Be honest...did you get back to normal?

I have seen a lot of people claiming this on "yourbrainonporn" and on youtube, but when it comes to NoFap, I see not a lot of people here are talking about PIED. I have only been here for 2 weeks, but I noticed most are focused in general on porn addiction and the benefits that come with overcoming it, although I have seen successful rewiring stories (recovering from PIED) as well. I am pretty certain it is possible and I am doing that myself now.

 

I never really knew a normal. I feel like I finally have a new life.

 

Pretty much what Buzz here said. The normal for me has always been tainted with a lot of sexual dysfunction that I could (unfortunately) also blame on psychological/sociological issues, never thinking the link to our physiological functions could be altered in this fashion. Since I'm Fapstronauting here there is simply a new normal that keeps unfolding everywhere I go and with eveything I do and everyone I meet. I wouldn't presume to tell you that your own "before" will be regained, yet there are so many people here who can faithfully vouch for the positive changes that reboots have brought in their lives.

Another thought : Have you ever had this kind of thoughts before starting something or while doint it? (The thought of "I really doubt what i'm doing right now is useful or is going to bring me exactly where I want, so better stop investing any effort on it") I see a pattern with many P users who display this kind of thoughts - I had it too, and I can tell you it's vanishing, and what's beyond this point is a part of you that you will like, guaranteed !

 

Well, I have none of those PIED issues [not even sure what the acronym stands for] that others talk about. I never knew a normal because I was hooked into P from adolescence. My new normal is quite a ride, which I think life is meant to be.

Not much in the way of physical changes, more in the way of mental ones. In a nutshell, I think I have managed to sublimate eros into art... which in my opinion is the essence of all art. Sometimes that energy is so great, it is like a near manic state.. or a light manic state. I find the release then in writing poetry funnily enough.

 

This is the million dollar question that I would like to know its answer too.
I have the same problem as you, I can't make my P hard enough for sex while having an intercourse and I've had it with the hottest models in various ways (with/without love and affection) but the result is always the same, nothing. dead. I think there is no straight answer for this, the only way we could know is to try. Because it's our only hope. We have no other option. We need to believe there is a cure for it, otherwise we're stuck. Right now I'm at day #38. Soon enough I will have sex, and will see what happens. Of course if I fail to have an erection, it will mean only that I haven't been patient enough. PM currently is out of my life.
Again, if one guy said no he didn't heal, that wouldn't mean you won't either, and unfortunately this also goes in the opposite way as well. You won't find the answer for your question here (or anywhere else), you will find it only when you try.

 

I believe this is a two step process. you first need to get ride of PM and have a healthy life style. From there, you will need to retrain your penis to get enough excitement from women. In the beginning it won't be perfect but the same way you wired your brain to porn after few months your penis and body will react to women.

 

You retrain your penos by having normal sex with women. But you need to wait 30 days before trying again. Having an O will push you to PM if your brain is not cleaned up. The more you have sex the better you will get.

 

Give yoursel some time. If you stop for sometime you will start gaining back some sensitivity and eventually get your penis up from foreplay with your gf. It might be just for few minutes but that should be enough to have a quicky and start your training from there.

 

Yes these posts are correct.

However the thing to be weary about is if you haven't left it long enough mentally you could revert back to MO even after sex....

I managed 119 days and then 2x oral sex led me to having a weak penis.

as a result i resorted to MO and then had sex after a few weeKs. Whilst i didn't have a normal penis it did allow me to have sex.

After the gf n i split up i resorted back to mo and have been on it since June last year!

 

My first time trying after few weeks of no PMO I was good. It took me few minutes to get into it but I started enjoying. I was lucky enough to be with my wife so every time I had an urge I had real sex. I'm slowly getting back to my old self. Everybody may have a different story but to me my objective is to replace porn by women not to turn off my drive for sex therefore I need women in my process.

 

The question is: after quit to PMO, if I had too much sex in few time...I bring my brain to old patterns of MO?

 

Wow...I'm not an expert but I think people are different. After awhile with no PMO I lost interest for sex and the real sex became my alternative. If having too much sex brought you back to PMO that means you were not ready for it. You have to totally lose interest in porn before you start the real sex.

 

Wrong and right.

I can lose porn at the click of finger

My problem has been soft pics or even my own imagination.....

 

We are all different. I think you need to combat your addiction with abstinence and do sex when you get your urge.

 

I'd recommend reading more about PIED on yourbrainonporn.com. You'll understand why this seemingly contradictory solution can be quite useful and has been for many who overcame this problem. In a nutshell, since you're rewiring your brain by abstaining from porn (which is all your brain understands at this moment to mean sexual arousal) you're also slowly introducing sex with a real partner in order to condition yourself to real sex. For many, this doesn't happen overnight but your brain begins to register real intimacy as the cue for arousal and not fake pixels on a screen. Having said this, there are numerous variables involved since each one of us is different which is why I'd tell you to start reading up on the problem to fully get a sense of what you're dealing with and how best to proceed.

 

That is also why I became a fapstronaut, but there are more people here cause of other porn-problems than PIED.

I am currently on day 14 with no PMO, trying to do something about my PIED.