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Im desperate please help

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by run, Feb 27, 2017.

  1. run

    run New Fapstronaut

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    Here my story, from kindergarten I like girls, I had many crushes only in girls.And between ages 7-10 I would look for naked women pictures because I like it and it would arouse me and I would rub my dick on anything, and feel arousal. My first exposure to porn was at age 9 and I started watch porn at age 11 I would see a boob and go crazy it was great but I would watch it every day for 3-4 hours with mutiple orgasm, and I would escalate and after a 1 year of watching the last porn with women was rape and after that a would only excited by transexual and gay porn,and I would image that someone is raping me like that. And my question is if Iam gay why I havent been aroused by men in staright porn but I would imagine that Im that men and that for example some women siting on my head while Im licking her pussy she lick my penis. And my question is why some people escalate in several years and I escalated in 1 year and now when I see naked women for example solo girl porn I would get erection but ist like I have seen that many times its not the same,and even my fantasion are now for example having sex with my female teacher i get erection but its like I dont feel anything and in real life I dont turn for girls and if Im gay why I dont turn for men either Im not atrtracted to men body but just penis and I get that atraction to penis after 3 years of watching before that I would get turn by agressive gay sex. Maybe Im bisexual and more attracted to girls, maybe because of I didnt realise that Im attracted to men because its more for women and do you think that will come back because how can someone be gay if he gets erection to naked women and how can you just stop be attracted to straight sex because when I would imagine straight sex I would be so aroused and now it takes much longer to get aroused its like borin. Does anybody has this probelm?And sorry for bad english.
     
  2. PostiveChange1974

    PostiveChange1974 Fapstronaut

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    Your situation is not unusual.

    Unfortunately, porn makes you a voyeur, and being a voyeur can confuse you. When you are watching porn and masturbating, you are receiving the same pleasure you would no matter what you watch. It's the feeling of your hand, toys, whatever. It always stays the same, not matter what flashes in front of your eyes. This can cause you to become confused. If you had those situations in real life you would learn that many of them aren't desirable because it doesn't feel good, or even hurts. But when you 'watch' sex, it can take down strange roads.

    Here is something to realize. Watching sex isn't the same as having sex. You are letting the imagery define and question who you are, and asking yourself if you want to do those things, but what you are right now, is someone that likes watching sex while masturbating.

    NoFap reboot can help. It helps you put the imagery away for a bit, and lets your mind clear. With that, your own desires will come to the surface, while those that are just curiosities will fade.

    I recommend you try it with us. With what you described, I think you will find that what you have been feeling is just a strong attraction to sex in general, and not really gay, bi, or whatever. If you can do a reboot, and the desires keep coming, then you can start to ask yourself if that is who you really are. (By the way, it's totally fine to be gay or bi, I just don't think you are actually there)
     
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  3. run

    run New Fapstronaut

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    Its very strange that Im not sexualy attracted to anyone in real life a dont tun to see womena butt or if Im gay why than Im not attracted to mens body when I look men solo porn I dont get erection but when I look women solo I get erection but I feel like I have seen too many women bodys Im not turn on like before.
     
  4. Your mind has been warped and molded by porn. This is a problem for many of us on this site. @PostiveChange1974 is right, you need to do a reboot. Go 60 or 90 days without masturbating or looking at porn. Post daily in a forum here to let people know of your progress. Read others post in the forums to help you understand this addiction. Eventually your mind will clear and you will become a much better and more confident person! Then you will also have a better understanding of your sexual attractions.
     
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  5. PostiveChange1974

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    I have faith you will be ok. First, you aren't supposed to feel attraction to all women everywhere at all times. That isn't the definition of hetro sexual. The fact that you do find women's in porn arousing is someone telling.

    (A good question, are you currently dating, or in a relationship? Sometimes this isn't an issue if you aren't mentally in a place to even pursue the opposite sex. Don't assume that attraction is always 'switched on' for healthy people. It doesn't work that way.)

