Triggered by female friend. 65 days in

Stay the course - and remember that once you cross that bridge it's very hard to go back over it again. It's totally normal for you to have sexual attraction to a female friend. This is why that scene in When Harry Met Sally, where Harry explains that men and women can't be friends - is funny. It has an element of truth in it. Of course men and women CAN be friends, but sexual tension is a normal byproduct. Does she know about your reboot? Is she a really close friend?

 

I kinda feel ya man, wanting a girl who's just a friend to you.
I don't really know what to say. I wouldn't know to be blunt at this case or not. Knowing me, I'd probably just say "I'm feeling really emotionally 'erotic' towards you". Hehe that wouldn't be a good idea.
If you told her that you want a little more than a friendship with her, she'd just end the friendship right there. And the pain from that would probably lead to a relapse.
However if you did tell her, and you two did lead to a peaceful agreement, that would serve as a really good testament of each others friendship.
I once told a dear friend of mine that I had a crush on her, then asked if she'd like a relationship, she did say yes. But I admitted that it didn't feel right yet and she agreed, and she said she doesn't want to ruin our friendship. So we both peacefully agreed just to forget I ever said anything and to use it as a testament of our friendship that we can feel comfortable telling each other things like that.

However you say you want to have sex with her. Try turning this energy into something else. Buy her gifts, next time you say farewell to each other kiss her cheek. Kiss her hand next time you two see each other. Turn this erotic pleasure into gallantry. After all, that is what gallantry is. It costs nothing and gives one all and is the condition for all, erotic pleasure.

So what I'm saying here is, turn these sexual urges into something else towards her. If she turns away and snaps at you, then 1, being friends with her probably wasn't worth it, and 2, your sexual urge wasn't gonna get satisfied no matter what then. So just be gallant towards her.

This is just my opinion on it.

 

Just stay the course on your reboot. You don't have to chase or indulge every impulse/emotion you have. One thing I've noticed about a lot of addicts, myself included, is that we are lead around by our emotions. That and we tend to overthink and over analyze things which are just a part of nature or really mean nothing at all.

 

So you have a good point at which you can work on yourself.
And if she is your good friend don't try to escape friend zone to have sex with her, it won't work and you will loose friend.
I tried once and it was a bad idea.

 

You have become sensitive after all these pmo free days. This is a positive sign and no you are not in love; it is just your mind trying to find fix in real life as it's not getting porn anymore. This feeling should come and go.

 

Think twice before you say or do anything, heck think over it three times maybe even more! Your brain is looking for ummm...yeah...Maybe try dating some other females so the way you see her will go away?

 

If i think about kissing a girl it is enough for me to get a boner. Its that pretty good progress?

 

You r obviously gonna encounter stuff like this for the rest of your life bro.
I think our brains r mixed up wit pmo and real life sexuality....
This is a good test.
I advice u to be keep yourself busy and workout a lot. Do something manly like hiking or gyming or something.
Because u need to feel in control and also good abt yourself.
You badly need to vent this out from your system but in a good way.

 

Definitely refrain from doing or saying anything toward her because if she were to say no, get upset or pissed off that will be a hard pill to swallow. Honestly, if you don't think that this is going to be good for you to continue go ahead and tell her that you cannot continue to tutor with her. I wouldn't risk your reboot or your pride by continuing to tempt yourself being around her. Whenever you're trying to reboot your brain from porn arousal, you can become sensitive to even mild stimuli so this feeling is normal. Just focus on why you started this reboot process and keep working toward that

 

Even if you weren't on a reboot, it's normal to go through 'crushes' at times. I'm 40+ and I still get them occasionally, even with women I don't find that attractive. It's a situation of spending time with someone, and you feel a connection, and suddenly your brain turns it into more.

If you look up the meaning for lust, there are actually different types of lust. One is one the type we use the word for all the time which means the desire for sexual arousal. Another type of lust is a desire for loving connection. It's based on the weakest of temporary connections.

Just stay honorable right now. You aren't in a place where you can do much more than lust. It fades, and it's often surprising how bad it comes and then goes.

If you find you are still feeling this way several months from now. Talk with her. Tell her you have been feeling a bit different, and wondering if she would consider something different. Just be open, and if she says no, let it go.

 

This sounds like a perfectly normal libido to me! If you are having urges for real woman that is a sign of a normal healthy male. You like this girl, naturally you want to be sexual with this girl. Even if it happens i would consider that a good thing as Long as you don't masturbate or turn to porn from the urges.

 

Oh yeah it is but it can also make you sad if you don't have a gf or can't get one.

 

Yea i figured :/