The reasons for quiting

Hi quinjoah,

I decided to give it up because I didn't like the idea of not being able to control myself or my desires. I hated the fact that I couldn't muster the willpower to not do something.

I also hated how it felt afterwards, cleaning yourself up alone in a room, with a pixelated image gyrating away on a screen. It's not the way it should be.

As a Christian, I want to serve God - not my sexual lust and desires. I want my desire to be solely for the woman I marry, and not for any other - especially not a stranger in an internet video.

And I want my 'good feeling' to come from the meaning in my life. The quality of relationships and seeking after God. I don't want it to come from 20 minutes of selfish pleasure.

 

Oh yeah, that part makes me feel empty and sad.

Three reasons:
1. Have been using for two decades, can't masturbate without it or thinking about it. Would prefer to use my imagination/reality.
2. Recognise that it's an emotional distraction for stuff I should be dealing with.
3. As a woman, have an ethical problem with the content I'm viewing.

In a nutshell, trying to reduce the things in life that hold me down. This is a biggie.

 

Actually being able to get an orgasm with my girlfriend.

 

Enjoying sex with my girlfriend more.

 

I wanted to give it up because I was different from everyone else well I thought I was but the people were just weried and once I started nofap and moved to a different school I met lots of people and nofap gave me the confidence and the courage to keep going and fight on. I also realized it was a addiction and like all other addictions they change you to a worse person so you need to fight them.

 

I joined NoFap because I wanted to get the memories of past illicit hook ups and also fantasies out of my mind, and i figured possibly going hard mode would be a good idea to help with this. I have since found out that the memories will always be there. It's simply a matter of what I do with the memories when they surface. NoFap has worked for me.

 

Hi,
I wanted to join this because I cant focus on anything for long..like more than 2 days..I want to develop the gifts that God has given me..Keep good relationships with others..And start living than sleepwalking through life. Sleepwalking cause I always wish for stuff to happen and just fail to put in the actual effort it requires.I have been battling this for the past 13 years but I have had enough..and need to stop this .

 

I did it for the focus, the confidence, and make a real connection with a woman that I could not achieve; resulting in turning my attention to slutty girls and porn. After NoFap I can memorize everything in class, I have my life together, I confidently talk to strangers,and I currently am making a connection with a woman that a few years ago, I didn't even think of approaching.

 

Everything that Hero One stated, plus I'll add a few more:

--While looking at porn, I'm seeing the disturbing stuff become increasingly more popular--monster,kiddie, etc. I'm horrified at this stuff, and I know that even if I'm not looking at it, I'm helping sponsor it by being on websites that have them in their collection.

--Kind of a continuation of the previous, I don't like what I let myself get drawn too. Sometimes I'm looking at things, and afterwards I think, "That's not me! Why the heck would I fantasize about that?!?" Porn seems to have a corrupting nature, and I'd don't want to be near it anymore.

--I'm not sure if TMS (Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome, see yourbrainonporn for more info) is scientifically validated to be a real thing, but I'd rather not take the chance. I'm one of those who gets his jollies off going prone, and any sexual relationship I might have in the future I think will be hurt by this.

 

Prone is harmful to the penis which is then harmful to your future sexual relationships. Of course, depending on how rough you are with your prone. check out a channel on You Tube called FapNo. This guy is healing from prone damage and is very moving. Listen to his posts from oldest to newest.

 

Well, I feel that I've become "numb" from such constant stimulation, both from porn and other sources of excitement. Also I'm not religious, so my reasons are rooted in reality only. I would rather get excitement from more productive activities than porn, because it's taken countless hours from my life that I can't get back.

 

My reasons,

my wife and children deserve better than to have me sneaking of to look and jerk and I don't want my kids to get exposed to it.
compulsive behaviors which control you are generally bad, I became disturbed when I realized I was craving it even when not aroused at all.
Porn is effed up, both what is portrayed and the fact that for most of the participants real life is an unpleasant reality (it uses people).
Viewing lots of porn distorts ones sense of reality.
Religious reasons.

