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My Friend's Godmode

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by MercenaryKing, Jan 9, 2016.

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Mar 16, 2017 #121

MercenaryKing Fapstronaut

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THE SEQUEL'S UP.

Thank your all for your patience.

MercenaryKing, Mar 16, 2017

MercenaryKing, Mar 16, 2017

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Mar 21, 2017 #122

pukernast17 Fapstronaut

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can you plz, share the link to the sequel , am afraid i cant find it

pukernast17, Mar 21, 2017

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Mar 22, 2017 #123

vibemaker Fapstronaut

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My Journal

It looks like it has been deleted. There was a post a few days ago, but now its gone.

vibemaker, Mar 22, 2017

vibemaker, Mar 22, 2017

#123
Apr 2, 2017 #124

MercenaryKing Fapstronaut

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Soz guys, it got taken down but it's back up now!

MercenaryKing, Apr 2, 2017

MercenaryKing, Apr 2, 2017

#124
Jan 29, 2018 #125

Powerous Fapstronaut

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MercenaryKing said: ↑

EDIT: Hearing how strongly many of you relate to this story has given me strength these last months. The sequel for this post is up! A lot has happened for both of us. The spoiler is that I feel more confident, happy and fulfilled than I have for years. And Alex? Well, he's reaching ever-higher levels of awesome.
Stay strong my brothers. Focus on improvement not perfection. A better life is possible for everyone.

***

I'm new here and this is a long post but I promise it's worth reading (there's a tl;dr at the bottom).

My friend (let's call him Alex) and I discovered Nofap together in early 2015, totally by accident as we simultaneously discovered Game (getting good with women). Both of us were 18 at the time and used porn semi-regularly. I'd like to share a comparison between the two of us, because the fact is that he stuck with Nofap and I didn't. And I have seen him become a god. I hope this will inspire you on your own journey.

Both of us are introverts, very introspective individuals. I was known at school as the genius-guy- I've always been good with words and that ability of expression alone made me seem smart. People seemed to think I was quite charismatic and talkative, and I've only discovered recently that a lot more girls were attracted to me than I realised at the time. But the thing is, I had zero confidence. I've got a lot of good stuff going for me but I've struggled with serious depression for years.

Alex on the other hand was always quieter. He's a musician and a surfer, and very attractive in that unique mixed-race way. He used to spend nearly ALL of his time (except when surfing) playing computer games and watching movies. People were intrigued by his mystery but he didn't have a lot going for him. He was a virgin while I had lost mine to a girlfriend the previous year.

So we discovered Nofap, and dove right in. Why not right? We were always looking for that one life-changing revelation. But none of my streaks reached a month long. He just powered on ahead.

The change I saw in him is the most radical shift I have ever seen in anyone. Of course, I can't correlate everything to Nofap, because after he pussied-out of asking a beautiful girl to the Formal (prom) only to discover she decided not to go because she didn't have a date, he was determined never to avoid something again. "I refuse to have regrets!" was his basic catchphrase. So he set about getting good with girls and not avoiding risk at the same time as doing Nofap. But Nofap was 100% the big trigger and definitely the biggest driver of the change I saw.

He got a friends with benefits and discovered that his brain was so wired for porn that he couldn't orgasm during sexual acts with a girl and would sometimes experience ED. But he powered on, rewiring his brain, gaining sexual prowess. Simultaneously he was becoming more social, much more confident and self-assured. He stopped playing computer games completely, much to the judgement of many of his friends. "Life's a game" he said to me once, "and I'm winning. Why waste my time on getting better at League of Legends when I could be getting better at piano or girls?"

And get better he did. It was like watching a flower bud and blossom in fast-motion, a volcanic eruption of progress (for such significant life changes. We're talking half a year or so here). He shifted his faulty wiring so he was always hard during sex and could orgasm with a girl, how nature intended. He moved out, away from our coastal town to the heart of Sydney. He went overseas. He made lots of new friends. He had a lot of sex. To date, I have never met someone as good with girls as he is. It's like watching a master at work. He's totally happy and fulfilled with his life. He has a vocation, regular sex, hobbies and friends. I've really seen him become a man.

I say this because I want you all to know what's possible. I think a lot of us hold the belief "well maybe him, but he was already skilled/attractive/charismatic and just didn't know it". But that's a lie, a lie to keep us comfortable in our shitty lives. The truth is that all of us have this latent power within us. Meeting Alex a year or two ago, you would never have been able to guess the shift that was coming. He was just a normal guy.

Me? I forgot about Nofap. I sort of eddied around in the churning wake of his success, taking some of his advice on girls, reading a lot of self-help but doing nothing much, still watching porn, having late nights, procrastinating, wasting my time on the internet, feeling shit about myself. I've been the ultimate avoidance machine.

But it could never stay that way. I couldn't get out of these awful patterns of thought that had plagued me most of my life, and I knew I had to change. It just felt impossible. But the catalyst was two events.