    There is an emotional and intellectual component to attraction. There is a chance that you don't feel you could have something in real life, or such fear of being vulnerable, or being seen 'sick', in real life that you are holding yourself hostage, and suppressing attraction in the real world. (I have had and being treated for depression). With that condition, you don't just feel sad, there are long periods of time where you feel 'nothing', and even sex and porn is boring.

    In short, there are reasons why your male sexual radar isn't giving you any pings in real life. There are things to address this though. As we said the NoFap reboot is a good (free) approach to start. It may help clear things up.

    If you are worried heavily about it, start this list below now. If not, give yourself the full 90 day 'hard mode' reboot, and see if your body changes any. If nothing changes, then start this list below).

    Beyond that:
    - You can seek a medical check up to makes sure there isn't any conditions that are causing issues (There are dozens of medical reasons that can leave you feeling this way)

    - You can review what prescriptions you are currently taking to make sure there isn't any side effects going on. There are dozens of meds that impair sexual functions

    - You can speak to a counselor to help look inside and see if there are fears, negative-self talk, or other emotional influences. This can help you find a place to relax, and will help attraction to be a more natural thing for you

    - (If you are under-active or overweight) You can start a work out routine which help loose weight, and get some self confidence going, while helping your body get to a place where you can better regulate your libido

    - (if you are over-active or underweight) You may want to see a personal trainer/nutrician. Being too under calorie, or too over trained can kill libido.
     
  6. Ms123

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    I'm not gay or bi,but I used to watch transgendered person porn years ago.I gave it up back in 2010 so it's almost been 10 years since I watched it.You lose all desire for it man.When i look at a transgendered person now(because they're so many out in the general public and on social media) I question what the fuck was I doing because they don't arouse me in real life.But like he said up there it's just the arousal of what your watching and your brain wants more.So that's how I crossed over into that world because I wanted more stimulation.But it's something you get out of overtime.
     
  7. DBNGUY

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    I recently joined this forum. I was exposed to porn at the age of 10 as I was being sexually abused by an uncle. It just escalated from there. When I was 14 i masterbated on my own and the first time you ejaculate is well unforgettable. It reached a stage where I used to masterbate everyday, not only my teen years but into my 20s.

    After I got married it didn't stop. I am now 33 and it still plagues me. When my wife is asleep I will go to my favorite porn sites. When I am home alone I watch porn. It is becoming sick. After making love to my wife I can still watch porn. I joined this group because it is time to say that I am an addict. Whether it's one in a while or everyday it is a problem. I hope that finding people with similar problems will give me the strength to get over this.
     
  8. Ms123

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    I'll tell you what I used to say when I had a gf and watched porn.You can't have the best of both worlds man.
    Give up porn but continue to sex with your wife and also when you're ready,tell her about it.And when your kids get older tell them the dangers of watching porn.Everyting that you have watched in porn is all you need to see.You're not missing by not watching it and don't try to trick yourself into thinking you are.Take it one day at a time.I'm on day 35 and I feel great.
     
  9. You is cancer in you; not in your brain but in your mind. Its called porn addiction. Its a virus which begins single and grows inside your mind, feeding on it, just like like real cancer. Cancer is difficult to cure and so is porn-mastbtn-orgsm(pmo).
    Prolonged pornographic use has made your brain secrete a chemical called d-fosB. All of your neurons are currently diped in it... But Dont worry unlike real cancer this is far effectively curable if u have the will power to be cuered. All you have to do is watch 0 porn. 0 means complete zero. Not a single porn no matter what. Eliminating porn will clear your brain of all the d fos b s and you ll be alright..
    Remember although it outs more effectively cued than cancer Dont for one second think easily curable than cancer. Curing pmo is very difficult. You re in for a war... Which will actually decide your life... Where you ll end up.... Take pmo war seriously...
    And be brave. You can do it. Dar worse people have successfully done it.. We re here to help
     
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