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do everything except fapping

 

SHIT!!! I failed yesterday.. I was super confident im never going to Fap again, but I went to party and did some drugs and the day after I went crazy and fapped three times! FUCK!!! So starting from Day 1 again now ...

 

relax, just observe your breath for 10 to 15 minutes when urges are there

 

Addictions go together. Drigs do not help, your body and your brain need to be cleaned up totally! Be strong and back on the tracks with us!

 

Day 90. I made it, I made it! Great!

I made it, so can you!

Here's my story. I had been hooked to P for more than 20 years, and my sexual life was a complete mess. I had PIED and suffered gay HOCD, I even acted out, and I was so confused. I didn't dare date a girl for many years. I felt old (I'm 37), and that it was too late for me to change. Right now, I can assure you those issues are over. I still get urges (but very weak, and only from time to time, and I can control them without problems; they are getting weaker and weaker, I bet they'll fade away soon), my erections are the best ones of my life, and I overcomed gay HOCD (I'm straight).

This week I'm meeting a girl just for coffee. Let's see if it works. The important thing is I'm back in the game, and feeling more powerful than ever. I got the control of my life back.

I didn't know P could be so harmful. A year ago I realized I had a problem with it. It controlled me, specially sex chatting. I tried to quit on my own, with half-heartedly efforts. I noticed the withdrawals, and I knew my problem was huge. I was like an alcoholic.

I read 3 books that were very helpful: "Breaking the Cycle", by George N. Collins, "The Porn Trap", by Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz, and "Your Brain on Porn", by Gary Wilson. I recommend all of them. There is little overlapping, and you'll learn a big deal. You are sick, now you just need to get cured.

This article helped a lot: http://healthysex.com/self-help-articles/the-maltz-hierarchy-of-sexual-interaction/. It's by Wendi Maltz, and it tells you what you need to look for in sex. Sex has to be something spiritual, that makes you whole, not a compulsion.

Last september I joined in here. I couldn't do it on my own, but I thought that posting here would make me take the challenge more seriously. I kept trying things, until I finally found what worked for me. But the most important thing was I was determined to beat this shit, no matter what.

I got and P-blocker (Qustodio), I got an AP, I paid a monthly fee to be here (it forced me to take it seriously, because the longer I stayed here, the more I paid). If those things fail, I would try NoFap Academy (https://www.nofapacademy.com/), and then, Compulsion Solutions (http://compulsionsolutions.com/sex-and-porn-addicts/). But I didn't need those two.

I realized I couldn't cope with all the challenges, so I divided them and tackled one at a time. I needed to reached day 90 of no P, and if I relapsed with sex chatting, it didn't matter. I reached that day, and I tackled sex chatting. That was my real challenge. I haven't watch any P for more than 5 month, and I don't miss it. Day 90 is for sex chatting (hooked for almost 15 years).

I couldn't beat the urges with willpower, so I used hypnosis. I'm a huge fan of hypnosis. I used https://hypnosis.wendi.com/collecti...-porn-addiction-hypnosis-mp3-by-wendi-friesen and http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/hypnosis-packs/sex-obsession. They made the urges manageable.

I found a helpful course on Spotify: The Mindful Habit System.

To beat the intrusive thoughts, when I masturbated (once a week or so), lying in bed, I thought of the girl I'm meeting this week, making love to her. If anything similar to P cropped up in my mind, I'd let the thought go, and begin again.

This challenge is very hard. At the beginning was HELL. As much as I like NoFap, don't take it as a place to hang out, but a place that forces you to make it.

For your success, guys! Keep trying and trying, never giving up, and you'll be telling your success story soon.

 

Haha they sure dont help brother, im not addicted to drugs tho, I party very rarely but when I do drugs are always involved

 

That's awesome bro'! Well done! What about the 100 days now!
Excellent for your date! I am so glad!

 

Two days in. Been before too many times but it's a start.

 

It's 100 and beyond. I'll never look at P or a chat again. It's poison for me.

 

Back to day 2

 

Be carfully, with thinking, that you lost the interesting ->it can be very fast, that you want to PMO, and than it's important to be ready for this!

 

Relapsed again. I just realized something, I wans't even trying. 90% of quitting PMO is going through the time you get the urges. Whenever I got urges, I thought it was all over! And that 1 time won't hurt that much. And I was wrong!! Now, I will give it my all and get through the urges!! Theres no chance im giving up on quitting THIS addiction. I will quit this filthy stuff and live a better life!! Its not even healthy, even cavemen didn't do it once per day..I will quit this hazard this time for sure!! Mark my words..

 

This is so true. Thanks for mentioning it!

 

This video is exactly what you're talking about

 

i am joint too, i want change from this shit habbit.

 

ok, I join also. I'm new here, i've read all the introductions etc but i'm still kinda lost here. If someone could help me I will appreciate. thanks

 

yes of course we will help you, we are know brother in arms. just tell what kind problem you got??

 

ok, maybe my question is too infantile and general, but I only know that i want to stop it. How this forum can help me, what should i do?

 

simple thing not only you have a burden on your shoulder every one here get that burden on their shoulder. the second keep active in real world such socializa with your friend or if you are introvert you can make your post that keep your mind clear the third use your customization your strategy. honestly i am have problem like you, therefore i am little introvert (never thing i will open speech like this one in real world) that's my suggestion.

 

We can try to fight with this together, if you want of course