First, I had gotten myself a friends with benefits. We had met up a couple of times but hadn't done anything that sexual yet (rookie, I know). Alex had helped me along the way with tips and suggestions. But when we finally got naked, the nightmare happened. I was reasonably hard, and rolled off to get a condom. By the time I had got it on I was soft and couldn't get hard again. She wasn't that bothered by it but I couldn't get hard again. It was like it was totally disconnected from my body, no feeling whatsoever. It's an awful feeling.

Still I did nothing, until this New Year's Eve. I had a Finnish girl with me and we were staying downstairs at Alex's in Sydney after watching the fireworks. I had been in a bad mood all night: we didn't meet up with the Finnish girl (who I previously knew) until we were heading home, so the whole night I was third-wheeling with Alex and the girl he was with. I was feeling terrible about myself, like a child. He was trying to pump me up to meet women or sleep with the Finn once we got back. I was experiencing a contradiction: knowing that I could be good with women, could be happy and fulfilled in my life, but feeling powerless and child-like, especially compared to him. And I had the lurking fear... ED. What if it happened again?

I was sleeping with the girl in the same bed when we got back. We ended up kissing and touching and she said she wanted more. Lo and behold, I reached for the condom, unwrapped it and went to put it on... soft as butter. I felt 100% unaroused. She seemed sympathetic and went to sleep. I sat awake.

I realised that I got furiously hard watching porn, reading erotic fiction or in my room alone, imagining sexual encounters, but when it came to physical sexual experiences, my penis wasn't that interested. Even with my old girlfriend, I honestly wasn't ever that excited for sex. My brain just wasn't wired for it. I had messed it up.

I sat there in the dark, the girl breathing quietly beside me. This changes everything, I thought. This is the physical embodiment of everything that's killing me inside, my lack of confidence, my depression, my avoidance. All made manifest in a soft penis. I knew I had to change. Otherwise I could never enjoy sex, I'd just avoid it out of shame. Otherwise I'd never be able to get good with girls because I'd be thinking about the inevitable sexual failure to follow. Otherwise I'd continue jacking off and lying on my bed afterwards, feeling drained of all vitality.

I'm only on Day 11 now, and I think I might be flatlining already. No wild changes so far. But of I could recommend some things to complement your Nofap:

Exercise- my god it helps. Whether cardio or working on your muscles, you'll look better, feel better and sleep better.

Less sugar- you'd be surprised what a role this plays in neurochemistry and the gut.

Meditation- I got sick of hearing about meditation and started. Many times, especially in the beginning, you'll be annoyed that your brain's so easily distracted, so petty. You have to recognise that as a distraction in itself. No expectations! Just be present.

Go to bed earlier- one of my ongoing demons. Dial your bedtime back by increments, and get up earlier. Nighttime can be likely, a time of endings. Mornings are a time of possibility.

Socialise- even if you don't have energy for it. Guys, girls, doesn't matter. Get out there.

Date- even though I'm dealing with my brain and my penis, I knew I couldn't allow that to be an excuse to stop talking to girls. So get on tinder! Read up on Game, the good social-dynamics and evolutionary-psychology stuff, not the women-hating stuff. It's fantastic to get women off the pedestal without regarding them to pornographic objects.

I can't pretend to be a guru on this. I've just started really. Changing habits is like swimming against the tide. It's hard, until your ripples slowly shift the flow of water in the direction you're going.

I was out canoeing with Alex the other day and I told him all this. He smiled wistfully and said that it made sense: he'd been pushing me to give improvement with girls my best efforts but had noticed that I seemed to be holding back on life.

"Nofap changed everything for me," he said. "It was the catalyst for everything else, my reason to keep going." He told me that I was better than him in a lot of ways: he had just worked harder while I had stayed in a slump.

I'm going to beat my depression. I have so many good attributes to build on, and so do you. And I'm going to beat this ED. I don't care if it's a quick fix or a longer journey. I don't care how many girls I have to mess up with. And then? I'm going to improve my sexual prowess, and I'm going to live life well. It's all starting right here, right now. Little changes. Snowballing over time. When that happens, you'd better believe my victory post is going to be a lion's roar. 2016 is the year I become me. Because I'm not like Alex. We have different personalities, different demons to face. But in the end, I'm going to look him in the eye as equals. Screw porn. Screw procrastination. Let's live instead.

And that's the truth, my dear fapstronauts. We all have so much potential, sitting dormant within us. Alex unleashed that potential. I'm starting my journey to doing so now. We can all build the life we want. It all starts with closing the laptop and opening the door to improvement.

Thanks for reading and you can do it!

tl;dr: my friend and I were lazy, shy porn watchers. He quit and became charismatic, happy, a risk-taker, great with women and fulfilled in life. I'm doing the same now. We all have this potential within us. Go live life!
Click to expand...

wowwwwwww

Powerous, Jan 29, 2018

Powerous, Jan 29, 2018

#125

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Jan 29, 2018 #126

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Very good story. Read some Pick Up Artist forum and you'll know some game techniques.

Although at the end of the day, stay true to yourself regardless of how the things with women play out. May you find peace.

