NoFap's Official "Masturbation-Free March 2017"! Continue or start your PMO-free commitment here.

I'm in! Today marks the start of day# 20 PMO free. This is the longest I have ever gone without. Stay the course.

 

Over the past four days I fell off the no PMO wagon. Ugh! I am committing this morning to restarting the challenge. There's still ten days left in March and my goal is to stay PMO-free for at least those 10 days.

 

Thank you for your comment! Actually, there was no feeling afterwards. When I first did these challenges, relapse came with feelings of relief. Now, relapse is becoming less appealing. To tell you the truth, I get a better "high" when working out or writing.

That's a good thing and a bad thing. The good thing means that my brain is slowly unwinding itself from the "high" of masturbation. The bad thing is....I still do it. As you probably know, we humans can do things that don't actually make us feel happy anymore. We do this out of habit. Think about junk food.

So my struggle at this point is different than before. It's more nuanced. I know that masturbation isn't what I want in life anymore but I'm still attached to it. I guess you can call it "conscious incompetence".

Sorry for my delay in responding! After relapsing (twice that day), I had a 3-day streak, then relapsed again. A part of me wanted to just quit it all and let things happen when they do. I didn't listen to it. I got back up. Now, I'm just in "chill" mode and keeping busy before I work on my next strategy.

 

Don't give up the fight - that's the reality of this vice - I'm sure you'll make it.

 

Day 14 completed. It has been a while since I have posted. I have been busy and tired. I am back.

 

Welcome back!

 

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36 days. Quite the jump from my personal best. Gets easier every day, amen!

 

Not sure what day I am on, I believe 20 something, my longest streak ended in the 60s. Not really focused on the streak anymore. Yes it's good to see the number to grow each day and each week but I am more concerned about changing my mentality. In my eyes when you focus on the streak the problem still persists it's just how long you can put away the problem rather if you focus on your mindset you're working to a permanent change. Let's focus on the permanent change people.

During the streak I have had real sex twice I have received nudes from a girl in which I didn't ask for. I am still keeping the no PMO streak alive because THAT IS reality! It's not going around on the Internet and looking for videos of you know what.

Right now I write this because I feel my mind is changing and growing and leaving the past behind. Hopefully the sticks hopefully that stays hopefully this is permanent. Every day you get better or worse you never stay the same, let's get better.

 

Well done!

 

Thanks!

 

One week to go, guys. How many still here?

 

Still here with ya bro

 

noeee i made it 17 days then relapse. ok clean the browser history and get back on clean pages. nothing happened. just keep going.

stay strong guys

 

Day 15. I just found this thread and remember having done my best streak ever (60 days) after checking in to a similar, Orgasmless October thread in 2015. I only got to about 16 days in the last 365 days so I'm hoping to whoop ass with the streak I'm on now. All the best to the rest of you fellows.

 

Starting again from tomorrow. This time, I had a good talk with my girlfriend about it and have her support too.

 

Day sixteen completed. I almost relapsed. P that I have seen came to mind and I got aroused. I wanted to M to the P I remembered and was ready to PMO, but took a moment to think and I thought of this community and my commitment and did something else.

 

On this current streak, I have found my interest in sex or just having an erection to be inconsistent. Is this normal?

Some days its a 10 while others my little man is barely noticeable.

 

Well, I read a post in the success stories about a man who had overcome his addiction and was confident that he had left his addiction behind him forever. I was buoyed by the story and wanted to see if I was in the same place. After relapsing, I found myself battling shame. Yes, it was a inner conflict.
I found myself in PMO and after several days my confidence waned and I began to become negative about my life and direction. My focus in work dissolved to a low and my emotions started to become highly negative.
Since going 30 days porn free I felt so strong and positive.
I have found that meditating and being compassionate with myself have been the saving grace.
Like many mention in here, it's not focussing on the end result, on living for the future, but taking each moment one step at a time that is most beneficial for me.
Porn seems fraught with objectification. Of the image of the woman more than the depth and the essence that cannot be seen by a video camera. The sex comes from a physical biological drive. Deep down I know there is nothing wrong with the sex. Yet, the desire for pleasure has shame wrapped around it.
Making peace with this desire for me is ok.
I am choosing to withdraw my relationship with objectification.
Withdrawing myself from the addiction is my focus.
Trusting that the process is working is my first step. Being ok with stumbling and remaining present with what works is just as important. It doesn't work to beat myself up.
So, here's to compassion. And here's to trusting and knowing that in time a healthy loving relationship is a an inevitable and natural next step. For now, moment by moment, day by day, I am here to honour that it's time to let go of addiction.
I'm with you all in this.

 

Good to have the support