MonacledGentleman · Feb 15, 2017

I also remember times when I was struggling, and got an unexpected phone call, after I hung up, I was completely not in the mood anymore. Maybe try making the unexpected phone call yourself. Call someone you know just to chat. You don't have to tell them you're calling to distract yourself, just that your calling to say hi. Obviously face to face works too, basically interacting with another human.

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