SkyFallBack, Jan 29, 2018

SkyFallBack, Jan 29, 2018

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Jan 30, 2018 #127

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Absolute masterpiece of a post, got me real pumped up. After I read the part "we all have the talent with in us" I instantly saw my self from 3d view and felt an energy go through me like it opened my eyes, and sort of saw the potential that we can achieve. The way you put it all together, got me all pumped up to keep going, 8 days in. And I can already understand why it was good to stop masturbating, I did not at first. Thank you very much friend! And I hope you enjoy your journey, and fight through, and not feel left behind!

Lukas99, Jan 30, 2018

Lukas99, Jan 30, 2018

#127
Jan 30, 2018 #128

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Thanks

OrekiDestroyer, Jan 30, 2018

OrekiDestroyer, Jan 30, 2018

#128
Jan 31, 2018 #129

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MercenaryKing said: ↑

EDIT: Hearing how strongly many of you relate to this story has given me strength these last months. The sequel for this post is up! A lot has happened for both of us. The spoiler is that I feel more confident, happy and fulfilled than I have for years. And Alex? Well, he's reaching ever-higher levels of awesome.
Stay strong my brothers. Focus on improvement not perfection. A better life is possible for everyone.

***

I'm new here and this is a long post but I promise it's worth reading (there's a tl;dr at the bottom).

My friend (let's call him Alex) and I discovered Nofap together in early 2015, totally by accident as we simultaneously discovered Game (getting good with women). Both of us were 18 at the time and used porn semi-regularly. I'd like to share a comparison between the two of us, because the fact is that he stuck with Nofap and I didn't. And I have seen him become a god. I hope this will inspire you on your own journey.

Both of us are introverts, very introspective individuals. I was known at school as the genius-guy- I've always been good with words and that ability of expression alone made me seem smart. People seemed to think I was quite charismatic and talkative, and I've only discovered recently that a lot more girls were attracted to me than I realised at the time. But the thing is, I had zero confidence. I've got a lot of good stuff going for me but I've struggled with serious depression for years.

Alex on the other hand was always quieter. He's a musician and a surfer, and very attractive in that unique mixed-race way. He used to spend nearly ALL of his time (except when surfing) playing computer games and watching movies. People were intrigued by his mystery but he didn't have a lot going for him. He was a virgin while I had lost mine to a girlfriend the previous year.

So we discovered Nofap, and dove right in. Why not right? We were always looking for that one life-changing revelation. But none of my streaks reached a month long. He just powered on ahead.

The change I saw in him is the most radical shift I have ever seen in anyone. Of course, I can't correlate everything to Nofap, because after he pussied-out of asking a beautiful girl to the Formal (prom) only to discover she decided not to go because she didn't have a date, he was determined never to avoid something again. "I refuse to have regrets!" was his basic catchphrase. So he set about getting good with girls and not avoiding risk at the same time as doing Nofap. But Nofap was 100% the big trigger and definitely the biggest driver of the change I saw.

He got a friends with benefits and discovered that his brain was so wired for porn that he couldn't orgasm during sexual acts with a girl and would sometimes experience ED. But he powered on, rewiring his brain, gaining sexual prowess. Simultaneously he was becoming more social, much more confident and self-assured. He stopped playing computer games completely, much to the judgement of many of his friends. "Life's a game" he said to me once, "and I'm winning. Why waste my time on getting better at League of Legends when I could be getting better at piano or girls?"

And get better he did. It was like watching a flower bud and blossom in fast-motion, a volcanic eruption of progress (for such significant life changes. We're talking half a year or so here). He shifted his faulty wiring so he was always hard during sex and could orgasm with a girl, how nature intended. He moved out, away from our coastal town to the heart of Sydney. He went overseas. He made lots of new friends. He had a lot of sex. To date, I have never met someone as good with girls as he is. It's like watching a master at work. He's totally happy and fulfilled with his life. He has a vocation, regular sex, hobbies and friends. I've really seen him become a man.

I say this because I want you all to know what's possible. I think a lot of us hold the belief "well maybe him, but he was already skilled/attractive/charismatic and just didn't know it". But that's a lie, a lie to keep us comfortable in our shitty lives. The truth is that all of us have this latent power within us. Meeting Alex a year or two ago, you would never have been able to guess the shift that was coming. He was just a normal guy.

Me? I forgot about Nofap. I sort of eddied around in the churning wake of his success, taking some of his advice on girls, reading a lot of self-help but doing nothing much, still watching porn, having late nights, procrastinating, wasting my time on the internet, feeling shit about myself. I've been the ultimate avoidance machine.

But it could never stay that way. I couldn't get out of these awful patterns of thought that had plagued me most of my life, and I knew I had to change. It just felt impossible. But the catalyst was two events.

First, I had gotten myself a friends with benefits. We had met up a couple of times but hadn't done anything that sexual yet (rookie, I know). Alex had helped me along the way with tips and suggestions. But when we finally got naked, the nightmare happened. I was reasonably hard, and rolled off to get a condom. By the time I had got it on I was soft and couldn't get hard again. She wasn't that bothered by it but I couldn't get hard again. It was like it was totally disconnected from my body, no feeling whatsoever. It's an awful feeling.

