Recent Streak of 52 days: Major changes.

So stick to it, you will be more happy in life. I must do the same. Good luck brother !

Have it the same and it's exhausting. Also looking at couples makes me sometimes sad for a moment.

 

Just saw your story since @MeTP referred me. Mine is somewhat similar, and I'm thinking I may have to reset much like yourself.

 

Great post! Congratulations on both of those long streaks. The fact that you did not jerk it to porn is an accomplishment in itself. I realized that I would relapse as well when I found that I had thoughts of not being able to talk to women. I still have this issue but at least this problem is now addressed and I am able to see that I am not the only one affected by this as well. We can overcome this by improving our social skills. Once we work on this I am sure we will have more confidence and we will be better equipped to approach women confidently. Approaching women is a challenge in itself and I have taken that challenge but with no really great results. I lack the skills to form a connection I can smile about. In time it can be done. I support you! Good job!

 

Thanks for sharing your experience. I can totally understand you when you say you could not have dreamed of changing yourself so much. I'm just on Day 26 and I'm only looking forward to more challenges and growth that'll come my way as I go forward. So thank you for sharing this insight.

Also kudos to your honesty and taking it seriously with the counter. I think this is a good signf of good self-confidence.

About approaching girls: I can tell you that the same exact shit used to happen to me. Usually as the counter went up I used to get really horny and wouldn't stop thinking about girls or sex in general. So eventually I would turn to porn because I wasn't able to find the sexual release that was needed. But my fellow NoFap brother @Audere est Facere gave me a really simple yet very powerful advice on how to deal with the problem of approach anxiety - it's a thing he practices himself daily and you can track his tremendous progress in his journal - so the idea is that you just do one approach to a random girl that you like, say hello, may be introduce yourself, tell her a compliment and then leave. This is so simple but yet so effective! In short, just compliment and go. And don't care about the result - what matters is you taking actiong towards stepping of your comfort zone and overcoming something as simple as fear of meeting a stranger and telling her that you like her.
(actually the concept is larger than what I descreibed - it is called One Thing That Scares Me a day and involves any kind of activity that would push you out of your comfort zone - but most often the most thrilling is approaching ofcourse)

I've practiced only a little bit of this and yet I can defently see the growth that comes into my life with this exercise. I encourage you to try it some of these days and see for yourself! You'd be amazed how more capable to meet girls you are than you think!

Another thing that helped me get better with girls and thus with mainting my NoFap streak is being more... impudent, I guess? But, like, in a good way. I'd choose this word in my native language. I'm talking about impudence that come from acting more freely, being more myself and more in the moment with the person you I am with, and yet still repsecting the other person's rights and values and whatnot. Just be more open to make mistakes, going deeper and doing something you really desire! Risk! Life is much more interesting that way!

Thanks once again for sharing and encouraging to go on! I wish you all the best in your dating life and that this trigger will fade away more and more with each day going forward! GOOD LUCK AND GOOD JOB!!!