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After the reboot

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by staub, Mar 13, 2017.

  1. Mar 13, 2017 #1
    staub

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    So, I am currently on day 77 of my (initially planned) 90 day reboot.
    I also signed up for PMO march so there's more after 90. :p

    All stuff aside, I'm curious what comes after this?
    I know the phrasing is naive, but that is intentionall.

    The obvious answer is, just continue to 180 days.
    All good and well.
    But I have a hard time imagining that everyone jsut does this.

    My personal goal when I started here was to break the porn addiction cicle and I came to the conclussion, that a reboot it the only real way to do so.
    By now I had my ups and downs and temptations, but also some huge improvements on some fields as well as a lot of self control.

    So, my question is. To those who finished their reboot, what do you do now?
     
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  2. Mar 13, 2017 #2
    Rikarwb

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    As a person who has not finished yet, i can safely say that for a serious addict, 90 days is not nearly enough. I would even dare to say for most people, 90 days is not enough ... But that's debatable.

    But i imagine ( and from reading other people's opinions and stories ) that after the challenge ... comes the acceptance of the prize ( well, duh :p ). What i mean with that, is that you embrace the No PMO style in your life - Forever.

    Weather you choose to NEVER PMO again, weather you choose to masturbate once a week, once a month, once a year, weather you choose to go back to your addiction ... you went through a new experience, and got a lot of knowledge to where your situation is, regarding your addiction. So with that power, you decide your future.

    I started this whole thing for fun, because "Although i was watching some wierd kinky porn every day and masturbating to it, i just wanted to try new things, never thinking something was wrong with me" ( the irony :rolleyes: )

    Now, after 6 months of no porn, 5 months of no masturbation, i can say that i had a problem ... or if i didn't have one, i was going to have one. After a couple of months without urges, yesterday and today i was really close to failing - It's a constant battle, that is always changing.

    So, from a person who has not finished yet ( and maybe never will, who knows ), you choose what comes after this. If you want to say PMO free, you do it. If you want to go back at it, do it ( although not advisable ). You choose.

    Now what you choose ... only you can know :D
     
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  3. Mar 13, 2017 #3
    staub

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    This. This is literally me. xD
    Thanks for your input. I mostly ask because I'm curious how others here go on after their reboot. I'm less than 2 weeks away and I personally am quite sure I will continue with noPMO. I saw some major improvements to my life, and even though I can't 100% say it was due to stopping PMO, it happend now that I stopped. Coincidence? Maybe. Maybe not. ;)
     
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  4. Mar 13, 2017 #4
    Rikarwb

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    From past experience, i decided not to look at numbers ( regarding the "objective" ), because in the past, i wanted to go for 2 weeks without PMO ... at the end of those 2 weeks i was like "I WON, BITCH" ... Next day i returned to PMO.

    And so right now, to be honest, I'm kinda lost XD I haven't seen ANY major differences in me, except that i don't PMO. Maybe slightly more aggressive and assertive ... but nothing too different. I kinda want to quit because "Why not?" ... but at the same time, i don't want to quit and return to my old habit... But seeing so many people saying "THIS CHANGED MY LIFE !!!" ... Maybe I'm jealous, dunno.

    But i need to admit that, I KNOW WHY my life hasn't changed ... Maybe porn was never my biggest problem: i have social anxiety, and that is, without a doubt, the one i need to change. I knew my social anxiety didn't come from porn, so naturally, it wouldn't go away when stopping it. But has a person who have not PMO for months ... i can say social anxiety is worse to fight, because it's an irrational fear. So "how can you fight something that is not there?", you know ?

    But don't let this take you down. Maybe you'll be the one after some months of no PMO, you'll be a super hero XD But just be sure to be rational, and to know your situation. The worst thing you can do, is to be blind and deaf in a pit full of lions that want to eat you ...
     
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  5. Mar 13, 2017 #5
    staub

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    It's sad to say but maybe that is the one ibg flaw with nofap as we do it here.
    While it's true that PMO is a problem for us, maybe it's not the root of it all. People use any kind of substance (like we do the serotonin rush from fapping) to escape reality or to cope with it. But why do we end up needing to do so?
    Very early I already suspected that simply nofap is merely a stepping stone to start with, and then use that momentum to turn things around.
    I personally lost a few kilo so far but started doing sport. Also I am actively trying to get dates. Both things I did not do before.
    As said in my last post,
    (yay quoting myself)
    You start to change one thing, and others fall in line "while you're at it".
     
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