Still I did nothing, until this New Year's Eve. I had a Finnish girl with me and we were staying downstairs at Alex's in Sydney after watching the fireworks. I had been in a bad mood all night: we didn't meet up with the Finnish girl (who I previously knew) until we were heading home, so the whole night I was third-wheeling with Alex and the girl he was with. I was feeling terrible about myself, like a child. He was trying to pump me up to meet women or sleep with the Finn once we got back. I was experiencing a contradiction: knowing that I could be good with women, could be happy and fulfilled in my life, but feeling powerless and child-like, especially compared to him. And I had the lurking fear... ED. What if it happened again?

I was sleeping with the girl in the same bed when we got back. We ended up kissing and touching and she said she wanted more. Lo and behold, I reached for the condom, unwrapped it and went to put it on... soft as butter. I felt 100% unaroused. She seemed sympathetic and went to sleep. I sat awake.

I realised that I got furiously hard watching porn, reading erotic fiction or in my room alone, imagining sexual encounters, but when it came to physical sexual experiences, my penis wasn't that interested. Even with my old girlfriend, I honestly wasn't ever that excited for sex. My brain just wasn't wired for it. I had messed it up.

I sat there in the dark, the girl breathing quietly beside me. This changes everything, I thought. This is the physical embodiment of everything that's killing me inside, my lack of confidence, my depression, my avoidance. All made manifest in a soft penis. I knew I had to change. Otherwise I could never enjoy sex, I'd just avoid it out of shame. Otherwise I'd never be able to get good with girls because I'd be thinking about the inevitable sexual failure to follow. Otherwise I'd continue jacking off and lying on my bed afterwards, feeling drained of all vitality.

I'm only on Day 11 now, and I think I might be flatlining already. No wild changes so far. But of I could recommend some things to complement your Nofap:

Exercise- my god it helps. Whether cardio or working on your muscles, you'll look better, feel better and sleep better.

Less sugar- you'd be surprised what a role this plays in neurochemistry and the gut.

Meditation- I got sick of hearing about meditation and started. Many times, especially in the beginning, you'll be annoyed that your brain's so easily distracted, so petty. You have to recognise that as a distraction in itself. No expectations! Just be present.

Go to bed earlier- one of my ongoing demons. Dial your bedtime back by increments, and get up earlier. Nighttime can be likely, a time of endings. Mornings are a time of possibility.

Socialise- even if you don't have energy for it. Guys, girls, doesn't matter. Get out there.

Date- even though I'm dealing with my brain and my penis, I knew I couldn't allow that to be an excuse to stop talking to girls. So get on tinder! Read up on Game, the good social-dynamics and evolutionary-psychology stuff, not the women-hating stuff. It's fantastic to get women off the pedestal without regarding them to pornographic objects.

I can't pretend to be a guru on this. I've just started really. Changing habits is like swimming against the tide. It's hard, until your ripples slowly shift the flow of water in the direction you're going.

I was out canoeing with Alex the other day and I told him all this. He smiled wistfully and said that it made sense: he'd been pushing me to give improvement with girls my best efforts but had noticed that I seemed to be holding back on life.

"Nofap changed everything for me," he said. "It was the catalyst for everything else, my reason to keep going." He told me that I was better than him in a lot of ways: he had just worked harder while I had stayed in a slump.

I'm going to beat my depression. I have so many good attributes to build on, and so do you. And I'm going to beat this ED. I don't care if it's a quick fix or a longer journey. I don't care how many girls I have to mess up with. And then? I'm going to improve my sexual prowess, and I'm going to live life well. It's all starting right here, right now. Little changes. Snowballing over time. When that happens, you'd better believe my victory post is going to be a lion's roar. 2016 is the year I become me. Because I'm not like Alex. We have different personalities, different demons to face. But in the end, I'm going to look him in the eye as equals. Screw porn. Screw procrastination. Let's live instead.

And that's the truth, my dear fapstronauts. We all have so much potential, sitting dormant within us. Alex unleashed that potential. I'm starting my journey to doing so now. We can all build the life we want. It all starts with closing the laptop and opening the door to improvement.

Thanks for reading and you can do it!

tl;dr: my friend and I were lazy, shy porn watchers. He quit and became charismatic, happy, a risk-taker, great with women and fulfilled in life. I'm doing the same now. We all have this potential within us. Go live life!
Click to expand...

Thanks a lot for this post brother! It was truly motivating!

I hope we all achieve great heights like your friend in the future...

Deleted Account, Jan 31, 2018

Deleted Account, Jan 31, 2018

#129
Jan 31, 2018 #130

Asgardian36 Fapstronaut

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MercenaryKing said: ↑

EDIT: Hearing how strongly many of you relate to this story has given me strength these last months. The sequel for this post is up! A lot has happened for both of us. The spoiler is that I feel more confident, happy and fulfilled than I have for years. And Alex? Well, he's reaching ever-higher levels of awesome.
Stay strong my brothers. Focus on improvement not perfection. A better life is possible for everyone.

