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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Mitch22, Mar 19, 2017.

  1. Mitch22

    Mitch22 Fapstronaut

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    Hey there, I'm addicted to porn and I'm addicted to sugar and youtubing. Everything that gives me a short dopamine satisfaction and I don't have to feel what there is to feel. Most of the time I'm in denial but it's getting clearer and clearer that this behaviour I do is ruining my life. My dad is an addict aswell so I copied things from an early age. I have been in therapy already for years but it worked only a bit. I'm interested in this site and already just writing down openly that I have an addiction helps me. Greets
     
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  2. Kort

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    I too have an addiction to porn. It has run my life for a while now. I'm married and it has taken a toll on my marriage. I am finally admitting that I have a problem and want to get help. Today is my 1st day porn free in a long time. Nice to meet all of you.
     
  3. Mitch22

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    Hey Kort, good to hear from you and i admire your courage to share your story. Goodluck and all the best
     
  4. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
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  5. esforzado

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    Hate porn, go to Your Brain on Porn, write to me, I want to help you.
     
  6. esforzado

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    My help is available for you, only tell me, I am interested in helping young guys in this kind of problems. For tue moment, watch this:
     
  7. Mitch22

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    My current strategies are:
    - tracking days
    - setting goal (30 days)
    - i installed the app and it helps me a lot
     
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  8. Mitch22

    Mitch22 Fapstronaut

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    Hey Esforzado, thanks for your messages. I'm new here so first going to look around. Thanks for your offer!
     
  9. PineappleMan

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    Hey same for me. I believe in us! Lets be honest with ourselfes and strong!
     
  10. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips to help you along your journey.
     
  11. esforzado

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    OK, my friend, look around. You are welcome.
    These last days I have been reflecting on the success men from Sexholics Annonymou
     
  12. esforzado

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    s have following the 12 Steps Program. It would probably help you out also. It is about admitting that we are powerless over lust and, that our lives are unmanegeable, believing that a Power greater than us can restore us to sanity and and making a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God. How does it sound this to you?
     
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  13. Mitch22

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    Thanks man! This site is golden and also your support. There are quite a few times my mind says 'oh well i do it but I was not addicted'. But everytime I fell back I realised I was. And also the stories on reddit and nofap make me realise more and more how far it goes. Seeing women as objects, not feeling proud of myself, staying out of contact, relapsing. It is a loop. What I don't like on nofap are the stories about it makes you more attractive to girls. Maybe it's true, probably, but i noticed the last few days that my ego found this very interesting. But thats only a small detail and I applaud Nofap but I just had to clear my throat.
     
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  14. Mitch22

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    I'm interested in the twelve step. I know it has good effects on people. I believe in something higher, personally I don't know if the word god describes it all. I interested in the truth and what can help me. The good thing about the program is that people confirm that once an addict always an addict. I could never believe that but I'm finding out this to become more true for me. And they come together and share and support eachother. You can go every week. And they track how many days they are off it. So they keep it conscious that they where addicts and that they are walking the right path.
     
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  15. PineappleMan

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    Yeah I know about this...I had the moment today several times where I said to myself: Do it. Its not a crime it will not harm you!"
    And on the one hand my inner voice was totally right. It will not harm me when I do it on a normal level, but I learned about myself that I cant keep it on a normal level and when it gets extreme i lose all sense of reality and spend hours on fapping ...
    So yes we are addicts and thats okay!
     
  16. esforzado

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    The first step is to admit that we are powerless over lust. Not that our efforts to overcome lust are not worthwhile, but that we should rely not only in ourselves, but ALSO in a Power greater than oursel
    The first step, Mitch, is to admit that we are powerless over lust. Not that our efforts to overcome lust are not worthwhile, but that we should rely not only in ourselves, but ALSO in a Power greater than ourselves. In Spanish we have a saying A Dios rogando y con el mazo dando, a bad translation is this: He is praying to God and the hammer. OK, so you, and all and each one of the guys in this NoFap business should try to understand sexuality, it is for other purposes, not for entertainment. In other words, sex without love and compromise is false. Then, try to reach God with some way of praying and tell Him to grand you strength and wisdom to lead a clean life, without the shame, the remorse that disordered sex brings to our lives.
     
  17. esforzado

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    I think it's not okay to have these addictions, much more wrong is to spend hours on fapping! It is not a crime, they will not put you in prison for masturbating, but it really is harmful, read about this in the internet, there are many sites about the harm this vice does to people.
     
  18. PineappleMan

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    Oh no you got me wrong! I really expressed my thoughts badly. I think its okay to admit that we have this addiction and its important to accept yourself as an addict. For me it is the first step to cure this!
     
  19. esforzado

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    OK, "Pineapple", sorry. Let me tell you what I just told another young man a while ago: I am a practicing Catholic, a man of daily Mass and communion, byblical and spiritual reading with my wife, praying before every meal, praying the Rosary. My formation comes from the Marist Brothers who had a school in my hometown, then I joined a religious Order, but was banned from it. I always advice the boys and men to try to attend Mass on weekdays. My dear "Peter" if you want not to have relapses, take this struggle for purity very seriously, pray, persevere, maybe you would like me to email you and have regular contact with you, always encouraging you to stay clean. Blessed are the pure of heart for they shall see God, said our Lord Jesus Christ.
     
  20. Mitch22

    Mitch22 Fapstronaut

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    Dopamine addicts. Admitting that i'm an addict is one of the core things for me. But sometimes I still find it hard to admit and feel. But I know if I look at my past and daily things nowadays wit say sugar, i'm a porn and dopamine addict. But this site is a great support and now on my 8 day and also using less sweets. Quite happy with the progress till now and lokking forward to learn more.
     

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