Fetishes

I wonder about this myself. I have some particular very specific scenarios that seem to overwhelm me everytime I think about them. It's almost like touching the Palantir.



I have to use much willpower not to indulge in these thoughts and I hope that after several months of abstaining from porn and masturbation this will have faded away at least for the most part.

 

I'm not worried about it, because my fetishes were totally detached from reality. I've experienced first-hand a fetish of mine that I liked in porn and happened IRL. It was... less than pleasurable...

Since I've stopped putting myself around any porn (let alone extreme porn), my fetishy thoughts have been decreasing. My last urges have been about stuff everyone else has urges for... which is promising. But of course, it's too early to see the long-term yet.

 

They'll go away. Remember, you're sick. When you're sick, you get better.
You'll have opinions on the past, but you can always redefine yourself.
You have the luxury of a mind that governs the body.

 

Hey guys. I have stumbled upon a fair few fetishes due to my porn addiction. We all know the story because we're in this thread. You want more an more and more. I'm actually no interested at all in getting rid of these fetishes. I do feel pretty bad after masturbating to them. But I'm recently married and have tried a few small things with my wife that I loved. I hope this isn't harmful to your way of thinking or your progress but I personally feel that there is nothing wrong with fetishes, it is jut a part of who you are and what you are. I am on NoFap to smash my porn and masturbation addiction but I still embrace my 'weirdness' or 'kinky ness'. Even the extreme ones (which by the wy my wife has a limit to what she finds interesting or sexy and what she feels is not for her, and I am happy to respect her limits).

 

I too have suffered from a lot of weird porn fetishes like public humiliation, sissyfication, forced feminisation, and way too much she male porn and JOI and i took in all that and my mind began to project it by dressing up like that as well, I was not gay and still loved women but i used to think i was transgender. I realised after staying away from porn and masturbation i was cross dressing only to make my masturbation experience better and since my shyness and inability to connect with girls was getting me fall apart. I decided to take crossressing very seriously and i would invest a great amount of time and money acting against who i was (male) and turning myself into a girl since i was very shy. I would get girls and they had to force me into bed when i was younger , and for the past ten years i completely stayed away from that because i was embarrassed of myself, and i was always shy still am ... i have to work that out.

Since we are talking here about whether or not these fetishes go away , in my case i had to figure out what it was i was running from or what the root of the porn addiction, and other sexual issues was. then the next step would be to figure out where you want to go .. and then how ... i am 2 weeks in and i still crave for she male porn and cross dressing. I have thought about really aligning my porn preference to what i actually like (women) but i really don't want to take that chance before i do at least 100 days without porn or masturbation and reap the benefits of not over indulging in ones sexuality. (i ve to point out that i only cross dress while i watch porn to masturbate after that i really don't care and move on) But since i would do a lot of prepping for the dressing up, wearing makeup, shaving (sorry about all this details but yeah this is a place to express and learn and move on) It would be a real hard wank and after that its just really a hard fall and now these days i am constantly thinking of it. at least before when i thought about it i would do it and move on. But now its always there .. i know it will go away and i have to be strong.

I realised earlier today that i never really wanted to be a women (a real women) dressing up in panty hose and slutty clothes hardly qualifies as being a woman. And have since also began to see how transexual and she male porn actually leads to objectifying transgender women with some correlation to women as well. and like prominent said WE are SICK ... but we are no doubt on our path towards finding a cure . take care.

 

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My fetishes haven't exactly gone away, but they no longer have any power over me. I don't think about them or even find them interesting any more. That took a long time for me (months). But I don't think they're totally gone in that I am certain they would re-install themselves within a few hours of heavy porn use. But I'm never going to do that again; not ever.

So yes, they go away in all the ways that are important; at least they did for me.

 

Whatever fetishes I had, I reenacted in real life. Thankfully I did not have anything too crazy in mind, or illegal for that matter. Without going into too many details, some of them I actually enjoyed, and some of them I did not.

The ones I enjoyed are going to stay in RL. The ones I did not... I am not crazy about them no more, so they wont stay.