***

I'm new here and this is a long post but I promise it's worth reading (there's a tl;dr at the bottom).

My friend (let's call him Alex) and I discovered Nofap together in early 2015, totally by accident as we simultaneously discovered Game (getting good with women). Both of us were 18 at the time and used porn semi-regularly. I'd like to share a comparison between the two of us, because the fact is that he stuck with Nofap and I didn't. And I have seen him become a god. I hope this will inspire you on your own journey.

Both of us are introverts, very introspective individuals. I was known at school as the genius-guy- I've always been good with words and that ability of expression alone made me seem smart. People seemed to think I was quite charismatic and talkative, and I've only discovered recently that a lot more girls were attracted to me than I realised at the time. But the thing is, I had zero confidence. I've got a lot of good stuff going for me but I've struggled with serious depression for years.

Alex on the other hand was always quieter. He's a musician and a surfer, and very attractive in that unique mixed-race way. He used to spend nearly ALL of his time (except when surfing) playing computer games and watching movies. People were intrigued by his mystery but he didn't have a lot going for him. He was a virgin while I had lost mine to a girlfriend the previous year.

So we discovered Nofap, and dove right in. Why not right? We were always looking for that one life-changing revelation. But none of my streaks reached a month long. He just powered on ahead.

The change I saw in him is the most radical shift I have ever seen in anyone. Of course, I can't correlate everything to Nofap, because after he pussied-out of asking a beautiful girl to the Formal (prom) only to discover she decided not to go because she didn't have a date, he was determined never to avoid something again. "I refuse to have regrets!" was his basic catchphrase. So he set about getting good with girls and not avoiding risk at the same time as doing Nofap. But Nofap was 100% the big trigger and definitely the biggest driver of the change I saw.

He got a friends with benefits and discovered that his brain was so wired for porn that he couldn't orgasm during sexual acts with a girl and would sometimes experience ED. But he powered on, rewiring his brain, gaining sexual prowess. Simultaneously he was becoming more social, much more confident and self-assured. He stopped playing computer games completely, much to the judgement of many of his friends. "Life's a game" he said to me once, "and I'm winning. Why waste my time on getting better at League of Legends when I could be getting better at piano or girls?"

And get better he did. It was like watching a flower bud and blossom in fast-motion, a volcanic eruption of progress (for such significant life changes. We're talking half a year or so here). He shifted his faulty wiring so he was always hard during sex and could orgasm with a girl, how nature intended. He moved out, away from our coastal town to the heart of Sydney. He went overseas. He made lots of new friends. He had a lot of sex. To date, I have never met someone as good with girls as he is. It's like watching a master at work. He's totally happy and fulfilled with his life. He has a vocation, regular sex, hobbies and friends. I've really seen him become a man.

I say this because I want you all to know what's possible. I think a lot of us hold the belief "well maybe him, but he was already skilled/attractive/charismatic and just didn't know it". But that's a lie, a lie to keep us comfortable in our shitty lives. The truth is that all of us have this latent power within us. Meeting Alex a year or two ago, you would never have been able to guess the shift that was coming. He was just a normal guy.

Me? I forgot about Nofap. I sort of eddied around in the churning wake of his success, taking some of his advice on girls, reading a lot of self-help but doing nothing much, still watching porn, having late nights, procrastinating, wasting my time on the internet, feeling shit about myself. I've been the ultimate avoidance machine.

But it could never stay that way. I couldn't get out of these awful patterns of thought that had plagued me most of my life, and I knew I had to change. It just felt impossible. But the catalyst was two events.

First, I had gotten myself a friends with benefits. We had met up a couple of times but hadn't done anything that sexual yet (rookie, I know). Alex had helped me along the way with tips and suggestions. But when we finally got naked, the nightmare happened. I was reasonably hard, and rolled off to get a condom. By the time I had got it on I was soft and couldn't get hard again. She wasn't that bothered by it but I couldn't get hard again. It was like it was totally disconnected from my body, no feeling whatsoever. It's an awful feeling.

Still I did nothing, until this New Year's Eve. I had a Finnish girl with me and we were staying downstairs at Alex's in Sydney after watching the fireworks. I had been in a bad mood all night: we didn't meet up with the Finnish girl (who I previously knew) until we were heading home, so the whole night I was third-wheeling with Alex and the girl he was with. I was feeling terrible about myself, like a child. He was trying to pump me up to meet women or sleep with the Finn once we got back. I was experiencing a contradiction: knowing that I could be good with women, could be happy and fulfilled in my life, but feeling powerless and child-like, especially compared to him. And I had the lurking fear... ED. What if it happened again?

I was sleeping with the girl in the same bed when we got back. We ended up kissing and touching and she said she wanted more. Lo and behold, I reached for the condom, unwrapped it and went to put it on... soft as butter. I felt 100% unaroused. She seemed sympathetic and went to sleep. I sat awake.

I realised that I got furiously hard watching porn, reading erotic fiction or in my room alone, imagining sexual encounters, but when it came to physical sexual experiences, my penis wasn't that interested. Even with my old girlfriend, I honestly wasn't ever that excited for sex. My brain just wasn't wired for it. I had messed it up.

