My introduction.

Hello readers,

I am a 30 year old male, and probably i have been using porn or some kind of erotic content since i was 15 or 16. But i would not call it so much a porn addiction in the beginning, but more a masturbation addiction. But ever since i had the opportunity i was using also porn for more excitement. The impact of it on my life is probably that i never had a serious relationship in my whole life, i had have sex with several women but it was more like a very short romance than a relation. Well i had been thinking about quiting porn and masturbation but i usually had survived 2 weeks or 1 month tops. And i had no big motivation to do it because i could not find any good answer for the question if masturbation is good or bad. So i was always letting it just come back to the old masturbation/porn habit. But encountering a TED-talk about porn use, and its effects on the brain gave me finally the scientific proof i needed to make this change last now, although i dont think i have PIED, i really think that the porn/masturbation addiction is causing problems in my life/relations. I did not watch porn for some weeks already, but i did try to masturbate but without finishing (ejaculation). Anyway today is March 1st so i will start my quest for abstaining from PMO for 90 days. Hope it helps

 

Thanks for the encouragement D.J.

My strategies for combating PMO,

• exercise to use up the extra strength
• Reason, science and clear mind to know that this is the better and the rational way to go
• hobbies like mountain-climbing to exhaust me beyond the regular
• reading books rather than surfing the Internet where i might be exposed to some sexual content

After my 1st day on the 'pledge' i was thinking more about that than i usually do, i don't know if there is now extra pressure since i officially started to do the 90 days challenge. Anyway the night was the worst, since all my dream that night seem to be erotic. But still holding on.

 

Yes i was reading that already

Day 2 was easy,
Day 3 when i was working is even easier, because i have no time to think about these kinds of things.

But the best advice i found on this forum is just acknowledging the moment when You are getting wrong ideas - then You say 'hahaha - gotcha, You are trying to confuse me, i mindfully accept that and turn away from that idea' ... and off it goes

 

Day 9, still hanging on

 

Day 14. Still hanging on. The porn is absolutely no problem, but hmm... my penis is starting to itch... and i might have more thoughts about girls.

 

Day 24. Hanging on. The porn is still no problem. But the urge to masturbate is still there, and i think its getting more serious probably. But im still fighting.

 

Thanks mate, You can also do it at least imo the first 2 weeks seemed easy, now I am getting to the hard part. But thanks to the support here, im still hanging on. Day 25.

 

Day 31. The Porn is no problem still, and since i know the bad influence of it, i am not tempted to actually by porn itself. I was working out more lately, and doing a 100 burpies a day is enough to make me tired enough that there is no strength for thinking about masturbation even. Although i miss masturbation i want to make the 90 day without PMO, after that i will see where will i be.
And btw 1st stage, 30 days done!

 

40 days without PMO, i am amazed that i made it this far tbh. I am aiming for 90 days but it gets harder and harder....

 

80 days... wow

 

Almost at the end of my 90 day challenge. I cant really believe that i am going to make it. 90 days straight without PMO. I even dont remember having any wet nights. But that also gets me to the another question - should i go back to masturbation? I will surely not go back to watching Porn, no questions there. But i really do think about masturbation, if its good to include it again - but since i didnt do it for 90 days i can easily imagine holding out much longer. I dont have a girlfriend so i am also not having any other kinds of Orgasm.

After that period, my life changed for better. I had more time for doing outdoor stuff. I workout now 6-7 times a week. I lost some weight and i am eating very healthy. I stopped playing video games, started brushing my teeth 3 times a day instead of 1 (this was always an issue for me). In general i grew as a person in the last 5-6 months, and one part is thanks to stopping using PMO.

 

Well day 91 is over, and im still PMO free. D.J is probably right i can imagine that M would somehow lead into P again. And i got still so much going on i don't really have time now to do M, neither some urge. Thanks for the advice.

 

Thanks, Thanks D.J. for Your support and Your tips\guidance
day 96 without PMO still, and probably its gonna be like this for a while more, lets see how much i can get