And on that last one there are reasons religions condemn its use, because of it's effect on the human person, and non religious people are also human persons. So just because someone is not religious doesn't make them free from the natural moral law. So it may be to your benefit to understand why Christianity condemns it (I can point you towards more info if your interested).

 

For me...My mother recently saw me naked, fapping in front of the computer. It was so shameful. My mother cried and is very unhappy, sad and distressed about my behaviour. She prays for me to get well but I am only getting worse.

I can't focus on building any career(the only career i have is PMO as if i live to act out, period). I can't make friends, I can't focus on work, I have little energy to focus on anything important in life, I put off things and procrastinate, I hate what I have become, Time is passing by fast and I am growing older with the addiction getting stronger and progressing, I missed many opportunities I had in terms of having a meaningful loving relationship with women, I love women but can't approach any with confidence, I am lonely, I am a fuck up, I am lazy, I waste precious energy, time and money on my addiction, I am destroying myself with my own hands, I am wasting the precious gift of life and not enjoying the only life I have, I missed enjoying my childhood, I missed enjoying my teenages, I am missing enjoying my youth now, I'm scared to death waking up grey and old one day and still finding myself stuck with PMO, I am sick and tired of this horrible nightmarish existence, I lost contact with my religion, I PMOed on a very very very sacred day which is insane for me, absolutely insane, I have lost contact with God....

There are many more reasons why I want to change but the above are the main ones.

 

Well, that must have been so embarrassing for you both! Is that the first time she realised that you have a problem? Why do you say I am only getting worse. I have been reading your journal and I would say you are making great progress!

 

Yah very embarrassing situation to be in.She's caught me once before but i had time to put on my trousers and close the laptop. However, this time she caught me by surprise when she came back from her doctor's appointment and i was caught red handed fapping. She saw my bum as i turned around to hide what's in the front. I wish this never happened.

Well i said i am going worse before i recently started with recovery again. I have been a mess. Acting out all over the place. I would indulge in PMO every 2nd day. But thanks for reading my journal and encouraging me. It's great I am off work today and I didn't act out while I was completely alone in the house. Usually being home alone is a big trigger. I just didn't feel the urge to watch porn again. It feels so good I have achieved this, being clean on a day off. Usually I would ruin my holiday with PMO and exhaust myself, feeling sleepless and tired for work the next day. I feel energetic and happy today.

 

I just want to be free! Porn has been eating away at me for 6 years. I just want to move on and not look back.

 

I'm here because I haven't been able to create a connection with a real girl for a very long time, and iv only just realised porn was pretty much the number one reason why.

I would go out with the intention to talk to people and be social, but as soon as I saw a girl I found attractive I would shy away from approaching her because I knew I could just stay safe, not risk rejection, and just have a porn binge when I get home. Thinking about that now just makes me feel sick. I thought using porn would make me less desperate, therefore more attractive, but it did the COMPLETE opposite.

Every night would be the same. I would dance about hoping someone would approach me, hang round my friends for safety, and basically just act like a complete loser. Then go home after not talking to a single girl and just watch porn.

Now without that crutch my life is improving ten fold in many different areas. I knew cutting it out would make positive change, but not to this extent. It's crazy.

For example, two gorgeous girls were sitting talking outside the bar, my friend was beside me. This situation would normally TERRIFY me. If I walked over, not only could I get rejected, but my friend could be there to witness it. But I did it and ended up spending the rest of the night with them. I had actually forgot about this approach until I was filling in my nofap journal the next day, that's how minor that event seemed to me.

I think it's because I didn't want to take anything from them, and I didn't want to try and 'convince' them to sleep with me. I just wanted to have fun, so I didn't feel pressure when approaching, and they didn't feel freaked out by a perv who just wants sex.