I sat there in the dark, the girl breathing quietly beside me. This changes everything, I thought. This is the physical embodiment of everything that's killing me inside, my lack of confidence, my depression, my avoidance. All made manifest in a soft penis. I knew I had to change. Otherwise I could never enjoy sex, I'd just avoid it out of shame. Otherwise I'd never be able to get good with girls because I'd be thinking about the inevitable sexual failure to follow. Otherwise I'd continue jacking off and lying on my bed afterwards, feeling drained of all vitality.

I'm only on Day 11 now, and I think I might be flatlining already. No wild changes so far. But of I could recommend some things to complement your Nofap:

Exercise- my god it helps. Whether cardio or working on your muscles, you'll look better, feel better and sleep better.

Less sugar- you'd be surprised what a role this plays in neurochemistry and the gut.

Meditation- I got sick of hearing about meditation and started. Many times, especially in the beginning, you'll be annoyed that your brain's so easily distracted, so petty. You have to recognise that as a distraction in itself. No expectations! Just be present.

Go to bed earlier- one of my ongoing demons. Dial your bedtime back by increments, and get up earlier. Nighttime can be likely, a time of endings. Mornings are a time of possibility.

Socialise- even if you don't have energy for it. Guys, girls, doesn't matter. Get out there.

Date- even though I'm dealing with my brain and my penis, I knew I couldn't allow that to be an excuse to stop talking to girls. So get on tinder! Read up on Game, the good social-dynamics and evolutionary-psychology stuff, not the women-hating stuff. It's fantastic to get women off the pedestal without regarding them to pornographic objects.

I can't pretend to be a guru on this. I've just started really. Changing habits is like swimming against the tide. It's hard, until your ripples slowly shift the flow of water in the direction you're going.

I was out canoeing with Alex the other day and I told him all this. He smiled wistfully and said that it made sense: he'd been pushing me to give improvement with girls my best efforts but had noticed that I seemed to be holding back on life.

"Nofap changed everything for me," he said. "It was the catalyst for everything else, my reason to keep going." He told me that I was better than him in a lot of ways: he had just worked harder while I had stayed in a slump.

I'm going to beat my depression. I have so many good attributes to build on, and so do you. And I'm going to beat this ED. I don't care if it's a quick fix or a longer journey. I don't care how many girls I have to mess up with. And then? I'm going to improve my sexual prowess, and I'm going to live life well. It's all starting right here, right now. Little changes. Snowballing over time. When that happens, you'd better believe my victory post is going to be a lion's roar. 2016 is the year I become me. Because I'm not like Alex. We have different personalities, different demons to face. But in the end, I'm going to look him in the eye as equals. Screw porn. Screw procrastination. Let's live instead.

And that's the truth, my dear fapstronauts. We all have so much potential, sitting dormant within us. Alex unleashed that potential. I'm starting my journey to doing so now. We can all build the life we want. It all starts with closing the laptop and opening the door to improvement.

Thanks for reading and you can do it!

tl;dr: my friend and I were lazy, shy porn watchers. He quit and became charismatic, happy, a risk-taker, great with women and fulfilled in life. I'm doing the same now. We all have this potential within us. Go live life!
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This is one of the best success stories i've read in a while. Thanks a lot for sharing!!!

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Damn man! Thanks for sharing, I feel there is so much that are common to my life. It is a normal problem, and it may be a "big" problem for many. Hopefully I can reach my goals!

I also like how you shared the story. It is nice to see it from an other persons view. Not just from the person itself.

Thanks again, and good luck to you all!

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Thanks for sharing! You are on your way brother! Stay strong! Win!
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Hey bro! I notice you read the whole story. Lol

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Amazing story bro! I wish you and Alex the best of luck! Hopefully NoFap will become your new addiction for now on

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EDIT: Hearing how strongly many of you relate to this story has given me strength these last months. The sequel for this post is up! A lot has happened for both of us. The spoiler is that I feel more confident, happy and fulfilled than I have for years. And Alex? Well, he's reaching ever-higher levels of awesome.
Stay strong my brothers. Focus on improvement not perfection. A better life is possible for everyone.

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I'm new here and this is a long post but I promise it's worth reading (there's a tl;dr at the bottom).

My friend (let's call him Alex) and I discovered Nofap together in early 2015, totally by accident as we simultaneously discovered Game (getting good with women). Both of us were 18 at the time and used porn semi-regularly. I'd like to share a comparison between the two of us, because the fact is that he stuck with Nofap and I didn't. And I have seen him become a god. I hope this will inspire you on your own journey.

Both of us are introverts, very introspective individuals. I was known at school as the genius-guy- I've always been good with words and that ability of expression alone made me seem smart. People seemed to think I was quite charismatic and talkative, and I've only discovered recently that a lot more girls were attracted to me than I realised at the time. But the thing is, I had zero confidence. I've got a lot of good stuff going for me but I've struggled with serious depression for years.

