Cravings for being a girl

Hmmm...That is difficult. Let us assume that your acting out - this dress up thing you have - is a symptom rather than the issue.
On that basis, this kink is not so unlike all the other struggles on this forum. In other words, your kink and my porn addiction is based on the same thing: lust. You and I have a lust addiction that has to be addressed.
So, now that we've identified the issue, the quesiton is how to quit? There are a lot of different options/methods. I like SA. Sexaholics Anonymous. There are a lot of different types of people in those groups: men, gay men, women. I'm sure there are a few cross dressers in there as well.
I would be a poor Catholic if i didn't also mention that there is a spiritual aspect to this as well. Pray. Ask God for help.

 

Change how God made him. If God made me a chronic wanker than too bad for him I'm gonna change. The time alone wasted on fapping is reason enough for me to stop. I had a minor relapse last night this morning and it still cost me half a day and robbed me of my sleep.

Did God make some people to be slaves/ born that way [ submissives sissys] Were some people made just for the amusement of others? It's a rhetorical question the answer is no. If you don't like it than change it. This whole encouraging destructive behavior saying "it's who someone is" is going down a very dark path.

 

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which part of India are you from? lol

 

Why get your panties in a twist?! . You both can be whatever sissy you want to be I have no problem with that. My problem was with the guy bringing "god" into it.

 

Hello lovely some thoughts..

1) do the 90 day hard mode reboot and commit to it. You got this!

2) your every desire and craving is not "who you are". Identity is increasingly warped by the unhealthy social forces of our time. Following our every desire to excess is a Western thing that harms so many. As is Western over-sexualisation. Desire doesn't equal identity. We are manipulated by many forces.

3) ultimately, you are a noble human being with the potential for excellence - beautiful spiritual qualities like kindness, dignity, selflessness, justice. Don't pursue anything that degrades you or others. It is not healthy to do indignified things for sexual pleasure. It is not healthy to pursue every craving that arises. Avoid fixating on your lower desires and focus instead on your potential and progress. This is your true purpose, not these fixations.

Good luck x

 

Interesting topic. I was recently contacted by an old school friend of mine I hadn't heard from in over 20 years. To cut right to the chase: He is now a She. Wearing dresses all the time, on hormones, a name change, the whole nine yards. I'm keeping an open mind because I don't judge people on their preferences in that area, nor do I choose my friends accordingly.

However, if you're only four days into quitting porn, it's entirely possible that it's just a trick your mind is playing on you because it wants it's dopamine hit. I know because I've had similar thoughts myself, but like other PMO urges, they pass and I'm able to move on with life. You see, those sissy videos on the porn sites glorify it a lot. All the sissy memes with the porn playing in the back ground. Living full time as a woman isn't like that.

My advice is thus: Get porn out of your life first. I mean right out of your life. Don't stop at 90 days, just aim for infinity. If you still feel this way after porn is gone, then perhaps it's something more fundamental. However, you won't know until porn is long behind you.

 

You'd hate the reality...bigger possibility of rape, harder to approach attractive people cos society and the dating books tell you NOT to approach, he's meant to approach YOU and if he DOESN'T tough shit! in some jobs paid less, periods ugh. I could go on but I won't. Sometimes I've wished I was born male. Oh, and you can have sex with people and NOT be slut shamed, as a guy. In fact, some see you as a hero but WE are told to watch our numbers. And only have sex on date number X or he will never love us. And there is pressure to be pretty but you are also constantly told "looks fade" whereas guys are told to be funny, etc etc. and things that are supposed to be PERMANENT. Wanna swap??? I struggle to love being female sometimes, I'd never get a sex change but sometimes I wish I was male instead, without all the restrictions and fears that come with being female, you know? but there it is, it's what I am....female sigh. To make it worse, I don't want kids EVER and earlier on in life, I got a LOT of flack for THAT. Most MEN wouldn't go through THAT. Anyway, I HAVE heard of fetishes dwindling and dying as people continue with NoFap, perhaps this will be the same, so hang in there, OK?

 

I really think your fetish - if it IS porn-induced, which it sounds like it MIGHT be - WILL fade in time, and as you stick to NoFap. Oh, females ALSO often have body image issues, some studies say 90% of us hate our bodies. And you REALLY would want to swap?? Anyway, I reckon you can reboot from this, hang in there, OK?

 

The answer for this is the same answer for the porn addiction you wanted to get rid off. You have to fight it and stop doing it. Eventually those urges will fade and go away just like the urges for porn. It will be extremely hard and it may take a substantial amount of time, but don't give up and keep fighting it. You will get yourself back man, you have already made the first step.

 

Let's all try to stop blaming the "Western sexualized culture" as the root of the demons we all carry. the Middle East takes the opposite approach by killing all the homosexuals and dressing the women up to where they only see their eyes out in public and I wouldn't call living there being all smiling with kittens and rainbows either.

 

It definitely a major cause of our demons. I don't know what some ignorant war propaganda about the Middle East has to do with Western culture, though? I suppose with all the bombs our Western nations have dropped on the Middle East it probably isn't all kittens and rainbows.


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Let's all try to stop blaming Western culture. It's really cold in Antartica and Eskimos eat whales.

 

I agree. There are genuinely recognised conditions regarding gender and gender dysphoria. However, it could very well be that porn has played you like a damn fiddle for a very long time. If being sissy/dressing up is something you don't want to do, then know that you don't HAVE to do it. Know that you can be free from doing that.

I'll echo previous advice and say focus on getting rid of porn first before coming back to this issue.

 

And we're all innocent here in the west?! Stop being in denial, say the truth like it is. The west has enslaved, tortured, killed and continues to do those things. You're just biased. Travel, read, get out of your PC bubble.

 

Never said we were innocent, just tired of being the scapegoat country for people who justify their angry actions and in the same breathe are banging down the door to get here

 

It's really important that you start to understand your triggers. When do you feel the desire to dress-up? Why do you feel the desire to dress-up? What do you get out of dressing up, besides being sexually aroused?

It is also important to understand if dressing up and being feminized are directly connected to your sexual desire, ONLY, or if you feel that there is some "truth" in your dressing up. Is there some part of you (outside of your sexual self) that desires to embrace being more feminine? Ask yourself all of these questions when you are sexually aroused and ask yourself these questions when you are not sexually aroused. Compare the answers. There should be some clarity for you.

And remember that addiction is not necessarily about porn, sex, or masturbation. Addiction manifests itself in many ways.

Lastly, it is nearly impossible to just stop behaviors that have developed into addictions. What you want to do is WORK THROUGH the triggers and the behavioral patterns and find your truth.

Best of luck to you.

 

Hello from the Middle East! Can you take your western culture back please!

As I said in another thread you posted it is my opinion that the cross dressing is connected to your PMO addiction. In my view to stop one you have to stop the other, and if you go back to one you may easily go back to the other. If you are still unsure how you wish to proceed maybe try abstaining for a while (at least 90 days) and then if you still feel like wearing feminine clothes try it and see if it causes you to relapse. If it does then it's a strong sign that they are very interconnected and you have to get rid of both of them.

 

This. Good stuff. The important thing is to identify how you feel about it when not aroused (if you even manage to wear feminine clothes without getting aroused) and also after you O. After you O does it feel right? Does it feel wrong? Do you feel disgusted with yourself for doing such a thing? This should help you find your true opinion on the matter.

I have to say that as a religious person I don't advocate feminization whether it's purely addictive or even if it's not, but I'm not here to convert you, you have to find your own truth.