Any tips to stop objectifying women?

The way I'm gettIng over it is by telling myself that there are great women (personality wise) out there for me and I'm not going to find them if l continue lusting over every little booty.

 

I was in the same boat as you. I recommend that you continue on with your reboot and the fact that you realize you are still doing this is a great sign that your reboot is being successful. There is nothing wrong with noticing a woman, and you can start to think to yourself that hey she is a person and has feelings and wants to be happy. Over time you will get to the point in your reboot were you will realize that you aren't objectifying anymore.

I hope this helps. Keep up the great work. Stay strong!

 

I believe a little bit of objectifying is ok because we are attracted to females, we're attracted to their bodies. Like for example you look at a girl and your like 'Oh gosh she pretty/hot/beautiful' but it becomes unheathy once you lust over it. Lust is a sin ladies and gents. When you put the size of her curves over her personality then you should be worried. Just check out the girls and acknowledge their bodies. Theres a big difference. One tip is when you talk to girls never look down no matter what, just look at her eyes, observe her face. Before you know it, you've had a great conversation without objectifying them!

 

In my opinion its not a problem, just control your urges. Men are attracted to women.

 

The fact you feel uncomfortable with how you think about woman is a sign you are making bloody good progress. I'm doing worse than you atm. I look at pretty much everyone and sexually objectify them. I can't wait to get where you are because that's a sign you are breaking free from the chains of this crappy addicton.

 

I want to know what it feels like to lose that cloud as well. It's been there for about 9 years of my life so far. I'm sure we will get there! If you lose the cloud let me know what it feels like!!

 

For the most part, "checking out women" is a natural thing (hear me out on this). Biologically, we are attracted to the opposite sex (just talking about evolution, no offence) so it's something that will tend to happen as long as we have hormones in our body. The difference lies in your mind, are you dwelling on the images? Are you using their image for sexual ideas? Appreciation of beauty is a natural part of life as we know it, what we want to avoid is having our brains rewired by porn to the point where everything we look at has to involve sex. If you find someone beautiful, a "wow" might go off in your head, that's fine. But you're f&#king them in your fantasies? Heck no.

 

Practice the 3 Second rule.. to stay out of perfectionism.. you are alowed to look at a girl for 3 seconds, then look away..

 

I might use that rule! Awesome idea

 

Get some female friends. Get closer to some women that you do not look at sexually. Listen to them, talk to them. They are people like you are. They are so much more than a receptacle for your erection, and you might have more to offer them than a small spoonful of slime.

 

This is one of the big things I would like to achieve through my journey. I definitely still objectify women even when I don't want to.

I was thinking about my porn browsing habits this morning. I guess most people search through a lot of porn to find that perfect scene. Let's say the average page on a porn site will have 50 thumbnail image/video shortcuts and I can scan one of those in a short time checking out whatever it is that might be worth watching. I would easily check out 50 pages in a fap session and probably do it 4 times a week. So I'm objectifying 10,000 women a week, thinking nothing at all about their personality, all I'm concerned about is tits and arse.

It gets scary when I think that it equates to over half a million women a year. It gets even scarier when I think about the last 10 years since porn has been readily available on the internet. That's over 5 million women and I can see now why my brain needs some serious retraining.

The daft thing is I have a lot of women friends and they are kind enough to overlook this part of me. I do actually treat them with respect other than my sometimes uncontrollable wandering eyes and have the friendships as I very much value having female friends.

I'm not sure I want to get to a stage where I never look at women as I don't think there is too much wrong with admiring a fine looking female but I sure as hell wish I could be a bit more subtle about it and do it far less often.

Can someone who has successfully rebooted tell me if this will happen naturally as I add day, weeks and months to my NoFap journey?

 

Women do not suddenly turn ugly when you heal. You see their beauty and appreciate it, and you can see how good they look with their husband or boyfriend.
I can enjoy good looking cars on the street. I do not have to drool on them or try stealing them. I have my car; I like it. It isn't as exciting or as red as my friend's Porsche, but I know it, and it is easier to maintain and does everything that I need. I also like my wife.
It will help you to have a good partner, but if you can't control your eyes and mind now, no wife will fix you. Rebooting really helps, and it helps to decide that you are only going to only be intimate with your mate. You enjoy the view, but you do not fish. Stable in your identity and relationship, you can enjoy the beauty in everyone, young or old, male or female, and you can compliment it. You can also enjoy who you have become and who you are enjoying it with.

 

I'm starting to give each woman a personal compliment. That seems to be helping to see them for their beautiful quality instead of just sexual beings

 

You should see good results from this!