Alex on the other hand was always quieter. He's a musician and a surfer, and very attractive in that unique mixed-race way. He used to spend nearly ALL of his time (except when surfing) playing computer games and watching movies. People were intrigued by his mystery but he didn't have a lot going for him. He was a virgin while I had lost mine to a girlfriend the previous year.

So we discovered Nofap, and dove right in. Why not right? We were always looking for that one life-changing revelation. But none of my streaks reached a month long. He just powered on ahead.

The change I saw in him is the most radical shift I have ever seen in anyone. Of course, I can't correlate everything to Nofap, because after he pussied-out of asking a beautiful girl to the Formal (prom) only to discover she decided not to go because she didn't have a date, he was determined never to avoid something again. "I refuse to have regrets!" was his basic catchphrase. So he set about getting good with girls and not avoiding risk at the same time as doing Nofap. But Nofap was 100% the big trigger and definitely the biggest driver of the change I saw.

He got a friends with benefits and discovered that his brain was so wired for porn that he couldn't orgasm during sexual acts with a girl and would sometimes experience ED. But he powered on, rewiring his brain, gaining sexual prowess. Simultaneously he was becoming more social, much more confident and self-assured. He stopped playing computer games completely, much to the judgement of many of his friends. "Life's a game" he said to me once, "and I'm winning. Why waste my time on getting better at League of Legends when I could be getting better at piano or girls?"

And get better he did. It was like watching a flower bud and blossom in fast-motion, a volcanic eruption of progress (for such significant life changes. We're talking half a year or so here). He shifted his faulty wiring so he was always hard during sex and could orgasm with a girl, how nature intended. He moved out, away from our coastal town to the heart of Sydney. He went overseas. He made lots of new friends. He had a lot of sex. To date, I have never met someone as good with girls as he is. It's like watching a master at work. He's totally happy and fulfilled with his life. He has a vocation, regular sex, hobbies and friends. I've really seen him become a man.

I say this because I want you all to know what's possible. I think a lot of us hold the belief "well maybe him, but he was already skilled/attractive/charismatic and just didn't know it". But that's a lie, a lie to keep us comfortable in our shitty lives. The truth is that all of us have this latent power within us. Meeting Alex a year or two ago, you would never have been able to guess the shift that was coming. He was just a normal guy.

Me? I forgot about Nofap. I sort of eddied around in the churning wake of his success, taking some of his advice on girls, reading a lot of self-help but doing nothing much, still watching porn, having late nights, procrastinating, wasting my time on the internet, feeling shit about myself. I've been the ultimate avoidance machine.

But it could never stay that way. I couldn't get out of these awful patterns of thought that had plagued me most of my life, and I knew I had to change. It just felt impossible. But the catalyst was two events.

First, I had gotten myself a friends with benefits. We had met up a couple of times but hadn't done anything that sexual yet (rookie, I know). Alex had helped me along the way with tips and suggestions. But when we finally got naked, the nightmare happened. I was reasonably hard, and rolled off to get a condom. By the time I had got it on I was soft and couldn't get hard again. She wasn't that bothered by it but I couldn't get hard again. It was like it was totally disconnected from my body, no feeling whatsoever. It's an awful feeling.

Still I did nothing, until this New Year's Eve. I had a Finnish girl with me and we were staying downstairs at Alex's in Sydney after watching the fireworks. I had been in a bad mood all night: we didn't meet up with the Finnish girl (who I previously knew) until we were heading home, so the whole night I was third-wheeling with Alex and the girl he was with. I was feeling terrible about myself, like a child. He was trying to pump me up to meet women or sleep with the Finn once we got back. I was experiencing a contradiction: knowing that I could be good with women, could be happy and fulfilled in my life, but feeling powerless and child-like, especially compared to him. And I had the lurking fear... ED. What if it happened again?

I was sleeping with the girl in the same bed when we got back. We ended up kissing and touching and she said she wanted more. Lo and behold, I reached for the condom, unwrapped it and went to put it on... soft as butter. I felt 100% unaroused. She seemed sympathetic and went to sleep. I sat awake.

I realised that I got furiously hard watching porn, reading erotic fiction or in my room alone, imagining sexual encounters, but when it came to physical sexual experiences, my penis wasn't that interested. Even with my old girlfriend, I honestly wasn't ever that excited for sex. My brain just wasn't wired for it. I had messed it up.

I sat there in the dark, the girl breathing quietly beside me. This changes everything, I thought. This is the physical embodiment of everything that's killing me inside, my lack of confidence, my depression, my avoidance. All made manifest in a soft penis. I knew I had to change. Otherwise I could never enjoy sex, I'd just avoid it out of shame. Otherwise I'd never be able to get good with girls because I'd be thinking about the inevitable sexual failure to follow. Otherwise I'd continue jacking off and lying on my bed afterwards, feeling drained of all vitality.

I'm only on Day 11 now, and I think I might be flatlining already. No wild changes so far. But of I could recommend some things to complement your Nofap:

Exercise- my god it helps. Whether cardio or working on your muscles, you'll look better, feel better and sleep better.

