Incorrect Use of Sexual Energy

Since the start of my time here on the nofap forums, I've been amazed to find how many women suffer from porn addiction. I'd always just assumed it was a male issue.

Personally, I contribute the social anxiety I'd been suffering from for about a decade now to my heavy porn consumption and frequent MO. It was a double whammy of having a constantly depleted energy level due to ejaculating so much as well as having had acquired such a hypersexual brain tuning due to the constant exposure to sexual imagery. I couldn't figure out why everyone was getting so creeped out by me, but after about a month of noPMO, I'm getting a lot more respect from people. It seems like they feel as if they're able to relax more around me. They're able to trust me more as they can see that I'm more trusting of and confident in myself.

Perhaps that first factor of that double whammy that I'd described, the energy depletion, isn't so much of an issue for women. I'm confident that the second factor however, the constant exposure to sexual stimuli, is as problematic for women as it is for men.

 

Really good and insightful answer IMHO.
For me it wasn't porn, but sex chats and erotica but I think some of the effects are definitely the same. (And, yes, there are certainly women on NoFap who suffer/ed from porn addiction.)

No, I DID get energy depletion from it, and some other NoFap women I've talked to have said the same.
But also, YES, I don't know WHAT it IS about social anxiety but I really do feel like - male or female - there DOES seem to be a link between social anxiety and PMO addiction. I don't know WHICH one causes the other but for some of us there certainly seems to be a strong connection. Not just for the guys either and not ALL women but certainly some of us too seem to have this. Mine is not crippingly bad, but I'd include myself in that, in those who not only have a PMO addiction, but also have a society anxiety problem.
The sexual thing. Hmm. I have this issue - I mean, some women do anyway - of guys being TOO sexual around ME. Like I will dress modestly and act SO chaste and they will still get all sexual around me and it's like I have a face that to some guys might as well have a sign on it saying "sex". And BELIEVE ME it can get very annoying. When I want more than sex! But I have wondered that too if it is like a hypersexed vibe that is a result of the PMO addiction that they can pick up on. I'm NOT hypersexual, but the PMO addiction thing could be having that effect on guys (does that make sense?) So, I don't know if it's that but it's certainly possible that that's WHY I have that sexual vibe. Obviously sticking to NoFap is the only way to find out, really! The hypersexualized brain thing. More trusting and confident in myself and guys being able to relax more around me (gosh and ME being able to relax more around THEM! I mean I CAN, but I'm talking about guys I'm actually attracted to, that's when the social anxiety can kick in the worst.) So, you have definitely given me more reasons to keep going with NoFap. THANK YOU!

 

Interesting insights.

Obviously, you hear in the media these days about how women are so hypersexualized, and that's a real thing and is a topic worth discussing within our society. But when I was writing about hypersexualization I had more in mind the internal brain wiring aspect of it. Since you're always watching porn, your brain seems to think that it can expect to get action all over the place at all times of the day. So your brain's running on this turned on frequency, even when you're out doing platonic things like talking to a client, sitting down at thanksgiving dinner, or helping the old lady next door with her groceries. It's tough to describe cause its not like I'm walking around in these environments with a boner sticking up. I dunno, maybe the anxiety just stemmed from guilt... having something in the back of my mind wondering, "god, if they really knew how many hours I spent this afternoon on PornHub."

Now that I've gotten some distance from porn, I do feel like a much more stable individual. My sexuality is not something I want to abandon completely mind you. Just that I want there to be a proper time and place for it.

You'd described your experiences on how you felt that men would like, zoom in on you. You seemed to have felt as if they could sense that you were highly sexed and as a result got all excited and eager lol. Yeah, I can see how that would suck from a woman's perspective. Lol, kinda sounds like paradise from a man's point of view though. I wish the constant stimulation of my sex brain would result in a lady-tractor beam. Unfortunately, like I said before, it seemed to act more like lady-repellant, or even people-repellant for that matter.

 

I have wriggled my brain over what would the women's equivalent of semen retention be and what I have come to is the observation that I feel (from distant observation) that women populace show far lesser signs of apathy so maybe there is no equivalent, they don't drain reserves. On the flip side I think if they get addicted to day dreaming and imagining intimacy it can cause apathy, which for us noFap simply heals (really!! it throws you into reality with a tight slap) but for women the recovery is less straight forward.

Common observation - women are less about visual stimulation.

 

I know for ME it was less about visual in the sense that I never got into porn & found it boring - erotic stories & sex chat rooms were my downfall. On the other hand, some of the other NoFap women DID have porn addiction (so, visual?) whereas for me and a couple of us, it was porn subs instead.

I DO seem to feel a motivation drop following relapse and a rise in it and sometimes in energy during a streak.

But I don't know either.

 

male or female porn is bad for us. it exploits one of the most of pleasurable thing in the world and profit it from daily.