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Erection during Full body massage? Why did I feel embarrassed?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by BetterPerson, Apr 9, 2017.

  1. Apr 9, 2017 #1
    BetterPerson

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    Hello...

    I had my first massage last night by an Asian therapist which was in the same hotel I was stayin in, I never done massages in my whole life so she asked me to wear a disposable black underwear and to cover my whole body which unfortunately was so tied my package can be seen easily.
    Anyways she asked me to lay down on my stomach at first and everything was fine until after around 10 mins of massaging my back I got a strange half erection and didn't know how it happened or what to do about it so I left it as it is and I was praying to God she wouldn't ask me to turn over while I'm at that state until it goes back to normal... Then she asked me to turn around and boooom there it was.. Half erected, I had no choice but to do so to turn myself over and adjust myself down there by moving my underwater under the sheet right to left so she won't see it but all attempts to calm it down were failures... in the end it went back normal.
    My questions are: is this normal to happen? Did I do something wrong even though I had no bad intentions? Why do I still I feel embarrassed about it?
    Btw I'm almost 30 days clean with no PMO and already checked this everywhere and they all state it's pretty normal to happen due to relaxation but I can't help feeling so embarrassed. I have never been so exposed like this before to anyone in my life, maybe that's the issue?
     
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  2. Apr 9, 2017 #2
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    Yes.
    No.
    Cos you think you did something wrong. You even question this consciously. And it's conditioned in you pretty deep also unconsciously. Embarrassment is when we feel we have done something that we should have not, in relation to others. If you stop judging your body for doing something normal in a natural situation where it's to be expected, as well as stop blaming yourself about how it could be interpreted by your therapist, embarrassment will go away. You're not responsible for the feelings of others. Some random person on a street could get triggered by you having dreads or something for example, that's their problem.

    Get in tune with your body in relation to others. It's one thing to be comfortable naked when you are alone, but it's not the same. You need to train your brain to be open with it to others. Go to a nude beach. Go do a nude artistic photo shoot if you can afford it. Go initiate conversation with your fiends or family about sexual stuff. Get hard on another massage table and don't hide it. Actually call it out, make a joke about it. Go buy 50 Shades of Gray and read it in public place without hiding the cover (ok, maybe not, since it's porn, but you get my point). Embarrassment is a type of fear and the best way how to get rid of fear is to confront it, get comfortable with it.
     
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  3. Apr 9, 2017 #3
    Star Lord

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    The fact is the massage was relaxing, when we are relaxed we can sprout random erections unintentionally.

    The woman who massaged you really will have seen this happen many times before you, it's normal.

    No need to feel embarrassed or ashamed.

    A similar thing for women is when their nipples poke out from their clothing. They literally do not care, it sometimes even happens on TV.
     
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  4. Apr 9, 2017 #4
    BetterPerson

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    Thank you dude.
    You're right I guess I should embrace it rather then feel ashamed
    I'm a sensitive person and I get hard so easily to anything and been trying a lot to do something about it and I blamed myself for it... I guess I should accept my body and like the boners haha ( of course with certain limits )
     
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  5. Apr 10, 2017 #5
    J247

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    Maybe you have a small pecker? Say instead of putting a potato or a cucumber in your pants to make yourself look bigger, you use a tic tac?

    I'd be embarrrssed if that was my case.

    Also don't be. I asked my massage therapist if she's encountered stuff like that and she said more often than one would think. So you're good.
     
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  6. Apr 10, 2017 #6
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    Nah dude, she probably had an erection too. Completely normal.
     
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  7. Apr 11, 2017 #7
    Poseidon

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    This is why I would never date a massage therapist.
     
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  8. Feb 22, 2018 #8
    jamespattinson

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    It happens unintentionally so you need not to feel embarrassed when having the spa massage.
     
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