 

I watched alot of really sick femdom stuff when I was seriously addicted to porn. But the truth is I actually enjoy strong & confident women in real life interactions without the sick S&M aspects. Just being courteous and kind to women satisfies me now. Porn just took my slighty submissive nature towards women to very depraved and sick levels.

 

Wow!! Thanks for all your experiences. Blindwilliejohn thank you especially. Your addiction spilling into your real life is something far beyond what I thought about, really helps me realise everyone is different and how serious this addiction is!! Rival I think me and you are on the same page. Im sure we are all able to overcome and/or accept whatever it is we are fighting for.

 

yes dkid13 .. the cross dressing and she male stuff spilling into my real life had a profound impact on how quickly i ran away and lost all of my friends. as you can imagine people say a lot of things on a daily basis calling people fag or making fun of cross dressers etc. I have always taking all that to heart and all through my school and college even though i was very popular and had lot of fun. It just completely ruined who i was in real life and the image i projected out in school and college. I don't regret anything nor do i feel i have wasted time, its a good learning opportunity even though it has shattered my soul.

During the last few days after a considerable amount of contemplation i have realised we need to really harness all of your male energy, since i have ventured out exploring the female energies ( i do have to point out that it wasn't real women energy more like slutty energy because i dressed up like a porn star mostly ). SO i have to accept that my life literally collapsed rotating around the three points of porn addiction, masturbation and the dressing up. Accepting the cross dressing side and asking myself if i really wanted to be a women .. i know the answer was NO. because really if i wanted to be a women i would dress up in more dignified, classy and elegant clothes rather my problem was something that was a result of my objectification of women and how i ended up wanting to live up to that.

Yes we have to fight this urge for the sake of a stronger spiritual life in order to live a life of happiness, peace and a control of desires. I hope and say a silent prayer for all thats fighting with the intention of gaining a better understanding of their sleeves, wanting to rise above and be the best they are capable of being.

takecare . dkid13 . Hope you re doing well on your journey.

 

In my past noPMO journeys I've noticed that my fetish interests have significantly decreased, and that I was simply more interested in regular women. I also found some of my old fetishes slightly revolting (I sometimes thought "wtf was I fapping to?!"). However, at some point I relapsed, and I kept relapsing. When that happened, I first started watching very vanilla pr0n. Eventually I went back to my old fetishes and didn't find them revolting anymore.

I think noPMO will eventually reduce your fetishes to a very low degree and it'll pretty much go away if stick to noPMO.

I'm back on track in noPMO since my relapse days, which was before 2 weeks ago. I've noticed my fetishes going down and simply getting attracted to normal women once again, and that's the way it should be, and hopefully it will stay this way.

 

I actually got into PMO because I already had a fetish and didn't know what a fetish was, so I started googling it and BOOM. So I'm kinda doubting that it will go away even if I can make it a good ways without fapping to it. But that might be an unusual case. And it will be interesting to monitor.

 

I must have aquired about 20 fetishes from watching P.

I will be happy when i am rid of all of them. Some of them aren't so bad an dif practiced with a loving partner who shares the same, it would be nice and i wouldn't feel guilty. But when you fap to them or use a sex worker, it makes you feel sick all over.

I have had an obsession with P for more than half my life. Since i was a kid basically, well 13 anyway. I feel like a victim, actually. Governements should ban this stuff. But i am now a sex maniac and i feel like a horrible human being.

 

I have a sexual fetish that pre-dated my use of porn by many years. Even though I have rebooted, my fetish remains and I expect it always will.

 

cheers aaron

 

Same here. But it's strange and i've always wondered why I have it. I remember that when I first started to seek P, i tried to found pics which included that fetish which is women's leather clothing.

I'm not sure if I have a problem with it or not. I never tell about it to others and I think it's somehow shameful thing. And sometimes I'm interested in a woman only because she wears leather. I'm quite confused with that.

 

Thanks for that. I needed to hear from someone these cravings diminish.

 

My fetishes developed before porn but since I acted them out in role play they have lost their appeal in all ways.