Less sugar- you'd be surprised what a role this plays in neurochemistry and the gut.

Meditation- I got sick of hearing about meditation and started. Many times, especially in the beginning, you'll be annoyed that your brain's so easily distracted, so petty. You have to recognise that as a distraction in itself. No expectations! Just be present.

Go to bed earlier- one of my ongoing demons. Dial your bedtime back by increments, and get up earlier. Nighttime can be likely, a time of endings. Mornings are a time of possibility.

Socialise- even if you don't have energy for it. Guys, girls, doesn't matter. Get out there.

Date- even though I'm dealing with my brain and my penis, I knew I couldn't allow that to be an excuse to stop talking to girls. So get on tinder! Read up on Game, the good social-dynamics and evolutionary-psychology stuff, not the women-hating stuff. It's fantastic to get women off the pedestal without regarding them to pornographic objects.

I can't pretend to be a guru on this. I've just started really. Changing habits is like swimming against the tide. It's hard, until your ripples slowly shift the flow of water in the direction you're going.

I was out canoeing with Alex the other day and I told him all this. He smiled wistfully and said that it made sense: he'd been pushing me to give improvement with girls my best efforts but had noticed that I seemed to be holding back on life.

"Nofap changed everything for me," he said. "It was the catalyst for everything else, my reason to keep going." He told me that I was better than him in a lot of ways: he had just worked harder while I had stayed in a slump.

I'm going to beat my depression. I have so many good attributes to build on, and so do you. And I'm going to beat this ED. I don't care if it's a quick fix or a longer journey. I don't care how many girls I have to mess up with. And then? I'm going to improve my sexual prowess, and I'm going to live life well. It's all starting right here, right now. Little changes. Snowballing over time. When that happens, you'd better believe my victory post is going to be a lion's roar. 2016 is the year I become me. Because I'm not like Alex. We have different personalities, different demons to face. But in the end, I'm going to look him in the eye as equals. Screw porn. Screw procrastination. Let's live instead.

And that's the truth, my dear fapstronauts. We all have so much potential, sitting dormant within us. Alex unleashed that potential. I'm starting my journey to doing so now. We can all build the life we want. It all starts with closing the laptop and opening the door to improvement.

Thanks for reading and you can do it!

tl;dr: my friend and I were lazy, shy porn watchers. He quit and became charismatic, happy, a risk-taker, great with women and fulfilled in life. I'm doing the same now. We all have this potential within us. Go live life!
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This is one of the most inspiring success stories ive seen on this website. Seeing how your friend transformed and became a beast makes me feel like it's possible for me too. I come back here whenever I get urges these days. You guys have a really good thing going, thanks!

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Amazing story bro! I wish you and Alex the best of luck! Hopefully NoFap will become your new addiction for now on
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I hope not. It's much better to be free.

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It'sBlue likes this.
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Honestly I have this thread bookmarked. I literally get the chills reading it. Your friend is a legend of inspiration and you're just as good for sharing the story with us. I hope you're doing great in your journey and can fully hit your stride too.

I also feel like I'm living in the shadow sometimes of a more successful friend. He's more outgoing, confident, skilled at the craft we do, and handsome (fucker haha). He's rather influential over my life usually in a good way but not always. I'm often deferring to his decisiveness and taking the passenger seat. While I'm no chump myself recently I've decided to take full reigns over my life and our friendship. Recently he made a huge career achievement while I'm sitting around doing the same old medium level effort. So the challenge is to let out friends success inspire us, and not rob us of our own.

Thanks again so much for sharing this story bro. I love his analogy for video games. Real life is the ultimate game, so why not choose to dominate it?

FOAM

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Honestly I have this thread bookmarked. I literally get the chills reading it. Your friend is a legend of inspiration and you're just as good for sharing the story with us. I hope you're doing great in your journey and can fully hit your stride too.

I also feel like I'm living in the shadow sometimes of a more successful friend. He's more outgoing, confident, skilled at the craft we do, and handsome (fucker haha). He's rather influential over my life usually in a good way but not always. I'm often deferring to his decisiveness and taking the passenger seat. While I'm no chump myself recently I've decided to take full reigns over my life and our friendship. Recently he made a huge career achievement while I'm sitting around doing the same old medium level effort. So the challenge is to let out friends success inspire us, and not rob us of our own.

Thanks again so much for sharing this story bro. I love his analogy for video games. Real life is the ultimate game, so why not choose to dominate it?

FOAM
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You flatter me. For real though, I totally understand that experience. It can seem difficult to shift from a frame of impotent jealousy to feeling inspired and motivated by our friends instead. I think it has a lot to do with constructing our own narrative of who you are, separate from your friend. The negative comparisons stop when you really process the fact that you're different people and that you can be your own brand of awesome.

Thanks for the comment, it's always a head trip (in a good way) when people let me know they found the post helpful. I think it really struck a chord because my situation was similar to so many other guys. The gospel I preach is that it really is possible for things to be better.

Keep up the good work my man.

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https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?posts/1614727 check out this..last man

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Fantastic story telling... good luck my friend

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How is it going now bro?!

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